I recently saw the mobile bill details of my spouse...He has been making calls n messaging this particular female quite a lot...average msgs upto 50 per day..occasionally even above 100. in the bill details, this number is the first one n the last one he has messaged every single day since at least the past four months..not to mention the many in between. .i confronted him n he is like...nothing is going on..just friends..n what now i should ask u before messaging? the fact is when outstation, he does not ever call me or msg me. i always have to..n even then he is like i am out, in a meeting or like.... while the details show he has been without fail calling and messaging this female. never a day without the last sms at around 11 to midnight...n he always keep the mobile under his pillow in silent mode while sleeping. i am getting paranoid. do i believe him? please scrap in ur views...it would help a lot.
2007-05-14 19:43:47 · 19 answers · asked by rosey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ya he does msg a lot..but not this much...as in no other number comes up every single day...n the average per week for any other number would be about four to five. one day this was the only number he was messaging...this female is a colleague...in fact used to work under him about a year back but has moved to another department..so his excuse is he is staying in touch with her for information.!
2007-05-14 19:54:46 · update #1
in fact had been invited for dinner at her place a day before...she stays with her parents. n they were all civil to me n my kid ...though the conversation was mostly office related n i had nothing to share.. .that is why i am confused.
2007-05-14 20:02:42 · update #2
this female was to get married to a person who she knew to be in having an affair with a married collegue. she was okay with that..... this marriage broke up this month, because his moneylenders were calling her up for their money!
2007-05-14 20:35:53 · update #3
"Because of some shortage & no excitement in your way of loving he is behind others. Make yourself much more attractive & lovely than what u r now in look, words & actions. "
I believe i am better looking than her...ya she is definitely younger, n doesnt have the responsibility of a kid..
also i dont have much of a career...i kept that aside to raise my kid....while she obviously does...n comes from a more affluent background.
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2007-05-14 21:55:31 · update #4
"try getting a peek at the messages if you can then you,ll know for sure "----can anyone tell me if that can be done?
2007-05-14 22:58:59 · update #5
A WOMAN KNOWS WHEN THERE IS ANOTHER WOMAN..... and you know deep down he is having an affair maybe it is an emotional affair maybe it is a physical affair it is all cheating!
2007-05-15 03:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by helpfull2u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ms. Thing,
Please wake up and smell the coffee because it is not only brewing but the pot is on fire. All of the attention that he use to give you, he is now giving to another. What you get is the brush off! Heck yes, there is something going on and if you're going to act like you can't see it, then at least put on the dark shades and get you a white cane. Of course he is going to say that there is nothing going on, but you already know better. The real question is whether you want to keep him or not. If so, call the other woman(I know you wrote her number down), meet with her and tell her to stay away from your husband. If you don't want him, have a friend or a P.I. follow him and get some pics to show the judge when you go to court. But please don't act like you can't see the handwriting on the wall.
2007-05-15 02:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Knowledge Thirsty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Taking a peek at the messages" means you simply get the phone and look at the msgs. You can do this without his knowledge or confront him and tell him to show you the messages. If he's really talking business with her, he should have nothing to hide.
I think he's cheating. Suggest you meet up with the other woman without telling him. Tell her she has no right breaking up a marriage and ruining the family of a small child.
2007-05-15 07:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a really very clever husband. He knows how to keep both his girl friend & wife happy without missing either of them. He calls her or sms her daily & even take you to her home for dinner & talks only official matters so you feel calm as if he's whatever he do is only official nothing personal. Really very clever guy you have got. Hey you get ready for a news that comes your way any time that his affair with this lady has reached the extremes from where you'll have no place for him, & next question that you'll be asking what to do about my husband's adulterous nature & how can I get divorce from him, followed by how can I get legal relief against this other girl, followed by is this behavior of my husband amounts to cruelty as I'm under great depression because of it, followed by how much alimony I'll get if I go in for divorce, followed by I want custody of my children from my adulterous husband can I get it. So I have framed all these questions for you, just note them & keep posting them in this marriage & divorce category one by one. What else I should say beyond this.
2007-05-15 03:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry kiddo, but you already know the answer, and it isn't a good one.
Yeah, something is going on. Nobody carries on like that unless there is. The fact that you know and he still goes on the same way is pretty indicative of the kind of relationship you have. I'd bet he gets his way on most everything.
If he doesn't respect you enough to stop this nonsense, then there probably isn't much of a future for your relationship.
You can make demands, and he'll probably be ticked at your refusal to go along with what he wants.
Best of luck to you. He sounds like a real charmer....
2007-05-15 02:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How often does he message his other female and male friends? If he is the type that text messages his friends ALOT then no I wouldn't worry. However, if she is the only person he's been texting then ya I'd say he's either having an emotional or physical affair.
2007-05-15 02:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer. If he's not cheating with her then he's probably trying like hell to seal that deal. Oh yeah, and his excuse about "keeping in touch with someone in another department." Give me a break. I'm sure they both have phones where they work. No, I think this is shady.
2007-05-15 03:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by regiven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is going on you can take that for sure, maybe you should take the opinion of a common friend or relative and see what is going wrong. If this doesn't work out then you both may want to see a marriage counsellor.
2007-05-15 04:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by sean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of some shortage & no excitement in your way of loving he is behind others. Make yourself much more attractive & lovely than what u r now in look, words & actions.
2007-05-15 04:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one thing here if u r not able to attend ur hubby properly for his personal needs then he may go like this. but whatever the issue. u can speak to him.
before that if still he is loving you more taking care of u and ur kid. u need to wait. this kind of issues some times be solved on its own. but ensure that u should be attended by him everyday personally.(give him more comfort on ur bed.)
2007-05-15 06:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Pasu P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋