Why do women after thier parents pass away (7 plus years) are still morning the passing and can't let it go?

Question

My wife will not have sex with me because she says that I do not under stand, because I still have my parents around.

Answer 1

Please advise her or take her to go see a counselor, or therapist. I understand that this is hard, but this is extreme. This is not healthy for her, and your marriage. I really cannot stress enough that this is not a question for Y!A, and that you need to take her to a professional immediately. I wish you both well.

Answer 2

It is something that never goes away. My mother died almost 35 years ago and my wife died 10 years ago and they both died within 24 hrs of each other, just different years. You should show your wife some compassion about this and help her get through this.
Question, why does sex seem to be your biggest problem. Does for better or worse ring a bell. If that's the foundation you built your relationship on then you have no relationship at all.

Answer 3

My question to you is why is it that men can lose a parent and not even phase then just as long as they are gettin that nut. Men like you are so damn selfish. I experienced something simpler. Just wait your turn will come you'll lose someone close to you one and then you'll want someone to be oh so sensitive to you and your feelings but payback is a *****. If you would start acting like a man not one of her children maybe just maybe you would get some. The first thing you need to do is show her you care and once she understands that she will come around but the chances of you even trying that is slim to none because remember its all about you and what YOU haven't been getting. Think about someone other than yourself!

Answer 4

You question is phrased to be very insensitive. Has your wife refused to have sex with you for the entire 7 years, or only during the time close to when she lost her parents?

I think BOTH of you need to see a marriage conselor.

Answer 5

that's taking it a bit to far. are you surwe that's the reason she won't have sex or is she looking for excuses? i will admit, it took me a few weeks to have sex after my mom died. i don't know why exactly. maybe b/c i had to much going on in my head. believe it or not, some people have the feeling that when there parents die, they are watching over them. could it be your wife believes they would be able to see her having sex? i know it sounds completely bizarre but, i've heard of it happening.

Answer 6

It could not be that reason but maybe she is unable to let go of the past and that she still thinks that her parents are still around and that she is doing out of respect for them? I really don't know but I think you need to really talk to her and ask her what is bothering her. Try to be understanding about the whole thing and talk it over. Good luck.

Answer 7

i think she needs to go to some counseling on her own and that then you have a couple of sessions with her....but she needs to have someone to talk to....she misses her parents because there isnt any one for her to turn to, to talk to or to just call and say hi for no reason....and your mother needs to put a bond there maybe if possible and your father also...she misses having parents and seeing you with yours hurts....especially if maybe she gets pregnant thats things you want to share with your mother and be hugged by your father try thinking how you would feel if you are close to your parents how would you feel if you didnt have one or both of them....

Answer 8

Has she refused to have sex for the past 7 years, or just since you've been an insensitive jerk?

Answer 9

She is either having severe depression issues or she is lying to you. Either way a visit to a therapist or marriage counselor is in order. Don't let this continue its not healthy for you, her or the marriage.

Answer 10

I suggest you and her go to counseling, there is an underlying problem here that needs to be resolved.