How much do you guys REALLY care about your step kids? Especially boys,and what if you happen to have one of your own with the woman that has brought a little boy into the marriage.?(The "father" of the child is not in the picture,meaning the kid doesnt know him).
2007-05-15 03:52:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have been a step-dad and by my step-children i have had grandchildren also. i have a son and two step-daughters. i taught my son everything because he has been with me since birth. i taught one of my step daughters how to read and much more(she was 11 when i became involved with her mother) i taught the other step-daughter how to drive(she was 15). the older step-daughter got married and had two beautiful boys.........Their mother and i ...........well I loved her like life itself but we were divorced in the past six months -----much of the reason being the problems that my son presented. I can tell you that I love my daughters every bit as much as I love my son and no grandchildren that my son can ever bring me will mean any more to me than than those brought to me by my older daughter. I have not seen my daughters since my divorce from their mother-----nor my grandsons. Losing my wife was completely devestating but losing my girls and my grandsons----------its a loss that can never be taken away--------nothingcan ever make up for it---my son is with me and i thank God for that and I know that I can love another woman--------sometime--but nothing-----NOTHING-----can ever ease the pain of losing your children. Step-children--NO--LOVED CHILDREN. ALL OF THEM. the age of the children may have a bearing on how close you become with them but ......being with them and helping to raise them..........YES---you love them----as you would your own.
2007-05-16 13:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by say what? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think seriously if a Real father is NOT in the picture of a childs life where the mother has remarried and another man is raising them I think the step-dad should adopt them and the child should have his last name, most women won't do it because they like the CASH ( child support) but IF I were the step-dad and I was raising a child I would want the child to tak on my name..My step-dad raised us he also adopted us and we all have his last name..my mom did not care about the money she cared about whats best for that child when a parent is not at all in their life..
2007-05-15 10:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by Gina 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My step father adopted me when I was 12. I was treated no differently than his biological children, they also had a son together. Even though we pick because my brother is the baby and we think he gets special treatment lol we all know we are treated equally and many times I get on better with my Dad than his 2 bio kids
2007-05-15 11:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by glbenner 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to that depends on the type of man he is. If he's a gentleman and genuinely cares about his family/friends etc he's going to care about his stepkids. If the real father is not in the picture; that right now can't be resolved. That's entirely different issue alone.
2007-05-15 11:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay im not a step dad..but i am a step daughter. I find that my step father does care about me, but not as much as he cares for his own kids which is natural i suppose..For example i am not really treated the same as his other kids somehow, i.e stuff he would do for them, he wouldnt do all of that for me. For example i need braces and he said no let ur father pay for it but my father doesnt have the money..?
so yeah i hope that answers your question.
but who knows, not all step father are the same.
2007-05-15 11:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have an eight year old step son and the only time I refer to him as a step son is in a conversation like this one. I do not introduce him as my step son, just as my son, I call him son, I love him just like he was my blood and as far as he and I are concerned, he is. His dad is around and gets him 1/2 the time and we get along, but that changes nothing as far as how I treat him, love him and raise him. I would give my life for him just like I would my girls.
2007-05-15 11:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If one can love a dog why not a step child.
2007-05-15 11:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child is always innocent,I always regard kids require love and guidance.There should be no difference it how you accept them. There are exception,but the duty is to see to their needs.
2007-05-15 11:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Gew 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My step dad treats me like I was his own. Actually he treats me better. They use him and I don't.
2007-05-15 10:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋