What should I do about my wife?

Question

Okay, my wife is 26 and I'm 22. We've been married a year next month. We got married after 4 months of knowing each other. She always talks to me like a kid and likes to tell me what to do. Like chores and stuff like that. But, she barely cooks, she has no friends, and always expects me to take her out with me. And whenever I take her out we'll get in an argument and we'll end up looking stupid in the end. She talks down to me from time to time, and she's uninterested in sex. I've tried being romantic and doing different things but she's just not into it. She says her sex drive is gone. We stay home most of the time cause I don't want to get embarrased when we're out. Whenever she gets mad she holds a grudge. She's stubborn, and she always brings up little stuff like "why is the pot still on the stove from 3 days ago"whenever we get into arguments.She broke my Playstation3 cause she wanted me off the bed and I didn't get off due to an argument and she cursed at my mom. Advice

Answer 1

Fine....
Following things are screwing up the reation
From your wife
1. Barely cooks
2. Loosing the sex drive.
3. Always want her to take with you.
4. Arguments and successions.

All these shows, She may be a kind of lazy (not exactly) and mainly she is afraid that you are loosing interest towards her.

My first advice to you, Dont ever argue with women(honestly speaking to everyone) that will turn everything bad. Also its a time waste. Most of the time keep quite if possible with a smile(best for ever). Please try to cut it short when it turns it to a argument. But again the problems are left out without arguing. You have to find a balanced solution, few times you give up and rest you take over. Now at this point of time you cant take over, please give up for some time (if u want to solve your problem), then you can see the rest acheived automatically (its true).

Now the second thing is expecting her to take out. Its obvious, that u have to. Atleast, this is the time u have to go out with your wife,, I dont really feel that as a problem, all that is you have to understand that there is someone waiting for you always, please keep her close, afterall she is ur woman.

Third thing is about cooking, this is very simple problem to solve, first thing is u start to help her for some time, cheer up her always. Now to start, better u initiate cooking (even if u dont know)she will come and join with u. Later on she will take over everything. (its better if u help her always) Take her for a walking that will enhance her activeness.

Now the very important thing is sex drive. Sex is the one where your mind should be prepared enough even your body is ready. I cant imagine, u can have good sex life, with all these problems. Women always find this problem of less sex drive because of the above discussed issues. Once if u solve the above ones, then her mind will prepare herself for sex, that is called sex drive. In the sex, always start with fun, then oral then the remaining.

Life is to live, there are two roads before you, always choose the one with joy and pleasure. Dont choose one with the quarells and pain. Try to make things better with whatever you got

Answer 2

You need to do something right now. My first question would be why on earth would you marry anyone after 4 months..but what's done is done. You now have an obligation to try to make this work. Go and see a counselor and see if you can work out where your problems are.. you may be able to resolve them with some time. I do wonder if she was like this before you married her, and if not, when did it start to fall apart? That might be a clue to the root of the issue. Good luck

Answer 3

Your married, your single life is over. You should want to take your wife out if you go out. It would be beneficial to both. 4 month huh. Marriage is the hardest job both of you will ever have and it takes time. The age difference might be an issue even with only 4 years difference. Try being more sympathetic. You have everything to gain or loose depending on how and what you do.

Answer 4

I think at least in the future you should think twice before making decisions. Obviously you hardly knew the real her before you got married plus you are just 22 and you have the whole world up for grab.

But no point crying over spilt milk so try to find a solution for the situation. Don’t always do the chores your self and make her also cook and clean and compromise at times. Just arguing only won’t get you guys any where. Seek help, go for a counselor’s advice.

Answer 5

Sir, you have a lot of chaos surrounding you. Here is my best advise to you. Be very careful. Do not end up getting this woman pregnant. You will end up a very miserable man. I have also read your other question. You need to get things straightened out with baby mama drama. You may have a little girl there that you are responsible for. You need to have a paternity test done. Find out if you are the dad so that you can do the right thing by this little girl. She is innocent in all of this. You need to straighten out your life and get your priorities in order. If you're not being honest with us regarding these questions do not post.....you're wasting our time.

Answer 6

Oh my god she is soooo rude. you need to sit down and have a serious chat with her let her know that you're not going to take her s**t anymore. She is treating you like a kid and your a man. It seems liek she talks down to you most of the time. You need to let her know that it's not on. Your a man and entitled to space just like everyone else. You can't be around your partner all teh time or you will just argue all the time over the dumbest little things. If you don't talk about it your marriage just won't work you will become very depressed and everythign will just fall apart.

A little communication always helps.

Good luck

Answer 7

Find a young girl and marry instead, cuz it seems like she feels incomplete with you maybe be because of age difference or something else OR Start acting like the man in the house and show her that you are in control. Do not do the dishes or any chores in the house unless you want to. Be strong Man.

Answer 8

i'm sorry you're in this occasion. yet, I kinda get the place your spouse is coming from. It sounds such as you're being fairly of a wimp. My address it is that ladies like it whilst a guy "takes administration." (interior of bounds, of path) do not ask in case you are able to hug. guy up. do purely it. in case you hug her and he or she rejects you, then it fairly is something for the marriage counselor to be certain. sounds like there is passive aggressive habit on the two areas. it is the worst kind, i think of, in view which you are able to not pass forward in existence once you're fearful approximately holding your self. attempt to not be so wrapped up in her reaction to you - shop your concentration on your self. it is the only difficulty you are able to administration. stable success.

Answer 9

She's perfectly normal.

She's acting like 80% of all other women out there in relationships and after they "win your heart" they forget how to "keep it."

Then she (they) blame you for letting the fire go out... And it's them who stopped trying and you who's caught pretending to be a doormat for her (them) and while you're taking all the nagging and unappreciative feedback from her... You're so wrapped up in trying to make her happy you're forgetting it's YOU who isn't happy.

If she's unhappy it's her fault for not caring more about you.

Launch!

Answer 10

Go on Doctor Phil, and Oprah and Ricky Lake. If that doesnt work go to Jery Springer