Is it true that a man will treat his wife or girlfriend no better than he treats his mother?

Question

http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/0060932910/ref=sib_dp_pop_toc/103-2256118-1854245?ie=UTF8&p=S008#reader-link
I noticed this claim on the third page of the table of contents for this book.
Date Like A Man: What Men Know About Dating and Are Afraid You'll Find Out (Paperback)
by Myreah Moore (Author), Jodie Gould (Author)

Answer 1

I am a women and know that if I saw a man treat his mother bad I would not date him. My husband never calls his mom or anything. They did not have a good relationship growing up so I know that even though he does not care for his mother it has not effected our marriage.
My best friend dated a guy who treated his mother terrible. Called her every name in the book. Well, after my girl was with him for a while he started treating her just like his mom. I think there is a bit of truth behind it.
Now my dad used to call my mom every name in the book and beat her when she was pregnant with us. However, my dad would never disrespect his mother. So, I guess each guy is different.

Answer 2

It is not set in stone, but there do seem to be many similarities. The premise to this is that a man learns how to interact with the opposite gender from his mother. If he learns that he can act however he wants without repercussions and never stop receiving love and affection from his mother, he will most likely take that mindset into relationships. On the other hand, if he was raised to respect and honor his mother, it is very likely that he will take those same mindsets into his relationships as well. :o)

Answer 3

In the times we live in these days,men are required to be more sensitive and in touch with their own phsycological areas that need work...this includes how they will treat a woman...Maybe mom let em get away with things,but a real woman surely will not,unless she's attracted to abusive men.
this puts the burden on the woman,,,the flaws you described can be picked up on pretty quickly by anyone who is clear headed and serious about love and happiness,,sure there will be cases where certain undesirable qualities can be hidden for the first feew months,but when they rear their ugly head,,its time to go!!

Answer 4

No. I know from personal experience that a man can treat his mother like a Queen but will be abusive towards you.

I also know from experience that a man can choose his mother over you in everything and if you dare do anything to offend her, even if it's something small, he can beat you to the point where you need to be hospitalized.

Answer 5

It is true in general, most people will marry someone which is close to what they saw in their mom or dad, that said I have met some people who did not want to be follow what pattern their family life gave them and changed it for the better.

I was taught to respect my mom and step mom, as well as my dad. I seem to want to protect my sisters and step mom just like my dad, and the women in my life (friends, co-workers and all) I have a respect which is important to me.

It is true, to a point, life will direct us the rest of the way though.

Answer 6

I believe if a child sees his father respect his wife. The seed is planted then. that is why I believe in 2 parent households for the most part..Not always possible though...

Answer 7

I think it makes for a nice little saying to write a chapter of a book on but otherwise its just not true generally.

Answer 8

I think if he has respect for his mother then perhaps
he will have respect for you.

In my view it is depends on the MALE role models in his life that makes the difference in who he ultimately becomes.

Answer 9

Why would he? If he can get away with obnoxiousness, abusiveness, or anything else with her, why not with the women he dates? If they turn him down he'll probably find someone else before he changes.

Answer 10

i believe it always starts with how you treat your mother.
for i find it impossible to be abusive to your mother and treat your wife well.