On the surface, I know I've accomplished a lot. I'm 24 now, I was in the army during which time I served a deployment. I saved my money from the Army and invested it, so I could pay off my college debts. Last week I just got a BA degree with honors from a good university, and I've been accepted to grad school in the fall, so my future looks bright.
However, a lot of my friends (girls and guys) are getting married and/or starting families. I don't even have a girlfriend, and haven't had one for months. To me, this seems like such a huge failure that overshadows everything else. Sometimes I think I would trade everything if I just had one. It usually doesn't bother me, but sometimes (like tonight) when I go to bed alone, I feel like such a loser. Is this normal?
2007-05-14 18:28:49 · 13 answers · asked by redguard572001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldn't say it's abnormal . Lots of people have those same type feelings but what you have to realize and strive to remember is that others do not define who you are.Having a girlfriend doesn't mean that you are more or less in anyway but instead that you have someone special in your life to share it with.While it's understandable to be lonely when you don't have that special someone , you need to work towards being ok on your own and enjoying who you are. As the saying goes .... you can't give what you don't first have for yourself. You are judging yourself by what your friends have ..... that's a very destructive way to live because there will always be someone who seems to have more. Don't do that to yourself .... you have a lot going for you and much to offer ....... good luck : )
2007-05-14 18:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you totally nuts! You are only 24!! Hello? You sound like quiet a catch. Do you know what the divorce rate is now? I dont but well.......anyway keep your head up goofy, you are young and have a lot going for you, some girl is waiting on you, just put yourself out there and you will find her (and say your prayers) I would tell ya good luck but you dont need it...You are incredible
2007-05-14 18:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by MickC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, don't worry about that...
Just know that you've been busy with other things in your life. Your twenties is all about making your way in life...you just haven't had time to settle down yet, but when the time is right for you, you will. You're just now starting to see that you might have something missing (is a partner) from your perfectly planned life, and that's okay!
2007-05-14 18:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal. There is no set age for these events in life. It is more likely they will come if you discover what you were meant to do with your time and energy. You can't give what you don't have, so, give your time, some of that education you just received, give it back a bit, and in doing so, you will be led to what you should have in your life. Also, we tend to create our reality with our thoughts, so, decide what you want and make it your reality. Sorry if it sounds silly. I believe it.
2007-05-14 18:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel lonely but to feel like a loser after everything you have accomplished are you crazy.When you get a girl
and you will,I guarantee you will wish you were still alone .We are never satisfied with what we have and you are no different.
2007-05-14 19:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not a loser...your going to make an excellent hubby one day. Don't focus on wanting a gf..things will happen. Plus you're still young and from the looks of things you made great time :-)
2007-05-14 18:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal for everyone who is single, but not to your extent. I advise you not to try to date until you can feel content with yourself without a woman in your life. You should Not feel like a loser just because you are not hitched. I suggest counseling to help you with your self-esteem when it comes to being single. A relationship isn't meant to keep you from being lonely.
2007-05-14 18:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes everyone thinks the grass is greener on the other side. You will find that special someone but right now its just not time. Who knows maybe tomorrow will be the day. Don't rush give it time.
2007-05-14 18:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might suck not having a girlfriend but education and money both help catch a girls eyes. Not to mention without money you cannot live.
I think your life seems good. But thats just my opinion from what you told us.
2007-05-14 18:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you lose sight of whose standards you are living by. When you feel like a loser, whose standards are going threw your head? Whose voice do you hear when you feel this. Pay attetion to this and you will have your answer.
2007-05-14 18:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋