what do I if i am depressed...?

Question

I took many online quizs because i always suspected something was wrong with me..I am always sad and depressed, it hurts so much. I want to stop, but I dont know how. My parents dont know..they would be angry...I think i might be bipolar and um..ah! i hate saying this but I really want help. I am soo depressed .i tried school councleing but i was guilty since my parents would be angry..and I dont know what to do..I am 17. I just dont know! I have problems sleeping and its just too much to tell.

Problem! I CANT see a doc..my parents would say pray..and I do know what they are saying but I am still like this!

My parents would be angry! They would say , as they did before, I need to calm down...I Cant help being the way i am! Its impossible for me..i cant just switch off anger or something!

Answer 1

I know how you feel, I'm 15 and I'm already depressed and paranoid. And my parents wont take me to a doc, because they think that all shrinks are fakes and that only prayer can help. So I prayed but I'm still depressed and paranoid. And I feel so much pain and I'm always afraid and I dont even know what i am afraid of.

Answer 2

you should have your thyroid levels checked. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism after being treated for depression. I slept all the time, had no energy, as well as generalized depression. I felt like I was losing my mind. my mother finally dragged me to a new doctor when I couldn't get out of bed. Once my problem was diagnosed I was able to to regulate it with synthetic thyroid and with regular monitoring (re-checks every year or so) I am functioning pretty well. (no anti-depressants!) Maybe if you suggest this to your parents they would be more responsive. At least that would get you into a doctor, and then you could discuss other possibilities too. I don't know what resources are available to you as far as getting medical care without your parents involvement, but I'm sure there are plenty of options. Talk to some other adults who aren't so reliant on faith to heal.....If you do get up the nerve to talk to your parents (which isn't a bad idea--what's the worst that can happen?) explain to them that prayer is a great way to find the strength to get through something, but they wouldn't rely on prayer to regulate your blood sugar if you were diabetic, would they? depression is the same thing, a chemical that your body can't regulate on it's own. And do some research, there may be a physician in your area that share's your parents beliefs....whatever you do, don't let fear of your parents reaction dictate what you do. what you're going through is serious, whatever the cause is. and in 15 years, will it really matter if they get upset now? good luck.

Answer 3

there is a stigma attached to mental illnesses and thats a fact, so i can see why your parents react the way they do. of course there beliefs play a role in that as well. there are a lot of research studies particuliarly at universities and there discreet and give free evaluations and medication. i prefer lithium, its pretty much, just salt (ion). i do not like the more designer and expensive drugs they can have bad side effects. this is what i would do AFTER you have tried changes in diet, exercise, etc.also try keeping a journal,as well to release some of the pent up emotion, but keep it hidden from your parents, since they have issues with your situation. i am 35 yrs. old and it took me a long time to get help. my family drilled it in my head i that just needed to get over it. well i do not think doctors withhold insulin from diabetics, and instead tell them to just get over it. it is hard for people who do not have such problems, because its a complicated problem when your very mind is under attack, the very mind that controls all of your thoughts and emotional reactions. as far as your parents go i would say do what you can without them knowing, its better to be without their support in this instance than to have anti-support. but first try a research study and at least get a free diagnosis. i wish i would have sought out help a long time ago, so hopefully you will do what you need to do to deal with your problem and not let it take anymore of your life away. best of luck to you!

Answer 4

I would think you parents would be more concerned than angry. As a parent, I know I would want to know, so I could get the proper professional help. You're going to have to get some help from someone, and your parents are the best place to start Maybe if you talk to a school counselor, then talk to them and have them talk to the counselor as well. Have some testing done to determine what IS wrong. It may not be what you think. But you're going to have to find out if you are ever going to know.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with you. It is all in your mind. Your mind is thinking of nothing but negative things, so stop being so negative on yourself and start being more positive about your attitude towards life. I am also 17 and at one time in my life had a mild case of depression, but now it is long gone with the help of AFFIRMATIONS (positive self-talk in your own mind). What helped me was repeating over and over "I love my life. I can laugh and have fun." Try it for a couple days, but you have to really believe in what you're saying. It could also be some chemical imbalances in your brain that is causing you to become depressed. You could also try eating healthier, because eating right plays a significant role in the "feel good" chemicals in your brain. And try exercising more- it will increase those "happy" feelings in your brain. Good luck, and try to be more positive with your overall attitude towards life.

Answer 6

No one can be happy in this world unless they have found the Absolute Truth or their eternal relationship with their Maker also known as Krishna,ALlah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc. No pill can fix it. One has to reconnect with their eternal self their soul. and the Supreme Soul named above. We are not this body, mind, intellect, race, nationality, job, etc. WE are eternal spirit souls. Chanting the Maha Mantra (the great mantra for deliverance from all suffering and illusion is the quickest and easiest way to realize one true self and get out of this illuiosn. for info go to harekrishnatemple.com Read Bhagavad Gita as it is By Bhaktivedanta PRabhupada it really works. nothing else works for long.

Answer 7

Why would your parents be angry? There is no stigma attached to depression! If they can't help, talk to a trusted adult. It's unfortunate, but with the cost of healthcare (assuming you're in the US), you'll probably not be able to do anything without insurance.

Sandy

Answer 8

I did have parent who got upset with me for talking to a teacher about the way I was feeling in high school when I was depressed. My family likes to pretend everything is beautiful. So, I know where you are coming from.
I suggest you go to your local health department. Like family planning or planned parenthood and they could help you and by law your parents wouldn't have to know!! They help with things like that. Planned parenthood gives you notes to give to your school for your time you were absent. I would look into it. If you need anything...send me a message anytime.

Answer 9

Don't feel guilty or ashamed of seeking help. It's not your fault. The best thing you can do is make a solid effort to solve your problems. Your parents would probably be proud of you. Just do what you have to do to make things better. Best wishes.

Answer 10

You probably need exercise. It gives you tons of energy after you get used to it. Energy=Happiness. Remember when you where just a kid?

Otherwise, if you grew up in a crappy environment like me, you might need antidepressants, although I don't take them anymore. If you hang in there, you'll pull through without them.