I told someone today that I want to go into labour NOW, even at 35 weeks. Should I feel guilty for this?

Question

especially if it DOES happen... then it will look like I don't want what is best for my baby... but I do want him out now!!! right now. Icoulnd't be happier if I went into labour tonight (I had a false labour today). I just want to be done. Should I feel bad about this? It's like I just don't care what is best for me, I want this too END. the baby should be fine anyway at 35 weeks

Answer 1

God no! I have wanted this baby to come since I was around 30 weeks, but at least at 35 weeks you are near the end. I am now at 37 weeks and I wouldn't have been at all upset to deliver two weeks ago. Considering babies are born at 22 weeks now, saying you wish to have the baby at 35 weeks isn't very taboo. :) Good luck with your baby!

Answer 2

I don't think you were wishing any harm on your baby or at least it doesn't seem that way but other people, especially ones who have had premature babies like myself will tell you that as much as you are tired of being pregnant you never want your baby to come before it's ready. My twin daughters were born December 9th and they were due February 17th so they were in the NICU for about a month and believe me when I tell you it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to go through. They're 3 1/2 now, happy and healthy as ever but everyday that your baby is in your womb is necessary. A full term pregnancy is 40 weeks so if you're lucky you'll make it until then but to ease your mind a little bit remember that a "due date" is simply a "guesstimate" no doctor can ever really be sure when the baby was conceived so you may very well go into labor a couple weeks early and have everything be fine. Good luck, hang in there I know it can be very rough!

Answer 3

You shouldn't feel guilty it is understandable for you to feel that way. I was 41 weeks before my daughter decided it was time and she was almost 9lbs I couldn't wait to get her out. However having your baby at 35 weeks is a for sure stay in the NICU (neonatal intensive care unit). 35 weeks is to early you want to be at least 37. Having the baby now would not cause any long term harm but it would probably not be going home for a week or so and would only be about 5 pounds. As for people saying babies are born at 22 weeks they really have not clue. I work in a NICU and trust me a baby born a 22 weeks has a very slim chance of making it and a baby born at 24 weeks usually has some sort of retardation and lots of medical problems. Your baby will come when it is ready just hang in there.

Answer 4

I wouldn't feel guilty one bit. Your tired, your back hurts and you haven't seen your feet in a few weeks because of your now beach-ball sized belly. You probably have to run to the bathroom every 5 mins and finally when you get comfortable and fall asleep you take a swift kick to your insides to wake you up. Not every woman glows with sunshine and rainbows throughout all of pregnancy, some just don't like the last few months.

And if labor does happen before forty weeks, it was not because you wished it to start, your body was just ready.

Take a day off and relax. This seems like it will last forever, but it won't. Soon you'll have a beautiful baby to hold. Just be glad woman are not pregnant as long as elephants which is 22 months. YIKES!

p.s.I also was hoping for an early delivery with my 12 year old. I started wishing at 32 weeksbut I ended up having to be induced at almost 42 weeks.

Wishing you an easy delivery and a healthy baby.

Answer 5

You shouldn't feel guilty. A lot of women are totally miserable towards the end and just want it over. But, babies have a due date around 40 weeks because thats the healthy time for them to be in there. As you said, the baby "should" be fine at 35 weeks, but the lungs could still be immature. Don't feel bad that you have these feelings, but just do whatever you can to bide the time and keep on waiting. The payoff is well worth the wait.

Answer 6

I know you say that because you are so uncomfortable, but your baby would have to stay in the hospital after you went home and that would be very hard, so I'm sure if given the choice you would do what is in the best interest of your baby. At 35 weeks the baby would be fine in the long run, but their lungs are still not completely mature. You need to be at least 37 weeks for the baby to be full term. Ask any parent who has had to leave their baby at the hospital when they went home and ask then how that went for them. I work with those families and it was horrible to them.

Answer 7

Welcome to the endgame. You want your body back, you want not to have heartburn (or whatever bugs you most), you want to eat when you want, what you want...etcetera...you want to SEE this kid not just feel feet kicking you in the ribs!

Normal feelings. Don't start with the guilt on yourself already, plenty of that later. :P

Hang in there, probably within a couple of weeks if you're getting Braxton-Hicks now. ;) The baby will come when he/she is ready, never fear. Cut yourself a little slack, enjoy being able to take a long shower while you still can, take it a bit easy and just get ready without trying to make labour come on. If you find yourself suddenly running around trying to clean everything you may only be a couple of days away, so watch for that and when it happens try not to use cleanser and bleach and such, stick to vinegar and baking soda and the like.

Answer 8

well dont feel guilty, because anyone who has been pregnant should understand that its the last weeks that are the most difficult. But dont wish or try fo rit to happen. that baby needs to stay in there for as logn as possible. dotn force it. But i understadn as i'm sure many other mothers do as well. Good Luck, dont feel bad though, but it fit was born tonight it would still be a premie. Let nature take its course, that baby will come when ready, if you force it, it coudl cause some major problems. As miserable as you might be, its onyl a few more weeks....hang in there

Answer 9

Everyone feels that way, and no one should think less of you for it. You've been preggers for nearly a year for crying out loud.

The last month is the longest. Just kick back and don't do anything to bring the baby out before he/she is ready. This is the time in the pregnancy when you need to focus less on you and more on the little life you're about to bring into the world. Motherhood is the most selfless, thankless, job you'll ever have. Practice now and it won't be such a shock when your little bundle of joy gets here.

Answer 10

No the baby needs to get to at least 37 weeks to be fine...It is normal to feel this way, you must be miserable and I am sorry but I am a nurse that works for an OB/GYN and you don't want the baby to come any eariler than it should...Good luck and take care....only one more month at the most, think positive!