What can I say to someone who worries a lot?

Question

Someone here said "To worry is to avoid being happy". Are there any other nice things to say to someone who worry a lot?

Thanks a lot.

Answer 1

There's no point in telling him not to worry so don't waste your breath there.

Try reverse psychology; say" hey, you're right to be concerned about it"

Answer 2

Avoidance on being happy is but the effect maybe, but does not import meaning and understanding to the underlying causes.

While we may speak truly that to worry establishes fresh cause to more worry. This pattern can be broken.

Worry is an expression, a safety valve that should not be tampered with but by the facility of temperance, patience, and time. One worries because deep within there exists certain, say, engrams that have not switched off. Negation alone does not import on that person's behalf.

One might better to be allowed to worry till he or she no longer needs to worry, in which case the purpose for which the engram was switched on or created will have run its course and has served the purpose for which it was intended to facilitate the evolution of that individual. That is, in time the person will simply grow weary of incessantly being worried and will thereby burn this pattern away themselves.

This is a spiritual circumstance of course -- as all things are --and would be better left to and handled by those whose jobs center in this area or best, allow that person the advantage of something of active and equal intensity and interest to displace the first cause of the worry pattern or engram.

Aside from this, we are yet best of all if we patiently allow it to runs its course, for worry is often a pattern; it is not founded on some one event but rather, anchored on a set of phenomena, in which an active and living, say, template underlies, for which certain events trigger it into action. And it is precise in its composition and display, and one needs to be first balanced then afforded the means to get above it.

This often takes time and having insights into very dynamic things, and finally requires that the person be taught how to place their attention elsewhere in very fulfilling pathways.

Answer 3

Bring their attention to the bad habit by asking questions kindly like: "Have you always worried about things a lot? Where do you think it all started? It must be terrible to always be worried about something? or, There you go again, this is not GOOD for your mental health! or, I've heard that we attract what we fear, maybe you should not think that way."

Get them to look at the behavior rather than focusing on what they are compulsing about. People who express excessive worry "believe" it is necessary as a survival strategy and think they are focusing on others or the "real" dangerous outside world, but are really "self absorbed" and neurotic as well as exhausting and depressing to be around.

Answer 4

Yeah, tell them to wake up and smell the roses. Embrace the good and the bad in life. And except that there may be more bad days then good. But when the good days come you will learn to appreciate them more. And remember that everyday that you wake up with breath in your body is a blessing. And another day to improve your life.

Answer 5

See if you can ask them to explain how worrying about something will benefit them.

The problem is worriers don't seem to want to confront the reasons why they worry. No matter how hard I try to get my mother to stop worrying about everyone else's problems, she never really listens.

I believe worriers actually thrive on it like a mutated addiction.

Worrying accomplishes absolutely nothing.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Don't dwell on the past.... The past is History, Learn from the experience and concentrate on the future.... any regrets you have are character building shows that your living. Maturity comes with overcoming the mistakes and gaining wisdom.

Answer 7

"Let's go to the mall and hang-out for a while, or go to the movies."

Alot of times, it's just a matter of getting someone with alot on their mind out and doing something, because more often than not, it gets their mind off their worries when they begin to realize that there's a whole world right outside their front door.

Answer 8

One thing I learned is that worrying is imagining the worst possible outcome over and over. Tell them that when they catch themselves doing that, try to imagine the best possible outcome, instead.

Answer 9

I agree with that person.
try to have a more positive attitude
towards life that's all
and smile

Answer 10

"Be aware" of the things you can change in life and "beware" of the things that you can't change in life and know the difference. Ask your acquaintance if they like warts.