My husband and I are separated 1.5 yrs but we have very correct relationship. I moved with my mother and father together with my son (4.5 yrs old). Everytime my husband is free from work (and he works alot) he is with our son, I support and gladly provide that.
This summer, me and my son will move in with another man, that is really supportive, loving, understanding and trusting to both me and my son, and also I love him and my son trusts him a lot.
Since my husband is very bussy man, I thought that he would accept that I take care of our child (we are going to discuss this yet). Knowing him, I think that we could make a good agreement that is in good interest of our son.
However, my parents scared me that he could ask for custody and get it easy because it would be considered that I put our son in "immoral" surrounding (living unmarried with another man).
Is there really something in this?
2007-05-14 04:03:09 · 12 answers · asked by Wintermute 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I realy don't want to involve social workers, layers or divorce procedure and I think my husband hates all this legal "treatments" too. Also I think that he would be hurt more if I ask for divorce ("clean situation" - my parents terminology)
2007-05-14 04:06:25 · update #1
You have nothing to worry about. If this was true over half the mother in the world would lose custody of the children. It's just your parents don't want you living with a man unmarried.
2007-05-18 08:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by LDJ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In some states this could be a problem when it comes to custody. If your not interested in being married to this man any more and want to move on then you need to make it legal if you don't want to jeopardize custody. No matter how laid back your husband is he may not like the fact that another man has entered the picture. It's better to be safe than sorry. Ask your husband for a divorce. You can both file for an uncontested divorce at your courthouse. If he feels he's rights regarding his son will be infringed upon or doesn't want this man influencing your child he does have the right to fight you in court. Judges have been know to give more to a parent who has acted in moral way.
2007-05-14 04:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Orion 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is. I have heard of it several times. It seems a lot lately too. Do you think he would try to get custody from you? He may be perfectly fine with it. I guess you would have to ask him and go from there. It is his son too, after all and when it comes to living with someone your not married to, he has a say, like it or not. If you were marrying him, it would be different, but since you're not, it changes things a bit.
If you have been separated for 1 1/2 years, I'm not sure why he would be hurt by it. He should be expecting it. What does he think you are going to do? Put you life on hold forever?
2007-05-14 04:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the above answers totally.
I recently gained custody of my daughter. Her mother had moved in a man and lived with him for a year. The judge didn't look to highly on that at all. (she had a lot more against her than just that).
There is a co-habitation law in some states. The primary custodian (being you, the mother) can not co-habitate with (live with) another person while in the primary care of the minor child.
Coming from a father's point of view, please put your son first! He is the most important thing in your life! Nothing in the entire world is worth it when it comes to your children. Don't risk it.
2007-05-17 06:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by Brandon S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake...introducing your child to this "New Man". The children are very fragile. He is living away from his father and now you have brought another man in his life, not knowing the fact that if you will even marry this man??
What is wrong with you? Please donot make the foolish move of moving in with this man without getting engaged, possible marriage. The judge willl grill you.
Your ex has been nothing but a good father and you sound like a ignorant mother.
YOUR CHILD COMES FIRST, EVEN BEFORE YOU.
Good Luck.
2007-05-20 10:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by feysunny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not let the court know that you are living with another man, that is never good. If he fights you, You will no doubt get custody of the child as long as you dont give him any way to prove that you are living with another man.
2007-05-20 10:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by cowboy_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There certainly is. Not only would you be living "unmarried with another man", but you are still married. Why not get a divorce before moving in?
2007-05-20 04:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in michigan they can tell you that you can not live unmarried in anouther home of a man with your child. how ever if he works that much then i do not see him geting the child but you never know i am not a lawer. if your husband is understanding then he can say yes it is ok. and why are you going through the friends of the court if you are not devorced?
2007-05-21 01:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simply, why not resolve one relationship before beginning another? I would expect that living with another man, while still married to your son's father, in time....would be very confusing to your son..........not to mention a lack of morals on your part. What kind of lesson would that be teaching your son about relationships?
2007-05-14 04:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You better believe there's something into it. If I was you I would see where the ex stand on doing this. I was threaten this way, until he realized he would actually have to take care of them, if he won. He backed off them.
2007-05-18 13:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋