child support?

Question

I need help my husband seems to keep lying about his child support to me first of all he keeps telling me that the child is not his and we got one on the way he keeps saying after the babys born we gonna go to court about it but i dont see how when we dont have much money he was only paying 65 dollars until he had to fill out some paper about his recent income now we got a letter saying he has to pay 195 dollars and if i hadnt have seen it first he would have hid it from me i know he said he talked to them and that the paper didnt mean anything and that hes still only paying 65 dollars but he had to pay it for this month and i wasnt with him he called and told me he found 100 dollars in his wallet behind something and he just told me that he had got a cash advance which was 300 dollars but if he only had 100 left thats means he paid 195 for child support right? i just wish somebody would help me out im tired of him lying

Answer 1

Go to a child suport enforcement agency, and fill out the paperwork. When he is notified, he will have the option to take a DNA test.
They can set child support and garnish his check to make sure you get what he owes you.

Answer 2

He is definitely not being honest. The paper he filled out was an evaluation of his income to see if he is paying the right amount of child support. If they set it at 195, then that's what he owes, every month until the next evaluation. They can do that every 3 years, either at the mothers request (although they won't tell you she requested it ) or on their own (the father can request it too, but most don't. It doesn't usually go in their favor). The only way this amount will go down is if there is a substantial decrease in his pay due to no fault of his own. So if he quits his job and takes a lower paying one, he is still obligated for the 195. Him having other children wont' really affect it either. the first child is the priority, any subsequent children are his problem. If you had the baby before his evaluation, they would have deducted a few thousand off of his income for the year, but that's the thing only they do. If the child wasn't born, then it's not counted. You could try to go to court after, but more than likely the support won't go down.
I'm sorry he's lying to you. I don't know why he is, because this is something he is going to have to pay until the child is 18 or out of high school. No point trying to avoid it either. It is a debt that never goes away. So if he doesn't pay it now, he will eventually. My husbands mom still get support checks whenever they locate his dad and my husband is 31 now, so pay it now and get it over with.
If he doesn't think the child is his, he had a chance before support was ordered to take a paternity test. He either had to say that he accepted that it was his child or he took a paternity test to prove it. If he would have refused to admit the child was his they do a paternity test. You don't have to pay for it if it is court ordered. Then if it is found he is the father, then he has to pay back the court for the test, but if it wasn't his child he wouldn't have had to pay anything. So I think he's lying about paternity too.

Answer 3

make him go to the domestics office and get a print out of what the child support is. It will tell you what it is on the paper it does go by his income if she filed for a raise. When the baby is born make him go and file for a paternity test most states if you go through your domestic relations office it is only about 192.00 for the test and they let you pay it in installments. Then in about a month you usually get the results back. Then you would know for sure.
As far as him lying i would tell him about it to his face and dont be scared. Any man that lies to you is hiding more than you think. Is he maybe still involved with this girl that he is trying to keep everything secretive you need to keep yourself happy and worry about your self for the baby that you have on the ways sake. Confront him before it gets worse dont let him keep lying to you. Taking out cash advances is not a good thing either cause you have to pay so much back more than what you borrowed. Talk to him before it ruins your marriage if it hasnt already

Answer 4

Male "macho" pride and being proven wrong dont exactly go together in a male world. He knows hes wrong about the support but his pride isnt going to let him admit it so he keeps up with the stupid lies to "save face" in his mind. If hes not careful the courts will catch up with him playing around with his support payments but then itll be too late for him and then he will have alot of time (jail) to rethink his lies and that cot him dearly. Tell him to tell the courts that the kids arent his and theyll order a paternity test to prove whats what or order him to just shut up and pay up

Answer 5

Why are you staying with a man that lies to you.Trust is everything in a relationship without trust you have nothing.Also all he has to do to prove whether or not that child is his is take a simple blood test..If this is how he handles responsibility of a child what do you think is going to happen with yours..

Answer 6

Have you ever heard of punctuation? It involves the use of periods, commas and capital letters in sentence structure. It makes your message easier to understand for someone else reading it. It's great stuff, you really ought to try it.

If you want proof of how much he pays in support, ask to see a receipt or a cancelled check from the bank.

Answer 7

child support goes by his income
he needs to get DNA done if he REALLY thinks the kid is not his... i suspect it is, and he is afraid to say that...
you are stuck with his lies.... he's not going to stop lying

Answer 8

Try to find a social worker.

Answer 9

well tell him to help you with the work or you will end the marrage