Why do I post a not travel related question?

Question

Well, I do that for a purpose. Latley (not for the first time) I realize a lot of questions like: where to find a girl friend, where to get a massage and many more questions regarding prostitution or illicit relationships are going on in this section. That's why.

Question: what is wrong withs some guys? Do they not know they live in a Muslim country? Do they just do not care? Do they just value the rules back home but not here?

When a woman (no matter what nationality) do not care about dressed decent, does that mean that men just have to forget where they are coming from and what their values are?

A woman was sunbathing topless at a beach in Dubai. Did men call the police? NO. It was a woman being offended!

I do admit that prostitution is going on in the UAE . But if men would not ask for it, it would not exisist.

Right or wrong?

edit: @male1976:

You are right about 2 things. 1. many not travel related question are asked here but I don't care to much about giving out information about life style etc.
I do not mind being critized at all and I do not think I offended anybody. Only persons doing something they shouldn't would feel "offended".Hope you don't mind that I see things from a woman's view. (smile)

Answer 1

I think that you are correct in not answering things that you are uncomfortable with. Also you are right, why do men come to the travel section to get a date, etc?

Part of the problem is the reputation of the Gulf countries is that of rife prostitution, whether we like it or not. And I have to say the truth that I have only seen more prostitution in Thailand and am shocked at the huge numbers that exist here. In the West there are far fewer prostitutes and they tend to be pretty worn out looking drug-addicted types with the exeception of a few and they are only easy to spot if you are actively looking for them in a bad section of a city. They are not packed in nightclubs and restaurants at home like here. Here they also tend to be young, attractive, Asian and Eastern European ladies. I also agree that if people did not use prosititues they would not exist. That said a government has to be actively involved in protecting the society from this evil.

I am not a Muslim and I am a Westerner. Living here in the UAE, I too was offended that a British tourist decided that it was okay not to wear her bikini top on the beach in Dubai because she couldn't find it. We also have the same problem in my state of Florida in which public beaches do not allow nudism but some European tourists are always flouting the law. Yes, it is disgusting that some tourists come to a country and don't even bother with having any respect for the culture of the country they are visiting. I however think that we have to inform them. A reminder in the form of a brochure could be put in hotels to inform about local customs and laws.

It is also sad when it is Ramadan and I see young women wearing shorts and miniskirts around the city. Many of them aren't tourists, but are ex-pat residents and even some are coming from Muslim countries, like Morocco and Lebanon. I have even seen see-through pants, shirts and skirts in the malls. I don't know what we can do about people that don't have respect for themselves or others. I think this will always be a problem.

Answer 2

Sorry I disagree h.

It may be a disgusting that men are here trolling for hookers but it is a fact of life. If men did not ask for it, then prostitution would not be the oldest profession in the world.

Being a Muslim country has nothing to do with anything. Muslim rules do not necessarily apply to non-Muslims. Any non-Muslim (and I've seen many Muslims too) can go to a bar and down some beers no problem. Eat or smoke during Ramadan? Fine... Because non-Muslims live here doesn't mean they have to live by the Muslim code.

By opening up the country to let in Western businesses, tourists, investment, etc. hand-in-hand you also let in Western values maybe at the expense of the existing values. Want the old values back again? Kick everyone out (along with their money) and pull the old camel out of the garage.

Y!A can't and won't remove these posts because the posts aren't breaking any rules. By removing posts, it would be censorship. Maybe that's part and parcel of what the government's normal procedure, but Yahoo won't do it.

The only way to stamp out prostitution is for the authorities to make the penalties stiff for both the ladies and customers. Imagine if the penalties were similar to drug offenses penalties. Watch how quickly it goes away.

Answer 3

Thank you Ms H for voicing out my sentiments. As a woman and a Filipina (I cited this because on several instances, a “Filipina female friend” is specified), I am offended when some men post questions in UAE travel seeking for women, hinting a desire for illicit relation. Not all women, and certainly not all Filipinas, wishes to be an object of lust for men. The best solution is just to ignore the question. If I were to view their questions without malice, it should have been rightfully posted in the Singles and Dating section in Y/A .

Back to the issue, I believe the flesh trade is a 2-way traffic. If men don’t seek for it, the trade will not exist. Similarly, if there is no woman who will actively engage in the trade then the demand would be less. In social studies, we know that not every woman in the flesh trade are being forced to do so.

In my opinion it has to do with UAE being a Muslim country. We expats, as courtesy, are expected to AT LEAST respect the local culture inasmuch as UAE has given expats the privilege to live and work in UAE despite cultural and religious differences. The emirates’ doesn’t really expect one to abandon his beer-gulping, bar hopping lifestyle or a woman to don the abaya. It’s a matter of compromise. Take Ramadan for instance, smoking and drinking and eating during this time can be done in the confines of your private space. You have the liberty to do as you wish but you don’t have to let the whole world know, right?

Answer 4

No. We probably should not just ask travel-related questions only in this category as it will be boring and mundane plus in reality, not many of us really know alot about travelling and directions in Malaysia. Therefore, I do agree with Bronzedgal that anything to do with this country can be asked here. Conversely, I have to agree with jd_sprinkler aka Myra too. From what I have observed, I believe that many users are actually still minors/underaged or school-going. So, there are some topics that should be left alone in its own respective category. But by all means, fun, witty and thought-provoking questions should always be welcomed.

Answer 5

i know what you mean (h) but... i really dont understand the first part of your question ! i mean you arent the first one who doesnt post a none travel related question many are asking about other subjects like trading , certificates, roads , ways , lifestyle ALL about UAE in general , some questions about survey and some about royal families ... and many many other question that doesn't relate to TRAVEL .

so dear you arent the only one whom doesnt talk about travel BUT the reasons are different i guess... if you know what i mean

And i also want to answer your last question which is : "I do admit that prostitution is going on in the UAE . But if men would not ask for it, it would not exisist.

Right or wrong?"

first of all saying that "prostitution is going on in the UAE" isnt good , even though that you dont mean a direct or undirect insult you still made one, a non purposed one ...

weather its true or not i believe that this question isnt a good one ...

i know you are a person who dosent mind critisism .

have a good day bye

Answer 6

As a family man and one strongly believing in family values I am against prostitution, but as there are men and men, people low on self esteem will always look for something. Let us not forget there are also male prostitutes and same things apply for women. Only thing you can really do is try your best in your own environment, just like your effort here. I know this is not much of a comfort, but in my experience good examples are slow but efficient way.

Answer 7

Right, right, right, and definitely right!

If you don't mind, I disagree with the men demanding prostitution. You don't know a woman's intent. Many women might enjoy doing such acts and earn the money from it. I believe it's both side's problem and neither gets more. If one side is a prostitute, the other side would be the men that were involved with her.

Regards,
Fanano

Answer 8

For better or worse, the internet is going to encourage a common culture. Traditional cultures, framed by modesty (too often an excuse for the subjection of women) will likely be offended by the more liberal (or grossly indecent!) material available on the 'net.

All I can advise is, if it offend you, don't click on it.

Answer 9

Bravo H. I was supposed to raise the same question here. I do not understand why these guys are asking this type of stupid questions under the travel category. I believe the intention of most of the questioners here are seeking advice on travel and visa related issues.

The only thing now we can able to do is report yahoo team to remove these questions. I am trying my best to do this always.

Regards,
Zain

Answer 10

hiya H..i've been following this section lately and you and zain are doing a great job..kudos to both..yea..i believe in respecting the culture and the people who are from the land. i shall be travelling to dubai in a couple of months and primarily i too feel that the land has to be respected for the values it holds.true with a lot of urbanisation and globalisation, we need to stick on to the values which are the grass roots of our culture..