What can I say to someone who worries a lot?

Question

Someone here said "To worry is to avoid being happy". Are there any other nice things to say to someone who worry a lot?

Thanks a lot.

Answer 1

I would tell that person to look at the questions others have, look around under diseases, and see what problems those people have. Perhaps in comparison, what ever is worrying you, would be much easier to deal with as opposed to they have. I have seen people who are ill from radiation and chemotherapy, have lost their hair, senior citizens forgotten in elder hostels, homeless sleeping under the vents from clothes dryers in the winter. I have no problems compared to what those people are suffering. I may complain that I have hurt my toes, but at least I am able to walk. I may complain that I have forgotten my sun specs, but at least I am able to see!

Answer 2

Take a moment and count on your right hand the things that worrying have fixed for you and on the left hand the things that it has not, then put both hand together with your palms meeting and thank God or who or whatever you revere for the ability to choose.

Imagine if you had to worry, no choice, just constantly had to fill your mind and heart with worries over things you have very little or no control over. Use your personal freedoms to try and change behaviors that will lead you down a path of wasted life. You deserve to relish and enjoy every moment of your life. Look yourself in the eyes in a mirro and give yourself a big smile....THAT WORRY FACE IS NOT GOING TO FIX A THING.

Don't give your power over to the darkness of this world, there is far to much love and light waiting to embrace you and lead you down a path of enlightenment.

Try some nice meditation music also if you enjoy music. Self-talk will help you as you begin to work on changing this thought pattern. Please don't be discouraged if it doesn't happen over night, nothing really good and long lasting ever does, but hold onto it when it arrives and ride it like a magic carpet on a rainbow.

Best wishes from a stranger who cares....

Answer 3

Some worriers were not comforted when they were growing up. They perceived the world by seeing a key role model worrying. That role model wasn't aware of the child knowing of the role model's worrying. The role model didn't let the child know that role model and the child were okay and not to worry.

Just as children, when they become adults copy some other traits in parents (even though they don't know they will) such as diet, exercise or no exercise, language (proper, poor...), alcohol consumption, mannerisms: worry is another that unfortunately gets transferred because the child didn't learn anything different.

Not acting as a therapist, but as someone who cares, ask if there was someone in the family who was a worrier? See if s/he talks about it. And then ask them if they ever considered speaking with a psychologist about that role model who worried a lot. It may bring some relief. If the worrier says no, at least you planted a seed for later. And you showed you cared.

Answer 4

I would first normalize anxiety, we all have it and it comes up in different ways for different people. People who worry may think they are different, weird or wrong for feeling the way they do. We all have fears like speaking in front of people, social situations, heights, etc.

Second anxiety and worry is not all bad. Fear is what stops us from running out into traffic or a dangerous situation. Anxiety is what makes us pay bills on time and get things done. Worrying and anxiety have some great qualities to it.

finally, anxiety is based on how you handle it. If you are not having panic attacks are able to leave your house and participate in work, socializing with friends and family, then you re a success and managing your anxiety.

your pattern is to worry about worrying too much and this compounds it, be proud of being a worrier, have a sense of humor about being a stress case. Some occupations, people and lifestyles fit type A people well and they can be very successful being themselves.

Answer 5

You have to figure out the causes first. Maybe he/she has a reason which justifies it. Some ppl have a worrying nature and cant help themselves. They need to relax, take up yoga, meditation etc. Counseling helps too. Exercise is the best though.Talking to someone close helps. Sometimes when u write all thats worrying u and read it later, it makes ur worries seem meaningless and trivial. So writing helps, its cathartic, so does talking/sharing.
Worrying affects health negatively. It releases hormones harmful to health and in the long run may create a hormonal imbalance too.

Answer 6

Much of what we worry about is stuff we can actually do something about. If we are worried because we haven't finished something, then we can finish it and stop worrying.

Tell you friend that when they start worrying, to look for a means to resolve what worry they can by doing something about it. This greatly helps the burden of worry. The worries diminish into just the things we can't change.

Answer 7

1.If your buddy worries a lot (and he is not usually to worry) then you could cheer him up with some nice phrases that are posted here.

2.But if he is type of person who worries about everything and most of the time - then he surely needs some help from a therapist.

3.And if he is in a deep depression (if he has experienced a stressful situation) then you certainly need to sit next to him and talk about the his problem that prevents him from being happy.

"If you tell your problem to your friend you ll resolve half of it."

Answer 8

i use to hate bats till my last mosquito bite.
point being worrying has it's place, what's it for? it's the minds smoke detector. but of
course worrying for nothing is like having a
smoke detector soley for the purpose of
testing the battery cause you like hearing
that horrendous high pitch beep when the
thing goes off . . .

it's easy to say not to worry when your saying it to some one else, i'd rather say
don't complicate your life, you have the
choice to rid your self of all worries at
least the one's that if you look close enough, you'll see they exsist in the first
place cause you gave them permission to.
so next time you get one of those letters in
the mail telling you your a prefered coustomer and $1000000000000,000000000000000000000000000000000000000 dollars of credit, just sign on the dotted line, remeber this saying, " In life what you make happen is one thing, what you let happen , is anudda thing " yeh i know i misspelled another,
not 2 worry . . . LOL.

Answer 9

Attempt to tell the person that "it's my worry time, take a break and I will update you when I am finished," or "did you know that doctors have proven it takes more muscles to frown than to smile." However depending on the worrier and the situation sometimes simply solving the problem for that person helps ease some of the burden, especially in older folks.

Answer 10

That depends -- are we simply talking about someone who tends to worry a bit about stuff in general, or someone who has serious anxiety difficulties??? If it's the latter, simple platitudes of any sort won't help... only an attempt on the anxious person's part to figure out the root of his/her anxiety will help.

But... if it's the former, just an empathetic 'yeah, that makes you feel nervous' can help because at least the person knows they are being listened to, and therefore not as alone in their concern. :)

Answer 11

Worry is a waste of time. Ask this person what dilemma has their worrying solved. Some people like to worry. It releases endorphins.