Is it necessary for everyone to fall in love and find thier soulmates? Is it true that there is someone for everyone? I haven't met anyone who comes even close. Shud I just shut this chapter from my life or shud I believe that there is someone out there for me, and i am gonna meet him somday in my lifetime?
2007-05-15 01:38:25 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I gave up last year and never expected to find anybody in my life I had resided myself to the fact I was going to be single for the rest off my life.
Then earlier this year I met a fantastic women who has swept me off my feet, it is all scary but I am loving it and it has changed my view on many aspects off life.
Never give up, but stop looking so hard women can smell desperation and you are also bound to find something when you are not looking for it.
Good luck!
2007-05-15 01:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by Loader2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.
After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.
Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.
I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.
I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.
If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.
I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.
Love and blessings
Your brother
don
2007-05-15 03:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate the term "falling in love". there are 7 words for "love" in the greek language, and none of them mean "falling in love". Do we even have soulmates? what does soulmate even mean?! The main question here is "is there one specific person that we are predestined to be with forever?". I would have to think that the answer is no.
You say that you have never fallen in love with all the guys you have met. Think about it: How many guys do you know, compared to the billions of guys in the world? I believe that loving someone doesn't happen because it was fated to be so, but because you work at it. you may have feelings for someone, but he doesn't like you back. But two years down the line he does like you. If you give up two years ago then you will never know.
Basically i haven't really answered your question properly, but here's how i will sum it up in two words: keep trying!
2007-05-15 01:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Matt M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chapter of love you cannot open or close at will. There are things, however, that you can do to make it difficult or even impossible to find your soul mate. There are lot more possible soul mates for everyone in this world than anyone can ever reckon. But when you fall in love you have only one person in view and the rest come within that view and love - to love one person truly is to love all.
2007-05-15 02:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Shahid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not forget about falling in loved but don't make it your life's goal. You need to go out and experience life and become formed as a whole person, so that when you do meet the right person you can offer them more than a one dimensional person who needs them to exist. Get on with your journey, and fill your life with what you love and your love will come to you.
Please don't spend your life waiting for Prince Charming to rescue you, rescue yourself.
My mother always told me there is a lid for every pot. I like to believe that....I am a kook and I have been happily married for 20 yrs this year and we still share the interests that brought us together and added tons more.........
2007-05-15 02:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by penydred 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, forget it totally, because the harder you look for the right thing, the less chance of finding it you will have. Especially when it comes to love. In life we're all looking for the perfect partner. Well, we just don't live in a perfect world. See it this way, all our lives we look for this one particular person represented by an o-shape. However, all we have are triangular, rectangular, square, oval, etc. shapes, and our criteria of the o-shape fits nothing in our 'expected' personalities. Stop looking and you will find that soon enough love comes to you without your even having looked for it..
Michael
2007-05-15 05:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no soulmates..I used to wonder about this alot...u could say every relationship u have is your soulmate at the time...I've had the same dilemma as you & i;m beginning to forget about falling in love again....which is very sad for me...
I believe when i;m happy with myself & become the person I'm confident being & feel I love myself enough, then i meet the right person..just hope it's not too late by then!!
which makes me think maybe i shiuld just love myself right now as I am & accept I have faults etc...
don't give up on ur dreams.....
2007-05-15 02:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that although you shouldn't really actively go looking for love, a lot of the time it will find you.
Neither should you "shut this chapter from your life". Anyone in love will tell you that love is a beautiful part of life.
Some people are happy without a partner, depends on what you're like. So I wouldn't say it's necessary.
I dunno if theres someone for everyone but i think there's more than one person for everyone..... i think thats subtly different. Sort of.
2007-05-15 03:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by chili pepper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be time for you to forget the romantic part of love and concentrate on finding the right type of life partner... we unnecessarily get swept off in the romantic imagination... that doesn't alter a bit of the harsh dual reality... namely, the necessity of adjustment to partner on the one hand and the futility of living it all alone on the other.
In this context, you have to continue the search for a suitable partner.... and for God's sake, do not believe in fantassies such as made for each other, soulmate, providence etc.
BEST OF LUCK!!
2007-05-15 02:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by small 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not give up on love, you should just wait for it to come to you. If you keep expecting the next person to be the one it will not happen that way. Maybe your standards are too high, but how could anyone say someone's standards are too high. I mean you like what you like and if you don't have what you like you are really still unhappy with that person. TYhe person you are looking for maybe right there and you are to blind and caught up in falling in love.
2007-05-15 14:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by Chasity C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋