Also, my husband hates the slots. Claims it is just throwing away money. I had a wonderful time.
2007-05-14 20:43:19 · 25 answers · asked by Sheila S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm going to be the oddball here. If you and your male friend just hung out as buds, there's nothing wrong with it. Your hubby should have recognized the fact that you needed some fun and companionship. It sounds like he is insecure if he gets upset about you hanging out with a friend. My husband and I both have friends of the opposite sex, and we know we can trust each other. From what little information you gave, it sounds like he may be a little controlling.
2007-05-15 02:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Rae Ray 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
wanna put the shoe on the other foot here a second? How would you feel if your husband took off with some girl from work for a weekend to ski in colorado without you? Be realistic here...
You are married. Trips away are done with girlfriends, family members or your husband. You disrespected him, and the ring on your finger by not caring how he felt.
The fact he hates slots is not an excuse to put your marriage to the test.
2007-05-14 20:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think everyone who answered prior to me summed it up. It is wrong because you're married and because you wouldn't want it done to you, no working human being would. I am a woman and I told my fiance when we first started dating that I didn't even want him doing lunch or dinner with other girls, because that's considered a DATE to me. That's what people do on dates, eat, hang out, etc. The lady who answered earlier and said that trips away should be done with your family, your female friends or your husband is right on the money! If the shoe were on the other foot, and my fiance did that to me, he would come home to find his things packed up on the front lawn ready for him to move out. Anyone who respects their relationship, the sanctity of marriage and having commitment and loyalty to their significant other knows why it's wrong. If one person in the relationship works and the other doesn't, then the other person should be at home making a family atmosphere for the working person. That goes either way. If you both work, and you had the day off and he didn't, then you could have spent your time making a nice surprise for him for when he got off work, or devote your time to something you both would enjoy later. I don't blame your husband if he's angry, and it sounds like you may need counseling if you honestly think this is right in any way whatsoever.
2007-05-14 21:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by ronnievanzantfan 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is wrong what you did. You are a married woman, so therefore, you should NOT be going out to Vegas without your husband, especially with another guy. It doesn't matter if he's just a friend. Your a wife, you should be home with your husband, if he went to work, then you should be at work too, otherwise, you should be home waiting for him to come home from work. If your husband is upset about this, he has every right to be.
2007-05-14 20:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Everyone is different and if it was me, I would have waited until my husband had time off to go with me. I have a great time with my partner...he is my best friend. If he felt the need to go to Vegas with another woman and not me, I would think our relationship was lacking somehow and I would want to know why he would prefer to spend time with another female than with me. Put yourself in his position.....how would you feel if he spent time, prefering to be with another woman than with you? He may not like playing the slots, but surely there is time after the slots....maybe you could have played the slots while he did something else and then at the end of the night you could have done something you both enjoyed. I dont understand how anyone would prefer to be with someone else other than their partner/husband...but thats just me....maybe the man I am with, I am totally compatible with. Maybe the man I am with is the best thing thats happened to me since sliced bread. Maybe I cherish the fact that my partner is my best friend.
2007-05-14 20:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are on the fence, my friend, a dangerous fence as well. If your husband is to realize that you and he have had feelings for each other, he will NOT be happy to find out that this guy is coming to your church with you [and him]. What if feelings mature on either side, are you willingly to leave your church when it goes too far? Is it fair to make your [loving] husband leave his church as well. While I understand that he would like to meet someone, its still a tricky and sticky situation. I wouldn't do and I would tell him that while you appreciate his friendship, you do not think that it is best if you attend the same church. Remember, you are a Christian or at least professing to be one, and your husband comes first, not your [male] friend.
2016-05-18 05:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You went to Sin City
With another guy
a male "friend"
Did you know that no matter what a man says, he's not just your "friend"? We ALL think about sex. Ask any man for an HONEST answer
Your husband knows this too
My opinion? That was a mean thing to to to someone you supposedly love, think about it, if the tables were turned would it still be no big deal?
2007-05-15 04:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because what you did hurt your husband. Would you like it if your husband took off and went to Vegas while you were at work??? People get divorced over stuff like that. So, I hope you did have a wonderful time, because it may have cost you your marriage!
2007-05-14 20:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not wrong, if you really asked, and tried to make it so you could go together. That does seem a little shady though, would you be ok with your husband leaving with a female friend to vegas while you stayed home and worked?
2007-05-14 20:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Deep down you know its wrong, you know it. Its about respect . You cherish and respect the sancity of marriage. Business trips are different but a trip to Vegas to play slots? with another guy, and you couldnt go with a girlfriend? My hubby's best friend is a woman, his ex-sister in law and the mother of our nephew, they've known eachother since they were 14. Theres no jealousy on either end, we are family still but i wouldnt like it nor would he dare go out on a trip to LV w/out me. No good can come of this trip- you only just created problems, stir insecurities and make distrusts........your swimming in shark infested water kid....And you two need to talk about it and actually compromise your vacations and trips in the future, they are meant to be taken with family or friends dont exclude eachother thats not what marriage is about and you dont even say you needed a break from your spouse you went with a male friend cause your hubby didnt want to go! wrong..........
2007-05-14 20:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋