Does being a virgin make you a loser?

Question

I'm 20, a guy and still a virgin. Its nothing serious I just have really had the "opportunity" come my way. But I'm very much fine with that. I kind of consider myself greatful actually. But it this soceity I'm a freak. Why? I've seen what sex can do to a person. Look around at are culture. For so much people losing their virginity make them turn into Jeykell and Hyde. I was watching something on TV and saw a bunch of people taking an HIV test and they looked terrified at what their the results might be. But sitting there kind of laughing. I got nothing to worry about. I'm not getting anyone pregnant, no ones getting an abortion because of me and not infected with HIV or Aids. Im not using anyone and I'm being used. If anything looking around sex is a bit of a turn off. So why are people like me considred freaks. Is it fair?

Answer 1

Honey you are far from being a freak. You are one of a kind if there were more young men in this world like you, let me say right now the world would be a far better place to live in. Hold your head high and be proud of yourself not ashamed and dont you worry about labels its better to be a virgin than a hoe any day.

Answer 2

20 and a virgin? Wow, what a loser! LOL

Just kidding!

I think that's cool. You don't find as many virgins anymore, not guys anyway. I didn't lose mine until I was an adult in college 5 years ago, and that was definitely by choice, because the guys were trying pretty hard all through my teen years!

At the same time, make sure you have a healthy outlook on sex. Like if you do have sex, don't assume you'll get a HIV or suddenly be a father. That only happens when you're not careful and responsible, and it sounds like you are responsible. So keep your virginity as long as you want, but don't be afraid if you ever do want to be intimate with someone you feel is worth it. Just be safe.

:)

Answer 3

I agree. I think losing it soon is soooo overrated. I think most ppl regret doing it so soon and not doing it w/the right person. If not doing it makes you feel good, then that's great. You should do it when YOU feel comfy, not when society says. There's no timeline. Get the emotional bond and then the physical stuff is a bonus. Too many guys out there act like they have to put it in anything that fits. I like guys to be gentlemen not get "the score". Some guys are sooo vulgar and plain disrespectful. But not all, I should add, lol. Do what you like. I think it's great. I think the risk of pregnancy or std/hiv should be talked about more often. Thanks for posting! =)

Answer 4

be a virgin is nothing bad...
but the people is not, is not having sex to get pregnant or get HIV or other bugs in the universe. and you can get HIV being virgin too, so don't laugh at others people fear .
sex is a way of communication and can be great or awful and sometimes both at the same time. is not about use or being used, is about pleasure and diversity, is about be in contact with other side of your emotions and your body. so when the time is right, you'll be ready, hopefully with the right person and is going to be great

Answer 5

You are doing the right thing----standing for what you believe in----and dont let no one tell you any different. The time is going to come and it will be the right moment and the right women. But until then just stand firm in your beliefs. Cause if you are a christian you are commanded by the bible to wait until marriage anyway. Sex is a sacred act and should only be shared between two people who truly love each other and not taken lightly.

Answer 6

I respect it, I'm not a virgin, but looking back I wish I was. I gave up my innocence, and I ended up being used, and heart broken alot. I dont' know why society considers people freaks if they haven't had sex. I guess because people put such a big emphasis on it, like it means someone loves you or something. Hello Animals have sex!! it ain't special unless your with the right one.
Wait, meet the right girl, decide you want to marry that girl and there you go. :) and way to go :)

Answer 7

No, it isn't fair, but you don't have to pay attention to it either. I have respect for you because you are walking your own path and are happy with it. Don't worry about labels like "loser", there will always be people who are threatened by what they don't understand. I'm willing to bet that when you do choose to have sex, it'll be on a whole different quality level than what those people experience during casual sex. You have my admiration and respect!

Answer 8

Not a loser of your virginity, nor of your dignity, nor of any respect from people who really matter and know the truths of this world. Not a loser of good moral and internal health. Not a loser (to the power of guilt) of the future happiness you and your spouse will have.

What else is there?

Answer 9

They treat you that way because they don't understand; they may feel ashamed for their promiscuity and the way they manifest it is hostility. You should be proud you have lasted so long, since so many ppl are losing their virginity earlier and earlier. Don't let those people who treat you badly keep you down. Instead seek out people who are like you and won't treat you differently because you are a virgin!

Answer 10

My first boyfriend was 29 and he was a virgin. When we decided to have sex, we weren't in any rush to score or to bragg about what we did. And we didn't have to worry about pregnancy and diseases. We were together for quite a while and even today i consider him the best lover i've ever had. Quality, not quantity. take care.