My mom just will not stop! We have chosen the names we want, but she just won't stop trying to push the names she likes and cornball nicknames on us! We have chosen: Salvatore Joseph for a boy (after his dad and grandpa) or Jocelyn Sage for a girl. I have tried not discussing it with her, but she always brings it up! She doesn't like the names we picked, (we love them, so we are not changing them), and she already has a grandchild named after her. How can I nicely get her to stop it? I don't want to hurt her feelings. Any advice?
2007-05-14 08:02:59 · 22 answers · asked by Lotus 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
I understand not wanting to hurt her feelings, but think of how she's hurting yours too! Explain to her that you appriciate all the input, but that you have settled on those (might I say beautiful names) and that you are firm and will not change the choices to suit her or anyone else.
After all, she had her chance at naming babies when she had her own.
2007-05-14 08:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, great names! Jocelyn has been a favorite of mine for years (from 4th grade up into college). It's still on my top 5 names.
As for your mom, simply do not discuss names with her anymore. Tell her that you appreciate her help and feeback, but you have decided. Try to shrug it off when brings up the topic. When the baby comes, more likely than not, she will not care what the baby is named anymore. She will love the person who has the name. And, I bet you, those names will grow on her once she associates the name with someone special.
Your mom had her time to name her children, and now it's your time. Remember that people just love to voice their opinions, but it ultimately up to you. :)
And just for fun, some tricks that people do with their baby names. 1) They don't tell them what names they picked out until birth (to avoid harsh comments.) This might be something that you could do in the future. Or 2) Make up God awful names to lead people on, and when they find out the real names, they will be glad that you "changed" your mind!
2007-05-14 08:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by January 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her thank you, and I'll think about it. She probably won't stop badgering you about it though. You may even want to just say we are keeping our options open and we are going to decide when the baby comes, that way she'll probably still drop hints but you just say I want to see what the baby looks like and what feels right when I have the baby.
My husband and I have names picked out but right now we are just saying we haven't decided and we can't agree on anything. Then when people say I'll give you my input, we just tell them that this is a decision we want to make together with no outside influence.
So far it's been working, but I'm sure when it comes closer my husbands family who's all italian and very stubborn and want their own way all the time they will start bothering us again.
I do love the names too that you picked out!
2007-05-14 10:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by kbz2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first let me tell you that I love both name you choose. I understand not wanting to hurt feeling but sometimes you have too. When I decide the name of my son my mom and sister keep insisting on other names more "unique" at one point I had to stop them both.
I told them; I feel really bad that you keep criticizing the names me and my husband choose for our baby, we already understood you don't like them, but that's enough, if you can't respect our decision and love our baby with the name we choose, then too bad for you, because we are not changing it.
2007-05-14 08:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by California 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love those names! There is nothing wrong w/ them. Tell your mom she should be glad you didn't name your children some of the celebrity names like: Denim, Scout, Suri, Apple, etc. The names you have chosen have a special meaning to you and their father.
Good luck! :)
2007-05-14 08:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by mcmillae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Today, tomorrow: "That's a nice name too, Mom."
When the baby comes: "Mom, say hello to Salvatore" or "Come in and meet Jocelyn."
2007-05-14 08:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just change the subject, she will never stop. I'm hispanic and my husband is white, and we named our son Ethan Palmer. We picked Ethan, and Palmer is a family name. My son is now 11 mts and my mother still asks why we can't call him a "normal" name like Jacob, or joseph.
2007-05-14 08:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
went thru this same thing with my own mom 2 years ago... I promise once the baby comes she wont even remember that she didnt like the names. she will be so nuts over the baby that the whole name thing is a non-issue. :) gl!
2007-05-14 08:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you've changed your mind, that your naming your child
Cintranella Candelina for a girl
Stynyx Th Brauly for a boy
She'll start finding your original names much more appealing!
2007-05-14 08:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just politely tell her that you appreciate her love and support, but you already have names for your baby that both of you and your husband agree to and that you are not going to change that.
You have to just tell her plain as day, because she will continue to think that she is going to change your mind. You have to tell her that this is your child and that's it.
My sister had a similar problem about homeschooling. Her mother-in-law, appreciated her honesty and did not realize that it was bothering her so much. Now they have a great relationship!!!
Good Luck to you!!!!
2007-05-14 08:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋