I am a lesbian and mother to a 6 and a half month old little girl. My partner was the one who actually carried our baby but I feel like my connection with her is stronger. I am a stay at home mom and I have to practically beg my partner to help with anything...it's just frustrating. What can I do to make her take part of the responsibility?
2007-05-14 09:21:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
She's obvioulsy not ready for a kid, or a relationship.
You need to either move on, or tell her thats the deal.
you need to find someone to help you, and you can.
2007-05-14 09:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation where my husband works and I am the stay at home mom. It took me awhile and I would get mad when my husband would not help me with the baby. However if you look at it as taking care of the baby is your job now if you stay at home. Your partner goes out and makes the money to provide...and you do the house and baby. I find staying at home a privledge and I do not complain. My husband works hard all day and I would not think to ask him to feed the baby or change the diaper when I come home. Our deal is he helps on the weekends....that is kind of like my time off from work while he gets his time off during the week when he gets off. Hope this makes sense it is kind of hard to explain.
2007-05-14 09:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by bpfashion123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she taken on the role as provider? Some folks only see themselves as a financial provider. Either because they feel they don't have anything else to offer or because they just think its their only duty. Being the provider is very important and stressful and maybe its taking too much out of her?
As a single mother, I'd love to stay at home while someone else brought home the bacon, so I find it very hard to understand how she doesn't have that involvement regardless of her work status. Speaking of which its 5:05! gotta go get the munchkin from daycare!
2007-05-14 10:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people after delivering just don't know how to deal with the fact that they are a parent. It could take her sometime to adjust to having your daughter out into the world instead of being inside of her. It takes different people different amounts of time. You could also sit her down and talk to her and tell her how you feel. It is the only way that things are going to get alittle easier. It is not to say that she doesn't love she may just show it in a different way.
2007-05-14 09:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by Whitney C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sweetie your asking the mistaken questions. The query is why are you settling for him? You absolutely can do higher....and also you absolutely do wish higher. This man just isn't the only for you. that is all. You wish anybody that cannot preserve there palms off of you while you appear exceptional and while your at your lowest. You wish anybody who will praise you so that you wont pass looking for approval and compliments from others. I say depart this man and get with a man who appreciates you and does no longer take you as a right.
2016-09-05 19:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by karcz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking some time for yourself. Do this by leaving your little girl with your partner. Then she has to try to bond with your daughter. This may make her want to participate more often. Even if it is only to go to the store and home. Good luck.
2007-05-14 09:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by Krissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible she is experiencing some form of post-partum depression. This can make a new mom act VERY out of character at times. I would sit down and have a serious talk with her starting out with how she is feeling about things.
2007-05-14 09:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by NewMom28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor baby.
You cannot make her do anything.
See your doctor for a referral to a therapist.
2007-05-14 09:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋