2007-05-14 19:12:18 · 13 answers · asked by victoria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been dating for a year. We do love each other and he sees it working out, and I would love it work out but I've come to learn that his religion is so strick! His parents want him to marry a punjabi girl, and I'm afraid they will never accept me. And no matter how much you want to try and make the marriage work, I seen it happen where the family will eventually drive the couple into a divorce. I am catholic, his religion is very strong but hopefully it will work!
Thank you for those who have replied :)
2007-05-15 15:52:53 · update #1
We have been dating for a year. We do love each other and he sees it working out, and I would love it work out but I've come to learn that his religion is so strict! His parents want him to marry a punjabi girl, and I'm afraid they will never accept me. And no matter how much you want to try and make the marriage work, I seen it happen where the family will eventually drive the couple into a divorce. I am catholic, his religion is very strong but hopefully it will work!
Thank you for those who have replied :)
2007-05-15 15:54:22 · update #2
I really doubt that it will. It did not work with me either.
2007-05-18 16:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure it will work. Coming from different backgrounds is only an irritant, maybe even an excitement, but is definitely not an impediment.
What is important is that you should love each other. Now. Later, as in any marriage, you will have to constantly work on it. Always keep your communications alive and you will have a long and wonderful married life.
PS: My wife’s cousin (a South Indian) is married to a Hispanic. They have been married for 3 years, have a son and are having a great time together.
2007-05-14 19:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Balaji Kartha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sikh Boyfriend
2017-01-17 21:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can work but there are many obstacles to get there and a lot issues (cultural, family approval, religion, language, traditions, etc) that Hispanics don't have to deal that much (suegras que no te quieren, ja,ja), well sometimes. As you have noticed Indian men are more family oriented and the opinion of their family is extremely important so behave and show Hispanics know how to respect their traditions. Make sure he also takes in consideration your traditions because no one is better than the other one and we are all different. Don't listen to the negative opinions, not a lot people haven been in that position or know Hispanic so personally to give opinions so hard or that sound that interracial weddings are not good. Usually the negative opinions come from those who have not dated a Hispanic. Hey think the cool possibilities and outcome, like cooking Hispanic food, piñatas, language, music, traditions according to the country, etc. The key is his family, if they like you that is great, not just the parents, but brothers, sisters, etc. Show that you are interested in learning about their religion, culture, etc. Make sure not to offend any one because some families are more traditional than other ones. Also, has he made any mention of you to his parents or family members? This is very important because it proves he is interested in marring you and is willing to break some traditional issues regarding been with a non-Indian. What about your family? So, I hope it goes well and that I was able to help. Now, how much are you also willing to change your life style and to deal with the issues mentioned above?
P.S. Indian weddings are very cool, if you marry do it Indian style.
2007-05-15 14:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two love eachother and think you two could live for and with eachother for the rest of your lives, get married!! Let me tell you the plus point you being a catholic - catholism is against divorces so you would not even think about it. As you said he is a sikh ie an Indian Origin even if his folks may put up their best opposition against the marriage once married they would try their best to not get you divorced its against as well as a big stigma in the Indian Culture.
Yup it might take you time to get accomodated into their family but in due course they will take you in depends on how adjusting you and your BF is towards them and believe it or not once accepted you would probably be showered with more love from them than they would to their own son or probably more than you would get from anyone else!!
2007-05-16 07:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you settled marriage surely? Whiter you and the boy have considered pros and cons and future circumstances which may create problems.? Don't make any heist before going for marriage. Chatting and cheating are two different ends!
2007-05-18 00:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Victoria
I am sure that your relationship is not heading anywhere, i am sure this guy is just having fun with you & may leave u once she gets a punjabi gal
don't waste ur time on this relationship
2007-05-16 02:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by hotchocredrose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Victoria,
Just give it a shot ! Go tell his parents that you love him and you want to mary him.Before you go, to indian shops and buy punjabi clothes ,bindis,bangles,etc.So they might think you respect their culture and before you go there learn some of his religious things.So they might think you really respect their culture and you really love him .
2007-05-16 11:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by nazori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any marriage can work if the partners are better understanding male and female.
2007-05-14 20:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by VP K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you feel about each other and wether your parents approve of this. If they dont approve and you have your doubts, then it will not!
2007-05-14 19:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by Barticus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋