Help me out in solving some typical high-school problems?

Question

Hello everyone.
I'm a 15-years-old high school student, interested in science and politics. I don't like doing crazy stuff, yelling, screaming, drinking, smoking, cursing, going to bars and clubs. I prefer mathematics, serious discussions, chess etc.

The problem is... the majority of kids at my school are just not very ambitious -- they think that I'm strange because I'm not one of them. They are always the first ones to do stupid things.

Sometimes they make jokes about me and it hurts. I pretend like I don't hear, but actually, it hurts pretty much.

Also, I'm not a stereotypical "nerd". I'm pretty wealthy, handsome and girls like to flirt with me, give me some compliments, smile, etc. I'm glad because of that, but I don't wanna girlfriend yet, because I didn't find the real one yet.

I don't wanna have a girlfriend just for the sake of not being strange -- I don't want to be with some girl just because of someone's expectations. Is it OK? Am I going to be a fine young man one day?

Answer 1

You are fine,Keep your head up..
You'll fine many fine young fellows like yourself..
Being "You"would take you more places,+I think you are doing great,you should read Books by Dale Careniege to help you with public dealing
Try how to win friends and influence people
you are fine the way you are ..expand your knowledge by reading about Stuff like religion and stufff too..(try google or www.irf.net
If you wana read about comparative religion,reading about it and learning about it makes you more confident

Answer 2

The things people say at highschool that hurt often seem meaningless when you get older.

The reason is that when you are young you are trying to define who you are. You are not sure what really matters.

It is a sad state of education in western countries that knowledge and learning is often seen as a negative thing. It is cool not to learn (rather than be stupid, it is a deliberate attempt not to be involved in the education process).

If you can define your own life and goals you will probably turn out fine. Don't defy other people, but make up your own mind to do things.

It is good to go out on some dates, meet some girls and get some practice for when you meet the right girl.

Try some crazy things, for the experience.

But concentrate on what you value. When you get to university you will find there are many more people like you (though some are simply pretentious twits).

Answer 3

You are doing well if all this is true. Dont let the peanut Gallery bring you down. Live your life to the fullest. High School is socially challenging yet its a necessary stepping stone in life. I was the same way in high school. I stuck with my books and i got called Nerd and whatnot. I never let it bother me. Now im 23, married to my high school sweetheart and whenever i go back home, the same people that used to pick on me are still there not doing a thing with their life. Its ok to have a girlfriend. In fact, it'll help you get your mind off of the peanut gallery. Just dont stray away from those books. Your grades will be what seperates you from the others.

Answer 4

You're on the right track.

High school, to a lot of kids, is more of a social affair than a serious undertaking. If you think in terms of how long you have in the years of preparing for adult life compared to your life expectancy, your school years are a relatively short time to gather the skills necessary to become a productive member of society. Once your become a skilled adult, you'll have plenty of time for the socializing. Much of which will be with like-minded adults.

My advice is to remain focused on your objectives. Your overall success in life is in direct relation to the dedication you maintain in the pursuit of your dreams.

Of course it hurts to be made fun of. That is a common feeling throughout your life. What's important in how happy your are with yourself and how satisfied you will feel achieving your goals.

Believe me, those students that are making fun of you now, will be the same adults that a jealous of your success in the future.

Stay the course!

Answer 5

You are a very remarkable young man! I am so happy there are still people like you in high schools. It seems tough now, but you are going to LOVE college. All the problems you're experiencing now just kind of disappear and you'll be highly praised for your mind and ambitions. And one day, you will be 20x more successful than all those people. So don't sweat it too hard and just wait.

Answer 6

Don't worry about it. Some of those other kids will end up washing your car someday. Everyone gets picked on in school at one time or another. Hopefully you'll stay well adjusted enough to deal with it and not end up going postal.
Going to bars and clubs though? That line seems to have blown your cover.

Answer 7

i like you. i despise all the teenagers who think, drinking, having sex so young is "in" and everyone is doing it. i know how you would be feeling but don't let it get to you.

Your only being effected by this cos your letting it get to you. its good to be different. be your own person. don't feel pressured in being something your not or doing something you don't want to. have your own strong mind.

and yes, you are going to be a fine young man one day cos you right now, have all your priorities in the right place and your the first person in America iv met thats actually smart. well done.

(I'm British by the way)

Answer 8

from what it sounds like, you are already a fine young man.
you have ambitions and you aren't willing to give in to the peer pressure and society around you.
You are going to be just fine.
Don't worry about those kids, lemme tell you, it'll get you nowhere.
I am also 15 and i feel exactly like you.
We just gotta learn to deal.
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Sam*