He has had anger and addiction problems for years...he has made my life difficult. Recently we had an argument that resulted in my broken nose...court is coming up and if he is convicted, he will violate his probation and be gone for 2 to 5! he is blaming me...and inside I'm happy he's almost gone. My children are hurting though and I feel guilty..I threw the first blow.
2007-05-15 03:26:59 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Abuse of any type is never OK. I understand that you've probably put up with a lot from your husband, but it's still not right that you hit him. Two wrongs never make anything right. I feel for your children.
2007-05-15 03:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by sassysusie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need some good counseling - Your kids too.
1. Feeling guilty about feeling happy that this guy is leaving.
2. Why you are/were attracted to this kind of man in the first place.
3. Why you are willing to put up with his behavior for so long.
4. How you can get through all this mess - it won't be easy.
5. Finding out that you're worthy of being treated well.
Follow your lawyer's advice - get the restraining order, keep him away. Don't antagonize or tease him in any way. He's a vicious man and he'll probably hurt you - or kill you.
2007-05-15 03:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well baby. Some people aren't like this. You probably were never like this until you married him. He has turned you into this person that you do not like. Once he is gone you can divorce him while he is in jail and take everything that yall own. Well atleast in FL. But you might want to get an attorney and get a job (if you don't already have one). You are happy that he is going because you can do as you please and don't have to worry about all the fussing and arguing. Keep your children away from that. Believe is or not children will grow up and do the same things that their parents do because they think it's ok, but really it's not.
2007-05-15 03:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why u would be happy to have him gone. Ofcourse hes going to blame u ppl like that hardly accept blame. Im sorry that ur kids are caught in the middle of it. Maybe him going away will be good for him and will force him to do some kind of anger therapy and such doesnt mean to forgive him and get back together with him just so he doesnt do it the next woman.
2007-05-15 03:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to mention in the court you made the first blow otherwise if he gets 2-5 years, this might ride on your conscience forever and make you feel guilty. Just tell the truth and you will feel better about it. Do it for your children!!
2007-05-15 03:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by 24Special 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is the matter with you? Do you realize the example you are setting for the kids? A broken nose is not an "arguement" it is assault.
You hit him first? Why would you do that?
If you can't live together and act right while you raise your family then you should not be together.
I feel sorry for the kids. They will grow up thinking that is what a marriage should be. Why would you do that to them?
2007-05-15 03:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by Collette L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an episode of Cops, trailer park edition.
Seriously though the only people in this situation I feel sorry for is the kids. They have most likely grown up witnessing their parents commit physical and emotional abuse against each other (and most likely towards them as well). If you are any kind of mother you will have that POS thrown in jail and then move as far away as possible so that these kids can have some shot at not growing up to be strippers and /or criminals!
2007-05-15 03:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You may have every reason to be happy about this. He won't be able to hurt you or your kids for a while. However since you threw the first punch you may have issues that you need to deal with, and they will come out in the trial. Get help now so you won't lose your children.
2007-05-15 03:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
April Rain, that is so, so sad. How very unfortunate for both of you, and how tragic for the children. There are times in our lives when we are beset with difficulties and doubts, and all we can do is endure them and know a better day is coming. I hope that better day comes for you soon. You will be in my thoughts.
2007-05-15 06:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel guilty. In my opinion you did the right thing. The physical abuse that he has heap upon you takes its toll. The children will eventually be okay. You just have to talk to them and be honest with them and let you know that you love them and let them know its not their fault.
2007-05-15 03:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by soulsearcherofthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, looks like you like the courts know genuinely what is in the best interest of the children, or do you?
2007-05-15 06:32:58 · answer #11 · answered by atayrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋