i am an 18 yr old bi-sexual male and my best friend is 16. he is so good looking and likes to hang around with me. i know that he is straight but i want him soooo bad. everytime i see him i just want to kiss him. if i tell him i love him i am afraid that he will stop hanging around with me. What should i do???
2007-05-14 09:16:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
unless you ask him if there ever will be a chance of anything then you have to remain indifferent, can you not ask in a roundabout sort of way to draw comments out, least then you may have an idea...
2007-05-14 09:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by juejua 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is straight, keep him as a friend because you have to weigh up whether or not you could risk losing him over this. I personally believe that everyone has a degree of bisexuality in them, but not everyione chooses to recognise or act upon it. He may see women as the sole source of love and sex in his world, if that is the case you can never be more than friends becuase your sexualities together have no matching factors. If you truly love him in your heart you will sacrifice your own need no matter how strong because when we love someone we want them to be happy, even if it means we cant have a life with them. You can be his friend forever. You can show him love through friendship. One day he may change his mind. But he may not. Look around, there are lots of other people in the world who you will care for, fancy, fall in love with. Just take a step back and think. Good luck :)
2007-05-14 22:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn's Sister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys go thru this in their teens even if they turn out to be gay or not.I understand what you are going thru as ive been there.Its a catch 22 situation,if you tell your friend you fancy him you might loose him and at sametime you dont want that.Its very hard to be with someone you love and not to be able to do anything,and even worse when they start chatting about what girls they fancy.It hurts to be around them yet at the sametime you cant wait to see them.I would advise not to tell him as there is a good chance he might know anyway.So where does that leave you?Still in the same place but ask yourself if you were not in love with him would you still like him as a friend?If yes then you will have to be brave and stick it out and see what happens and and if the answer is no then I would advise to gently let him go.
2007-05-14 09:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him and see his response! If he turns against you then you know he is not a true friend! If he is not gay or bi then all you have to do, if your friendship is to continue, is to assure him that no advances will be made on your part!
Hope it turns out for the best and that you both start having FUN!
Mike
2007-05-14 22:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by mike4nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and I have a crush on someone who was 18 at the time, but now she is 19. I told her how I felt and she was find with it. Her sister told their aunt and their aunt told their parents, and their parents made her stop talking to me. What makes it worse is that we live in the same dorm.
2007-05-14 09:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kim's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not 'incorrect' merely understand that in case you probably did bypass out it would be a splash awkward to your brother so supply him the earnings of the doubt if he looks slightly off approximately it. additionally if issues ended badly it would be a splash undesirable to your brother besides. in certainty perhaps you ought to ask your brother if he'd be happy with it :) lol yet once you're particularly particular choose for it anyhow solid success x
2016-11-28 03:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fella do nothing, at ur age its very hard for most people to know wot they r wen it comes to sex and love. most people wud not even b thinkin bout love more likely just to shag as many people as possible.
plus do u know wot his stand point is concerning gay people?does he know any? wot is he like wen he is around gay men?
u need to ask urself these questions b4 u go there?
and plus i think at the end of the day u know if he is into u the way ur into him, u just have to b honest to urself
good luck m8 i dont envy u
xx
2007-05-14 09:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel. Who knows maybe it'll turn out that he is gay, and can hide it really well. If you don't do it and you come to find out that he was gay the whole time, you will beat yourself up for never trying.
2007-05-14 15:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by havok636 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he know that you are bi? if not, just bring up some topic about it and see how he reacts to it. If his reaction is positive then tell him, otherwise don't, cuz you don't want to lose a friend.
2007-05-14 09:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by gmcoffee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do your best to control your urges.
Remember he is underage and if you try anything even remotely sexual with him you could get into BIG trouble.
2007-05-14 09:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋