My Husband is such a Brat. He has just turned 30 and I am hoping that he will stop throwing temper tantrums. I can't drive and depend on him taking me places. When I have an appointment for example, I am always late but if it was for him we would be early. He hasn't spoke to me today because the petrol light came on this morning just as he was going out and apparently it is my fault. But that hasn't stopped him playing games on my Mobile all-day He finds any excuse for a fight. It is like living with another child. Does anyone else have a partner like mine or is mine just really slow at maturing? I have a disability and depend on him doing things for me that I can't, so I am stuck with him all the time.
2007-05-15 03:58:45 · 39 answers · asked by bluebinjulie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a reply to Ascoile: Who do you think you are? Degrading women and thinking of them as slaves. For your information my dinner was in the oven. What type of person are you? You have earned over 10,000 points in the last 5 weeks, have you nothing better to do with your time than speak down to women. Get a Life or a woman
2007-05-15 06:50:23 · update #1
its said that a mens brain is 4 yrs behind ours.
you sound unhappy i yhink you need to sit down and have a chat with him and explain how you feel? otherwise you will be stuck with his behaviour
2007-05-15 04:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i totally sympathise with u.... i often tell my partner that it's as though i have 2 kids, not just one. it seems like several times a week i have to tell him off for stropping, and i have to remind him that he's the 32 year old, and our son is the 4 year old... and he is the world's best sulker.... if anything doesn't go his way, or if our son does something he doesn't like, he sees it as a personal insult..... i would have loved to have had another child, but i've deliberately chosen not to as i know that i wouldn't get the emotional support that i would need from him.
i guess all guys are different - some are worse than others... but in my experience (4 serious relationships), most men have a Peter Pan complex (the boy who never grew up). all u can do is try to let off steam to friends and family, and take comfort in the knowledge that there are loads more women out there who suffer the same things as u !
2007-05-15 04:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun i would go with the majority on this MEN DO NOT GROW UP EVER in any way shape or form my hubby still a big kid at 40 though in a fun way i have to say your other half sounds a little "mean" and a bit of a spoilt brat who should respect his woman, good luck i hope you resolve the problem.
2007-05-15 08:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, am I glad I can drive. You just made me realize that being able to do that for myself has been my biggest life-saver, because my husband is the same as yours. How can the petrol light coming on be your fault?!! He takes the drivers seat and should pay attention. God knows if you mentioned anything about the gages he might have another fit and call you a side-seat driver.
Have you checked out public transport at all? I know it can be difficult to organise, but is a god-send when it's all set up and you know every possible way to get around to where you need to go. As slow as buses, trains and subways are, sounds quicker than your hubby will ever be!
2007-05-15 04:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It usually take some life altering event to make them change. My husbands father passed away and all of these behaviors halted.
I would suggest having a sit down discussion (calmly) and let him know what has been bothering you, and let him do the same. You might be surprise on his view as well.
Hope this helps and good luck!
2007-05-15 04:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Flame 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do not grow up as a rule...and then they have a stroke or something like Alzheimers and then get worse.
If they are babies, they stay that way. Unless they have reason to change. It is true that all persons have to have REASON to change. Something to motivate them into changing, because it takes work to change the past and the habits, right?
So, my answer is NO. He will not grow up unless prodded into it.
I just divorced my baby after 25 years of rotten marriage...he is not so much a baby anymore, changed at around 45 i think. But he is still not supporting me, still using ME for things, still having temper fits but less often. Rants and raves still. I am glad I live separately and am now divorced...I dont have to put up with it anymore and can say get out!
Sandra
2007-05-15 04:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by None Compare 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
some people never mature, and the older a person gets the more set in their ways they are. so i wouldn't really count on him having a life altering change any time soon. didn't you realize that he was immature when you first met him? i mean i am sure he didn't just start acting this way over night. talk to him about the problem maybe there is a reason beyond immaturity that he is acting this way.
2007-05-15 04:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i had an ex like him....he was so petty..had to measure everything just to make sure that i didn't have more than him, he hates sharing his cigarettes and used to count them, if there was one missing, there'd be hell to pay... whined about stupid things like the wrong CD in the wrong case...i could go on and on, they throw hissy fits for no reason at all and always blame us, but if he was at fault then he's strongly deny it and sulk for a whole day....i didn't mind that because at least i didn't have to look at his sour face or listen to his moaning, so it as peace for me....the man i am with now is kinda laid back so nothing really bothers him....my advice to you is...learn how to drive so you don't have to put up with his niggling any more....sorry to say but your fella is a brat, he's acting very immature and seeks attention by going on one...just let him have is sulks, ignore him, that's what i did with my ex
2007-05-15 05:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately boys will always be young boys at heart, they all want to be mothered and unfortunately we do just that without realising, most of the time for a peaceful life, but we also secretly enjoy knowing that deep down they need to depend on us. your husband if not that different to most. good luck
2007-05-15 13:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by overworked mum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't, got fed up with mine and divorced him without telling him. Had him declared an unfit father in court without them even asking him, got sole custody of my son here and in the Dominican Republic. Think I've covered my bases (already had a pre nup) Bit of bad luck he's having hey!!!
2007-05-15 09:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , since he is your husband that you are committed to you have to love him the same way you did when you married him. Talk to him without going off and be very serious and compassionate . Work out your faults amongst one another . After all , you are his wife you should be able to talk to him about anything . Pet himup a little before the talk . Cook him his faves for dinner and his fave desert. If your disability doesn't allow you to do something go out to where yall first date was.
2007-05-15 04:05:07 · answer #11 · answered by Emmi H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋