He has a warrant, and suspended license, lives in another state. If he is picked up they will bring him back here. Our children are suppose to go see him this summer. If he gets picked up while the kids are in his care, I am afraid I might either get a call from foster care people or I will have to somehow come up with the money to go and get them. Any input would be helpful.
2007-05-15 03:04:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His warrant is for child support, he lives in Florida i live in Michigan. I am ordered by the court to have them go for summer visitation. I just wanted to know if I should take the chance of being in contempt of court myself.
2007-05-15 04:00:14 · update #1
i would tell him that once he takes care of his warrant the children will be able to go see him. If he would get picked up while the children are in his care they will look at you like a bad mom knowing he had a warrant and sending your children with him. You dont need the kids to see him get arrested and they dont need the experiance of being taken away and having to wait for you to come rescue them,. I would tell him get it taken care of then the children can come see you . There saftey is the first thing you should be thinking about. Who is to say if they go with him and the cops close in on him that he wont take off with them. People do desperate things when they are backed into a wall. BE CAREFUL.
2007-05-15 03:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by superthunda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts?? Turn your kids over to some one who has a suspended lances and has a warrant to boot? I don't care if he is your EX!! Driving on a suspended license Is against the law!! Tell him if he wants them this summer he is going to have to come pick them up by bus. If you allow your children to go with him BY CAR, Into another state,That can be considered child endangerment. Then YOU will lose custody of your children, And they will be placed into a foster home. Is it worth the risk? And if he is arrested in the other state,Who is going to take care of your children? The state? Sure they will, And charge you for it to,Until you pick them up. You know in your heart what the right thing is,So do it!! Tell him to get this resolved BEFORE the kids come to visit. Either that or explain it to the judge why they won't be able to see their father..I wish you the best of luck..
2007-05-15 03:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he has a warrant out for his arrest, then why would send your children with him. Only to get a call to come pick-up your children.
Me personally I wouldn't sent my children over to his house instead I would send the police. That will teach his butt to break the law and the go on the run, as if
Update***
Let's see, held in contempt or the safety of my children. Ding, ding, the safety of my children out ways the contempt of court. And if you are held in contempt of court, the judge will ask you why didn't send the children to their father's house as order. This will be your opportunity to tell the judge that he has a warrant for his arrest and you did not feel comfortable sending the children to his house until his issues with the courts have been resolved.
2007-05-15 03:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he gets picked up while your children are with him, they will take the kids from him. You might get a call that day it might take a few days, I think it is too risky for you to allow your children to go with him.
Someone I know was supposed to send her kids off with her ex (that had a warrant) but instead of the kid being ready when the ex got there she had a police officer hidden in her neighborhood in an unmarked car ready to take the ex to jail. The ex went to jail and the kids were safe with her.
I think your children's father should handle his legal matters before he brings the kids into a potential messy situation.
2007-05-15 03:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has a warrant in the state you live in, and he lives in another, unless it is for something big, they will not extradite him back to your state. It costs your city to much money to travel that far over a failure to appear for DUS. What they do is wait to catch him when he passes back through. They will not watch for him. But, if he is pulled over, they will check for outstanding warrants. If he is flagged, they will take him to jail. He can post bond. And wait for his hearing date. Or they will keep him until his hearing. If that happens while he has the children, you will be notified to go and pick up your children. If there are family where he is at, you can allow them to keep them until you can pick them up.
He will at some point have to deal with his charges. If you do not feel comfortable letting your children go, refuse the visits until he has taken care of things. Seeing Daddy hauled off to jail can be very traumatic for your children.
2007-05-15 03:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being a responsible parent if you knowingly send your kids to someone who is wanted by the police. Yes, they will make it an issue about your kids if they find out and also, if you know the location of someone who is wanted by the police and you don't say anything...You can be found guilty as well for harboring someone with a warrant.
2007-05-15 03:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are the kids supposed to see a man wanted by the police this summer?? Hun, if he has a warrant for his arrest, I wouldn't be placing my children anywhere near him, father or not! That's just irresponsible parenting and asking for trouble.
2007-05-15 03:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by margiems78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. He needs to get his affairs straight. They don't take away your driving privilages for no reason. Usually it's either a drunk driving incident or a lot of traffic violations.
If it is a judge ordered visitation you need to get back to the judge and get it recinded.
If he really loved his kids, he would do what it takes so he can be near them again without fear of being picked up and sent to jail. Not living in another state to avoid prosecution.
He made his choices. What he thought was best for him without concidering the kids. Your decision has to be what is REALLY best for the kids. I don't think a criminal father is good for them.
2007-05-15 03:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your lawyer or call the county office that manages children of divorced parents rights. You also need to be aware that if you know the whereabouts of someone with a warrant against him and you don't tell the authorities or if you hide the fact that you know you could be in trouble with the law yourself.
2007-05-15 03:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he shouldn't see them. I know that if he is arrested they will put them in foster care and what would that say for you as a mom? Do you really want to set that example that hey it's okay that dad is running from the law and look he still gets to take a break and see you? If he is in trouble you should tell him to turn himself in, do his damn time, and then when he gets out get a job and that is when you will let him see those kids.
2007-05-15 03:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋