how can i be like other people???

Question

my friends are very happy with their life but i couldn't do that b'cause my parents are controlling my life. what should i do?

Answer 1

Try to talk with your parents, tell them how you feel, and if your under 18 then your gonna have to get used to it, you dont really have a choice.

Answer 2

Happy is not determined by other people. First, stop comparing yourself and your life to others because for all you know their life is not so wonderful. Second, if you are under the age of eighteen your parents are supposed to "control" you life as the law has determined you are not "competent" to make informed decision.

You need to sit down with your folks and calmy talk about your concerns. Perhaps there are areas they are willing to allow you to make decision and where the consequences are not major nor a safety or legal issue.

Teenagers go through the stage of thinking they are able to be independent. Independence is not just a legal thing. When you have a full time job with benefits from health insurance to paid sick leave and vacation, time; when you pay for your own apartment rental and all the utilities; when you pay for your clothes and entertainment, when you pay for food and gasoline; when you pay for insurance and car payments ....... all of these independently then your parents will look at you and realize you are a responsible and independent adult. But don't be in too big a hurry to become that adult because it is not a bed of roses as the expression goes, and once you step into adulthood you have years go being a responsible adult and cannot turn back into an adolescent whose parents are there to provide money, housing, etc.

Again, trying talking to your parents about how you can show areas of responsibility. Moreover, realize those friends' lives probably are not any different that yours. And, I bet they probably wish their parents would care more, be involved more, and their happiness is only bits and pieces.

Answer 3

Uhhh....

You don't give much information if you are like 35 then I suggest that you quit acting like a whining little teenaged beotch and get a job.

Move out and stop complaining.

If you are a teenager then there's not too much that you can do. Every teenager wants to be in control of their own lives but their parents won't let them. Every teenager knows what is best for them, but they don't.

Do you know why your parents control you?

It's because they were teenagers once and they remember the trouble that teenagers can get into. You also come from a different culture. Don't ask how I know that I just do.

Now turn off that damn computer and finish your friggin' homework...

Oh Sorry...

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Answer 4

well i kinda depends on how old you are. parents controll your life ( or at least they try to ) untill you're like i don't 16??? just a guess. I sometimes feel that my parents are controlling my life but they're really just trying to help. ( even if they get overboard ) you also have rights to make your own decisions sometimes and they should let you do that. Your friends sometimes feel like their parents are controlling their life too. I don't know a single person that doesn't feel their parents are controlling their life sometimes. it's natural! =)

Answer 5

Try being just Your self; and not what everyone else is. In the long run you may be happier for doing so. Your parents may seem to you right now that they are being too bossy. But that is only because they are looking out for your best interest in the way that they know how.

Answer 6

wait till woure older. life is verry long, the older you get the faster the years pass by. it may seem like youre missing out on alot of things now, but trust me... once you hit about 19 or 20, thats when the fun starts. dont do, or try to do anything that will compromise the rest of your life. being trhat you are at a young age, you are at a pivotal point in your life. fight for your freedom, but dont do anything to jepardize what you have. one way of getting more freedom and show maturity, is to take on added responsability. but trust me life is fun, when youre older :)

Answer 7

I am in a very similar situation many years ago. Some of my family members were extremely controlling and I felt like they were just so intrussive and ridiculous at times. I was always wondering and obsessed with how the hell I could be "Happy" the way others seemed to be. I longed for a life at that time that consisted of me having a car like my then-classmates, going to simple, fun places whenever I would like, and getting my family to trust me and others more. It was a slow, yet steady process and I actually had to work on myself before I lost my mind. That is, I spent alot of time with my family.. and I figuered that since they were not goingt o change anytime soon.. that I was going to have to change my helping around the house more and watching t.v. shows with them. I eventually started to look foward to this more and they eventually saw how more helpful I was and granted me more priviliges. I eventually worked hard by studying better, and researched different colleges. I got accepted to a CAL-STATE COLLEGE (which is easier to get into) as well as the dorms (housing for students at the university) and moved out! I told my family that I would speak to them alot on the phine, and visit them on the weekends. It was hard for them at first, but they realized that as long as they are still in my life and I come to visit.. that it is not so bad after all. I had my family dome with me to the campus and have a tour, as well as spend time in that area/city by doing fun things such as going to the movies with them, getting something to eat, etc. I also invested in better friends that did not make me feel bad about not having as much as a social life as others. Real friends try to help you out and make you feel good about yourself and work with your situation- not make fun of you or make you feel bad. You will soon find that once this happens, it does not so much matter if your friends have "more of a social life than you." You make your OWN fun like I did and you willl feel so much more free and happy. :)

Answer 8

Everybody has a diff rent endowment,so no body may be like others.Do not compare yourself with others.Take control of yourself.you have to resolve your problems yourself under the existing conditions.Discuss with your parents and try to be independent everyday gradually such that everyday is better than yesterday.

Answer 9

you can't be like anyone else you can only be the best 'you,' you can be. Your parents may be able to control some aspects of your life but not all...but happiness is only going to come from within...no one should be able to take that from you

Answer 10

Listen to your parents. Look the minute you start making your own money and live in your own house and drive your own car that you bought, then you can make your own rules. In the meantime be happy with your own life. And quit with your whining!