My roommate just moved in with me in March and it has only been two months and she had already started in about how she doesn't like it because of the neighbors. I complained to the landlord and they are getting kicked out 6-15-07. She origionally said she would want to move down there, but now she is saying that because the neighbors have too many cats that our landlord will have to rip up the carpet and put in new carpet cause her cat will smell the other cats and it will drive the cat crazy!! Before she said this I brought up my boyfriend moving in with us and I think she is making up all these excuse cause she doesn't want to move in with him, and we would need him down there to pay the rent. Because she is pissing me off about her cat crap and not doing the dishes 4X in a row I want to move my boyfriend in and not even have him pay rent. What do you think about that? I figure she will just get so mad about it and move out. Our lease is up in June anyway.
2007-05-14 19:50:05 · 9 answers · asked by juniper555 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh yeah that's pissy let your BF move in it's your flat and if she's not doing her bit SCREW HER!
2007-05-14 19:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by UnP0ssible 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? You have just learned the lesson that all of us had to learn when we first moved in with someone else. It never works unless someone is the boss, and rents the apartment first, and acts as the boss to any sub tenants. If someone doesn't get with the program then, you just kick them out, and find someone new. Here is a hint, though, don't let the boyfriend move in for free either, unless you want a freeloader too.
2007-05-15 02:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by NoLifeSigns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the main issue is that you want to live with your boyfriend. I'm in my 40's, so this might be a generation "thing," but I wouldn't want to live with two people who are dating either. That has too many potentially uncomfortable possibilities. It can creates a unbalanced power dynamic (you & him against her, in case there are any issues to resolve.) It's hard not to get caught in the middle of lover's spats.
So, if she is trying to gracefully tell you what she wants, or if she is conflict-avoidant and is using the cat issue as an excuse for not moving, rather than you trying to "read between the lines" of what she says, take it on face value and make choices that are best for you under the circumstances.
Being angry b/c she is making her choice is just a waste of your energy. You don't have to continue to live with her once your lease is up. If you tell her that you're planning to move in with your boyfriend when the lease is up, maybe she'll be interested in leaving early anyway and it'll be a win-win for you all.
But, deciding to live with your boyfriend is a whole separate issue. Just from the way this seems to be unfolding makes me wonder how well you have thought it thru and how wise that choice might be for you. Do you want to live with him b/c you "want to live with him," or just out of convenience? Are you in a commited relationship? Can he pay his share of the rent if it were just the two of you? Will he live in a way that will be comfortable to you, in terms of doing chores, lifestyle, etc?? If you live with him and the relationshp falls apart, you might find yourself in a very unpleasant living situation.
2007-05-15 03:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by livingwell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in your boyfriend, sometimes the shoes needs to be on the other foot for her to get the picture she will complain about your guy not paying rent but she doesn't see the big picture of why her boyfriend doesn;t have to pay rent. Then she will get it, I hope.
2007-05-15 12:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by Britster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably violate the terms of the lease. Surely you can put up with almost anything for a few more weeks.
2007-05-15 02:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wrong. She shouldn't disrespect you like that. The boyfriend is getting a free ride. He must be a loser. Hope you get rid of them quicker than June 15th.
2007-05-15 03:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you had enough of your friend and I think your boyfriend is more important than your soon to be ex-roomate
2007-05-15 02:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Reynaldo R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she dosen,t want to pay her share tell her to get the hell out, you don,t need her if shes not helping
2007-05-15 02:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hopefully that will scare her off!!!
2007-05-15 05:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋