Okay, Ive tried to understand this but have not been able to cause really I should have felt something, anything really - and it felt plain, dull even....
I dont understand why I'd just feel nothing at all - not even one little spark..... Gosh, Please help...
2007-05-14 21:53:10 · 22 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well... That's a wrap, pack it up, production is over, and so concludes another episode of your life.
What you have is apathy, apathy is a psychological term for a state of indifference where an individual is unresponsive or "indifferent" to aspects of emotional, social, or physical life.
In this case, it is towards your boyfriend, can this be saved? Maybe, it is very possible that you were having an "off day" maybe you didn't want to be bothered with emotions, who knows, there are alot of factors that could have led up to you feeling nothing, maybe it is over, maybe it isn't.
Make an attempt to find that elusive spark that led you two to be together in the first place, if you are not successful in finding that spark, then it wasn't meant to be!
Have a great!
2007-05-14 22:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by DuSteDShaDoW 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm a bit weird with the feelings stuff. I've met many men who are so sweet and perfect in a way but if theres no spark then i dont want to be with them!
sounds like its either hormones or you don't have the spark that really makes the relationship special :-) that said, maybe you can find the spark again? re-light it so to speak? otherwise you cant help the way you feel and perhaps you'll get along better as friends.
2007-05-14 22:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ava G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong. Emotions are up and down. It is only a problem if you take this as a sign that you do not care about him any more.
The strongest feeling you get when "the walls come down", nothing is compareable to that. Being uncertain, and reading every sign from him as a sign of love or rejection, and suddely get the final touch to each other... you are over that level now. Now you have found him, and the next level is to find out how he is, and if you like him as he is.
So it is not over, it has just started. This is how love really is.
2007-05-14 21:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Narvy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have something in up in your mind, mentally, you have no more feeling for him but simply going thru the motion of what a gf and bf should do. Just like acting.
So, if you still cherish this relationship, kindly remove that something and concentrate on your relationship with him.
You can sit down with bf to tell him your problem, after all he is your bf. Who knows, you may be surprise that he also hv no feeling with you during hugging.
2007-05-14 22:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well relax ........ dont jus believe others when they say maybe u dont love him anymore.......... that might be one of the reasons ........... but there could be several more........ for two people to get intimate both of them should be in the mood and the right spirit...... else u could get intimate with a wooden spoon..... but we're humans so there is a possibility that he wasnt in the mood or maybe there was something missing in the relationship ........ so i suggest you should work towards it and maybe give it time ...... maybe take a break from him........ sometimes over exposure to a person might make even the most awesome things look boring. hope this helped
2007-05-14 22:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by lavin tats me 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You felt dull cause you got no real response. I think others are imagining it was YOU that felt nothing. My take on this is that you felt nothing from him. Guys can be emotionally distant. Does he show love in other ways? Tell him you need more affection and see how he responds. Be specific in your needs.
2007-05-14 22:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How long have you ever been mutually? The longer you're mutually the extra the spark starts to die. Doesnt continuously take place, yet i think of in maximum circumstances it does. as long as you nevertheless experience a sprint spark once you kiss him or something, you dont could desire to difficulty approximately it.
2016-10-05 02:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u have started taking each other for granted. love is a daily choice and if u make the choice not to love him u live with the consequences. the opposite applies. so ask yourself whether u have chosen not to love him and whether u are ok with that. if the ans is yes then move on. if not do something abt it.
2007-05-14 22:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by kiki68 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish my wife would have said this to me many years ago instead of now, after five kids, and about six affairs she had. It would have saved a lot of heart break and sorrow.
I would suggest you think about this quite hard and maybe change your position with him, maybe think about a break for a time to think about a different relationship, somethings amiss here and it sounds like you have issues.
2007-05-14 22:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have lost your feelings towards him. You have to bring in more sparks to keep the relationship going. Otherwise.....
2007-05-14 21:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋