I am jealous and he said I should get over it. He said he is going to talk to who ever he wants to talk to. how does a family work this one out? I cant help but be jealous...
2007-05-14 14:57:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I think he is self absorbed. he ended the relationship and unfortuntely the family relationship should end.
It would make me incomfortable too.
You tell him how you feeland talk it out.
If he won't listen then reevaluate your marriage.
He obviously does not respect you enough to take your feleings into consideration
2007-05-14 15:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Rhiannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you marry someone you marry their history also. It really is too bad. One has to understand what a divorce is all about and what it does to people. Someone gets married and learns to love not only the person but their family as well. Relationships are built and maintained, sometimes over years. Then the marriage isn't working out and divorce comes. Is one supposed to give up ALL of their relationships just because it didn't work out well with one person out of that entire family? It isn't fair. Look at it from his perspective.
One might ask how well do you connect with his family? My guess is that the answer is, you have little or no connection with his family. Therefore, don't compare apples and oranges. The reason he wanted those relationships was because he needed a connection to some family. Don't ask him to give up what took him years to develop. There probably isn't anything else in his life to take the place of these friends.
By-the-way, over the years, these relationships will most likely weaken as new relationships are formed. So just be patient.
2007-05-14 22:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as they are friendly with you then no, you should not be mad. it is a good thing that he is still friendly with them. that means he has strong emotional bonds with people-rather than just being able to walk away. i have a relationship with my x-in-laws. they were family for many years, you can't just walk away from that. it can be difficult dealing with previous relationship stuff and your husband should be more sensitive to your feelings. maybe you need to approach him in a less confrontational way. my husband hears me best when i tell him that i know it is my problem but can he help me? then he feels less pressure and doesn't respond the way your husband did (like he is having a tantrum). ask him to help you and be willing to spend time with them to get to know them. it will be hard to let go of your jealously but once it is gone you will feel so much better. if the x-in-laws are not friendly with you then you have a whole different problem and have every reason to be upset and jealous because then your husband would be allowing them to treat you disrespectfully and then telling you to get over it-that would be wrong. if that is the case then you should consider what type of a relationship you are in and if you are willing to put up with that kind of treatment.
2007-05-15 14:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, hold on a sec there. Just because your husbands, exwife divorced him, don't mean her family disowned him. My parents divorced a long time ago. My dad still gets along with my mothers brothers and sisters, and my mom is like best friends with my dads brothers and their wives. There is one thing that is sort of an unspoken rule. They don't talk about things that happened, (happy or otherwise), while they were married. Especially not infront of the new husband and or wife. You shouldn't be jealous unless your with him and he's reminincing with his ex brother in law about a camping trip that he and his exwife were on together. Now, that ain't proper. But to cut off all contact with ex in-laws, just ain't right. Especially if it was not a nasty divorce to begin with.
Give the ex-inlaws a chance. You might find yourself liking them.
Bear
2007-05-14 22:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by Major_Mtn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you jealous of? I would say that you only have a problem if he is sneaking to talk to the ex's if he is including you in then dont worry, know that you got a good enough man that his ex's would want to still know him.
2007-05-14 22:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In defense of your husband. He may have developed so deep feelings for his ex family.
While me and my ex can not even speak without an attorney present. I get along great with her parents. I occasionally have dinner with them, I go hunting with my father in law. He was more of a father to me, than my own.
Besides, we share 2 things in common...my children, their grandchildren. This may not be your husbands case. But hey...why not?
2007-05-14 22:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a kid involved from the other marriage, if there is then he needs to talk to the other family those are that child's grandparents. Good luck and god bless.
2007-05-14 23:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may well have grown close to them over the years. No reason for him to sever contact with them.
I agree with your husband.
2007-05-14 22:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Atavacron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you do the same thing, tell him yo uran into one of your ex's sisters and brothers and see how he reacts. he might not like it if you do that to him. good luck.
2007-05-14 22:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him to reduce it. say hey you can talk to them but i need more time
2007-05-14 22:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by ShaLaLaLaLaLaMyOhMy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋