Ok so I've been sleeping with a friend of mine for a few months now. He's a marine, seperated, and has a 5 months old with his ex. He's also a complete ******. Part of his charm :-) Problem is that I just found out I'm preganant. He's the only guy I've been sleeping with, so I know it's his. Any advise as to how I should handle this situation? We're good friends, and we've never had a problem talking about stuff, but this just seems impossible to discuss.....
2007-05-15 01:48:40 · 12 answers · asked by Jessie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
That's a tough one. Since he is in the service and still married, this could and probably will cause a HUGE problem with his career. You have to be very careful with this one. But, you DO need to just come out and tell him, and then the two of you will go from there.
2007-05-15 01:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. you will get one of two responces:
1) He will completely cut himself off from you letting you know that he didn't expect for this to happen (reason #22 why condoms were invented) and that he's not ready to take up the responsibilities that he now has or..
2)He will do the right thing and either take care of you and the baby in some shape form or fashion. Hey you might even be looking at marriage (Good luck with that)
But dont wait until the baby is born. I know this is kinda a cruel thing to say (and i dont agree with it at all) but its still an option. if you are not ready, or capable of taking care of the child yourself then theres always that greusome plan B.
2007-05-15 02:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Splackevellie112 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oops. You are going to have to be honest with him. Because it was casual sex, and you both (hopefully) knew the risks it should be a shared responsibility. However with him being an "******" and still legaly married with a child, you are also going to have to be prepared to go it alone. I would give him the option of being as involved or uninvolved as he wants to be. He will either step up or back off, but he would do one of these things anyway. By giving him the option it might make the convo go smoother. If you need financial support make it clear that you are giving him the option of being involved or not emotionally and physiaclly, not financially. Child support is a result of "friends with benefits." and like I said...you both knew the risks..
2007-05-15 07:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by **0_o** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops! I take it this wasn't planned?
It's difficult to discuss because you've been 'FWB', therefore the relationship been based mainly on a physical aspect as a pose to a mental aspect.
However, the situation has changed and you need to sit down with him to discuss the future & what you both want.
Do this now rather than later to leave you time to go over your options.
Good luck!
2007-05-15 02:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine Wheel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him face to face and provide proof. You've known him for a while and you've been intimate with him so why is it difficult getting this type of important communication going? You say he's an ****** so expect him to act as just that. He needs to know and you need to figure out if he will be willing to help you and his current wife, or just leave you in the wind. I do wish you you the best of luck.
2007-05-15 02:00:18 · answer #5 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you have to do is sit down relax him and tell him that you are pregnant and tell him not to get upset before he will get up and have a fit i am a guy i know what he will do!... anyway just say now dont get all hunky dory on yourself and just help me you got me pregnant and i need help he might have to help a 5 month old baby and its momma but now he has to help you!!! but be very polite and calm about it he will understand just tell him to think about it, that baby isn't coming anytime soon! right and if it is tell him ammediatly!!!
2007-05-15 01:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by stingray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to sit down and tell him. There isn't any other option. Asshole or not, he has a right to know.
2007-05-15 01:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by Who's sarcastic? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can now tell him that you are his friend with an extra benefit.
2007-05-15 02:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that now he is a friend with benefit AND responsibility. good luck
2007-05-15 02:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by parkerpixy84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and let him know what you two have created.
2007-05-15 01:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by Trinidy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋