I've dated my boyfriend for three years. We live together and are about to move to a new place in a month. He says that I'm the one for him, and I believe he's the one for me, but how long is too long to wait for marriage?
2007-05-15 02:46:30 · 13 answers · asked by karissamiles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How old are you?
I think 2-3 years is a great time. I just recently got engaged to my bf/fiance. We had been dating a bit over 2 years....I actually said to him "I'll give it 3 years, then I feel like if your not committed to me by then-i'll have to move on, I won't WANT to, but I think 3 yrs is enough time to know if you want to be with me or not"
He just laughed, little did I know he already had the ring!! :-)
2007-05-15 02:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? You live together and are not married? Why not? If you can explain that to me, then you can explain the same thing to yourself. THAT is the reason you are not married.
So now you know. Wait and wait and wait. Uh - oh, don't you think it's time for you to ask HIM to marry you?
Sheesh.
Sorry for my attitude. Truth is - there is no period too long to wait for marriage. Because no one ever has to get married. That's the point of living together.
You're waiting for a reason to propel you into marriage. You think living together proves something or gives you some insurance the marriage would be good. It doesn't. Actually, being in love with someone and pledging yourself to that person for life in front of the community and cementing ties legally and giving any future children legitimacy - that's the start of the reasons for getting married. And you can make that decision without ever living together.
2007-05-15 02:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've already waited too long. By the way, statistics show that couples who live together before marriage, for long periods of time, have a much higher rate of divorce than those who do not. It goes from around 50% all the way up to 85% ... so your marriage to this guy, unless things change, is almost certainly doomed.
2007-05-15 02:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-05 02:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating for three years is about right. If you are committed enough to live together, then you may as well get married. If he doesn't want to get married after three years (and living together), then he isn't the one for you.
2007-05-15 02:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait too long. He may be very comfortable with how things are and you are allowing it. You could talk to him about your feelings (if I'm the one for you, why don't we make the formal, legal commitment?). It sounds as though you are ready and he is not 100% there yet. Talk with him.
2007-05-15 04:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my boyfriend over three years and we live together, we love each other, but don't need a piece of paper to prove it, we don't have to be in a hurry to get a piece of paper.... a legal document does not signify love, it's how you feel in your heart.... Eventually we may get married, we may not, that doesn't matter. We love each other and that's what matters.
2007-05-15 02:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Three years isn't a long time. My future brother-in-law and his wife dated almost eight years before they got married.
2007-05-15 02:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it now. u both love each other. u know the love is real. do it now before he gets tired of waiting around for u to bring up the subject.
2007-05-15 03:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you ? I waited until I was 42.
2007-05-15 02:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by Ray2play 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋