My name is Sylvia, and I am a 17yr female. Yesterady morning, I knocked on my Dad's door because I needed my shoes for school that I had left in there the night before. He was having sex with his fiance, however, it was so early so I thought he just didnt want to be bothered when he said "In a minute." I waited for another 5 and my bus was leaving. I knocked softly so as not to wake them and opened the door. I saw her butt naked on top of him and I said..."Dad?" They jerked away from the light of the door and I quickly closed the door and went to my room. A few minutes later, my dad walks in and throws my shoes on the floor, walks up to me and slaps me!! I'm practically an adult. Feel free to be critical. Was I more in the wrong? Did I deserve it?
2007-05-15 00:48:03 · 29 answers · asked by sylvia e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sylvia, I do not think the smack was appropriate nor necessary. I think a short discussion about knocking, etc was all that was needed.
I would suggest that since you are growing up I would apologize to him for assuming that it was okay to walk in.
Next time, find a different pair of shoes :-)
2007-05-15 00:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Honeyluv 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all why were your shoes in his bedroom..Secondly you said that you knocked and he said "in a minute"then you say you waited and knocked again quietly as not to wake them ,how would you wake them when he told you "in a minute" you knew they were up..Yes you were wrong to go in his bedroom and your shoes should not have been in there in the first place..What you should have done was knock again and said "dad I need my shoes"...The reason that he slapped you was wrong,although he probably slapped you because he was embarrassed..He should not have slapped you that was not the adult way to handle it, but parents are not perfect either..I suggest that from now on you stay out of your parents room and keep your belongings in your room..You say that you are practically an adult so you knew darn good and well what they were doing in there,but he still should not have slapped you..You were both wrong in the way it was handled.
2007-05-15 07:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fully understand you delema. When I was about your age I had friends over and the 4 of us were watching a movie and my dad and his girlfriend started doing the same thing. This only thing was that they were loud, I mean VERY LOUD. They knew we were there and I thought it was very rude of them. So I beat on the wall telling them to keep it down. About 2 minutes later he came out and he was furious. Now my dad spent 20 years in the Marines and I was 6 feet tall and was a full back on the foot ball team, benching 400 pounds. What I mean here is neither of was a skinny little guy. It was the first time my dad ever hit me in anger. I just got up and took my friends and left. It took sitting down and talking about it to really come to a fix for us. He was embasassed and so was I. We both felt that we were being violated by the action (not the hitting). We talked it out and we are better for it. It has been 20 years since then and we now joke about it. It is not good that he hit you but I think that a little communication would be good. But he, like me, is a man and talking is hard at times. give him respect but try talking to him. I am sure he is embarassed.
2007-05-15 07:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not you were in a situation where a decision had to be made. If an adult had walked in on them would he of slapped them too. Of course I have no idea what you could do about it now. Is he the violent sort. If he normally is not that aggresive he may apologize for what he did. But dont hold your breath if he is the mean sort. Just dont ever walk in his room again and try like hell to never leave your stuff in his room again. Im sorry he did that to you. Personally if my fiance slapped his kid for that I dont know that I would be his fiance for very long.
2007-05-15 07:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by verucatopanga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Father is a jerk for not locking the door. What makes people think that maybe nobody might just walk in on them? In your case, you were polite and knocked and waited. I hope they are embarrassed by this. He should not have slapped you, it was HIS mistake, and you know what, he knows it, that's why he's reacted this way. He needs to learn a few simple rules and keep everybody happy. Hope you get an apology.
2007-05-15 07:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by acolcres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Sylvia, you weren't in the wrong.... but maybe next time tell him what you need from the other side of the closed door !!! I'm more angry at your dad for slapping you.... I know it was probably embarrassing for them both, but there was no need to slap you, you are quite right that you are almost an adult!! No one deserves to be slapped !!! ever !!!
2007-05-15 07:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father was totally wrong in slapping you and he needs to apologize to you IMMEDIATELY. YOU did not deseve to be slapped. Your father knew you were outside of the door and the chances of you opening the door was quite evident.
I was never allowed to open my parents bedroom door as this was the rule of the household. Your father should have locked his bedroom door so you weren't put in this situation in the first place OR at least a "Do Not Disturb" sign on the door.
You had no clue, so you were not in the wrong especially since there were no rules of the household. At least now you know and you won't go in there.
I do hope your father apologizes to you.
2007-05-15 07:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I'm on your Dad's side with this. If you wanted privacy and your Dad walked into your room wouldn't you be upset and angry. I'm not in favor of the way your Dad responed but I'm curious about why your shoes were in his room anyway? If you knocked and they said just an minute the first time you should have knocked harder and said I need my shoes right now please or I'll miss the bus.
I would also suggest keeping your things out of your parents room in the future.
2007-05-15 07:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy43110 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he should have not hit you for doing that is not like you would know that he is haveing sex so i think you should have said something to him and should have want dad i need my shoes can i get them or can you get them for me
and dont leave your shoes in there anymore or that would happen again and if i was you i would wait intell you are 18 and dont live there anymore because i am going to be 18 in 9 mouths so i what you are going thow and i think you should tell your dad that he sould do it at night when everyone is in bed a sleep lol i think that would be the best thing to d.....
2007-05-15 07:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by alisha bessette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you leave your shoes in your dad's room? Why didn't you talk through the door and let your dad know what you needed? I would say don't leave your stuff in his room anymore. Yes, he was upset because no parent wants their child to see them in that position.You are 17, but not quite grown yet. Try to have your stuff in your room at night and not his.
2007-05-15 07:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋