Do other peoples loud children annoy you in public places?

Question

My grandchildren all have ADHD and can be very loud and annoying. There mum is always making excuses for them. How would you feel if they where running around and shouting near you?

Answer 1

Yes I do get annoyed when people dont control their children in public places. Certain cases are clearly excusable, however many parents deliberately turn a blind eye to what their children are doing, simply because they want a easy life for themselves. I cant stand it, when I go for a quite meal and some brat is running around your table, the parent says "Matthew, do sit down for mummy please or I will count to 10." The little s**t looks at the parent and carries on with what its doing. Or you get the couple that think their baby is so cute, they laugh and give you that nod that says they think its ok for their kid to be hanging its face over your table with two strings of green snot dripping down.

Answer 2

Sometimes, I think the diagnosis of ADHD could be cured with a good spanking! Parents wonder why their children are acting out and being unruly, it's because they lack any type of real discipline. But of course the doctors don't tell you that. Doctors have made syndromes for everything!

There are some true cases where children really do have ADHD and need medication but I find that most attention deficit children are really just discipline deficit.

Answer 3

It seems like I attract them! If I'm in a grocery store I try to get away from them. When Dinning out,I ask my server if they can do anything about it. Once I asked for the Manager and told him that if he didn't do something about it I would leave and never come back and tell all my friends. It worked. I got a dirty look from the parents as they left.... While in a shop I noticed this little boy(about 4) hitting his Mother. I got sick of hearing Mommy wine, "Stop that." so I walked up to him and told him if he were mine I would spake him. Then I walked to counter and put down the things I was going to buy(About 5 things) and informed the sales lady that I would have gotten these and a few more. But I would come back later. It was a small shop and I know she heard what was going on.

Answer 4

I probably wouldn't like it too well but I do have pretty high tolerance. It really does depend on how the parent is acting. If i can see they are trying to maintain control and that they are NOT yelling at the kids I don't mind as much. I gained a whole new respect for kids with ADHD when and similar disabilites my daughter's friends' son was diagonsed with Asberger's. He appears to have ADHD but it is really a form of autism. Some kids just cannot help it.

Answer 5

well to be very honest.i can't stand it when other people kids just run around and the mom just sits there and don't do nothing.i go to this shop sometimes and a lot of this arabic women take there kids shopping with them and they don't care they just let there kids scream and run all over the store.i think it reflects on parents how there children act in public.even though there young they can be discipline and thought to behave properly.but when the kids have some sort of problems they need some sort of medical attention.your the grandma maybe you should suggest to your daugther that she needs to take a good look at her children.if she loves this kids tell her to get some help.there are ways to get help.i'm a mom too and no ones perfect but when it comes to our children you want them to be the best and well behave.i know a lot of people have that i don't care attitude.it's not right.and yes it's very annoying and irritating to listen to.

Answer 6

Loud children do annoy me. And sometimes I feel like saying a child has ADHD is just an excuse for children who don't get enough discipline and stimulation. My aunt was convinced that her son had ADHD because he was all over the place. But she never gave him any rules, she never got him into sports, she didn't help him with his homework...he was just bored...

Answer 7

honestly? they irritate the hellout of me. Funny you should mention it as Im just back from having lunch in a restaurant where, at the table next to us - the children were out of control - screaming and shouting and running around the place - whilst their parents turned a blind eye and did nothing to control them.
You say your daughter makes excuses - well therefore it sounds like she at least is concious of the fact they are loud - and I think that that is more acceptable - as its not a case of her not caring that they are loud and annoying.

I dont have children myself but if I did I would certainly not allow them to run riot and scream at the tops of their voices whilst I sat chatting with my back to them.

Another thing which I find quite unfair about parents that allow their children to carry on in this manner is an example brought up by my sister - who has two children. I often offer to babysit to allow her husband and her to have a break - but often they come home with headaches due to having gone to a pub/restaurant/etc where there were loud children - as she points out - i babysit for her so they can have a break from children - and the last thing they want is to have to endure the noise etc that they were supposedly taking a break from!

Im not criticising your grandchildren as I realise that AHD can be a very distressing condition to have - for both the children and their parents - but under normal circumstances - mainly where parents are neglecting to bring their children under good behaviour - then YES it does irritate the hell out of me.
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Answer 8

I really hate badly behaved children and there is no excuse, just lazy parents who can't be bothered to teach their children good manners. No wonder kids grow up with no respect for their elders. I've got a 9 year old daughter who is always well behaved and polite, i never have to shout at her or discipline her as i taught her good manners from an early age.

Answer 9

My 2 y/o son turn's into a maniac the second we get into the store. It doesnt bother me as long as he remain's by me. Kid's screaming and carring on in store's dont bother me. Maybe because my son is the same way and if they arent hurting anyone then I guess they are having a good time. Im not talking about behavior wise. Now I get annoyed when children are crying over a toy. I hate that. My son doesnt dare to take it there.

Answer 10

I do hate those kinds of kids. Don't people teach their children manners anymore? If I had carried on the way some of these kids do nowadays when I was little, I would've gotten my butt beat black and blue right there in whatever public place I was in! And what do these kids today get? Time out. Wow. No wonder the world is like it is.