I have an out of state friend that has come to visit me twice now. (a 4-5 hour drive away) and I love her dearly.. well, memorial weekend my family is driving through where she lives and she wants me to get dropped off & come visit. I don't want to for so many reasons but i don't know how to tell her.
reasons:
1. I am terrified of being away from home and being in unfamiliar situations. I know this is something I need to break, but I get a sick feeling everytime I think about it. absolutely terrified
2. I NEVER get the house to myself and I was SO looking forward to everyone being gone and having some alone me time.
those are the 2 main reasons. i feel like a horrible friend and she is very overdramatic and will probably say some pretty harsh things about me if i dont come. she's like that. she made a comment that a girl she used to be friends with never came to see her, she always had to go see her hinting to me. i dont know how to tell her w/o hurting her feelings..
2007-05-14 18:45:28 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its easier for her to come see me becuase she has a boyfriend she brings.. shes not alone, and i dont work so i am here 24/7. There, they both work and i would feel so weird. i dont know what my problem is.. i love her dearly but like i said, how can i tell her?? she will be so petty and talk a bunch of crap.. and i dont want to hurt her feelings.
2007-05-14 18:47:19 · update #1
reason 3.. i am very overweight, and any overweight person knows that sleeping on a floor or a couch is nearly impossible and painful.. i also have arthritis in my knee.. she only has a one bedroom apt and i would be on the couch.. it sounds petty but its actually not for someone of my size.
2007-05-14 18:50:50 · update #2
You have three options. You can lie to her, go and try to enjoy yourself, or try to explain how you feel to her.
If you lie to her, she is bound to find out sooner or later.
If you go, there is a chance that you might enjoy yourself. You will have some alone time while they are at work, and you have fulfilled your obligation for awhile.
You can tell her the truth, but she is going to hassle you about it.
I say go for it. You need to start getting away sometimes. You can't just sit at home forever. Time to make the big leap.
Besides, then every time she asks you to come, you can say well I did Memorial Day, 2007, but I just haven't had the opportunity since.
2007-05-14 18:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh , thats sticky! Without telling you to lie, I am at a loss for words on this one! Just tell her the truth, dont' back down, dont let her bully you into coming, be firm and if you cant say NO, tell her your going to pray about it and you get back to her if you decide to come. usually when you say that, people, won't keep asking you, or pushing.
2007-05-14 18:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by SikU2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a little white lie wont hurt. Maybe tell her that ur parents had ask you to stay at home to take care of certain things....
2007-05-14 18:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by Aranel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋