what should I do to the woman who has caused my separation,?

Question

I really hate her

Answer 1

Grow up and move on.

Answer 2

Unless you are a real dumb idiot, then you should do nothing. The best thing you can do is get on with your life and move on. If you get on with your life and have other relationships and good times on your own, you'll do more to hurt your ex than anything direct. Anything else would not only be immature, but could easily result in you being jailed or sued for harrassment. Not a good idea.

You are also missing a really big point here. That woman did NOT cause your separation. Your husband/boyfriend did. If he is worth keeping, he would be with you, and not her. Maybe you need to relocate your anger toward the person that really deserves it. You should feel sorry for the woman. Now SHE'S stuck with the loser that let you go!

Answer 3

Check yourself there. Are you perfect? Was your marriage rock solid? Did you two do everything with in your power to build a healthy and happy marriage? Don't just say yes because your angry. Seriously....think about it. Were you a b*tch one to many times? Did you treat your husband in such a way that he felt undervalued? Did you take your marriage for granted? Did you take your husband for granted?

Marriage is hard work, EVERY day. You can't skimp on it. You can't go into therapy at the crumbling end and think that will make it better. It won't.

Cheating is usually a symptom of a greater and by far more painful issue. Cheating is the means for a reason to leave an already unhealthy and broken marriage. I'm not saying that is how it should be, but I'm telling you what it is. There were cracks in your marriage before she showed up.

Answer 4

Girl be smart in which I know that you are
and do not do anything at all. Do not sink into someones level This person destroyed you in some ways but she did not destroyed you completely. You most keep going at it in life and don't let the people do you wrong. But I say sometimes walking away and not doing something helps you be a better person and a lot of people can actually learn that from you.
Look I have a certain people in my life to tell you the truth that I wish I could diminish them but I truly know that that is not the answer so what I do is walk away and avoid people like this.
So girl my advice for you is even though you might be going through a hard time but remember sometimes you have to go through a hard tasks in life for a reason so use it as maybe a positive thing in life. And remember as well that life will rewards those who do good in life. Good luck ok!
And it is ok to hate someone but don't do anything to her unless she do something to the xtream to you but remember that violence is not the answer there are others way of destroying people like this. So much l-o-v-e and Tinkerbell is o-u- t no doubt!

Answer 5

I know how you feel. It has been 4 years since my husband of 37 years left for my youngest sister.
I hated her at first and it is just starting to turn to I feel sorry for her , that she had no more morals or values and she destroyed a family. God will take care of the revenge. I know I sometimes pray he would hurry up and do it .
The best thing I have done is move on, it has been the hardest thing I have done. I am making my self happy and making my life better. I am doing things I never thought I could do. I have friends that would never come around since , he is out of my life. It takes too to make an affair and they both share the blame. I know I put more blame on my sister than I would another woman, there had been several of those in the past too. I just hope and pray God will take his revenge on the two of them and I live to see it.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, this woman is not the cause of your separation. She may have been a part of what led your mate to leave but you can't blame her. Mainly because she did not make you any promises and does not owe you any loyality. Now, I really dislike woman who knowingly prey on other women's men but it is ultimately the man's fault. He is the one who made you promises and the one who owe'd you loyalty. Even though you feel frustrated and anger towards this woman you have to let it go. You have to be the bigger person and start focusing on getting on with your life. Hopefully, without the two timer.

Answer 7

Do nothing to her. Rise above it. She did not cause the seperation, at least she was not the ONLY one to cause it. It takes two, correct? Hold your husband just as much accountable as you do the other woman. They deserve each other. You don't need him. I went thru what you are going thru; my husband (we are divorced now, have been for quite some time) cheated on me with his best friend's wife and got her pregnant. The moment I found out about the cheating, I promptly had him served with divorce paperwork.

Don't hate the woman. Hate does you no good. Just feel sorry for her and for your husband - what they have done will come back to haunt them.

Answer 8

Considering what you see on the news everyday about situations like this ending in some really bad ways I say move on. Also....did she hold a gun to your husbands head and force him to leave you? And shouldn't you feel more betrayed by him than her?....he was the one that vowed to love you and spend his life with you and has broken that vow. Why is everyone always mad at the person your spouse cheated on you with? Not that I would like the person myself but he is the one that betrayed you on the deepest level....she doesn't even know you. Or does she? Do nothing to her....take him for all he's worth in court...that would probably be a big downside for her too. Sorry about your situation, hope you come out of it well and move on to find someone who deserves and cherishes your love more than this jerk.

Answer 9

Somehow, get close and intimate with her. Take all sorts of pictures and post them all over the net and ruin her life like she did to you. Sounds like the women you were cheating with in the first place caused the separation (she told your wife after promising not to?) You should have some dirt on her.

Smear her name and make her recognizable.

Answer 10

Your husband is the one who had a responsibility to you, his wife (though I do personally believe we each have a responsibility to society and I personally believe she is partially responsible). This woman's lack of concern for another woman and another family is just plain sad. The fact that she has such low self esteem that she went with a married man is pathetic. Let it be enough for you that you know what a loser she is.
Now the husband...make him pay through the nose.

Answer 11

Instead of trying to get revenge just let it go...Focus everything on trying to put your marriage back together, instead of waisting your time on someone who has no importance to you...
Show everyone that your the bigger person and do not stoop to her level that will just make you look immature.....

I mean you can do something to her but what will it prove?How will it make you feel better?
Maybe try confronting her face to face and say whatever it is you have to say to her, get everything off your chest and speak with your husband as well. That oughta make you feel a little better getting everything out in the open..
I wish you the best of luck!