I am Male of Asian-Hindu origin of 33/34yrs; I would like to propose a girl for an engagement and later to get marry with her. She is within the same cast/religion/race & country.
By profession I am accounting qualified but apparently she is not that well educated and not sure on how she is able to speak or write English, a computer literate and other skills in general for life.
Down the line, will it make the happy match for me & for her, considering she being my wife, to brought-up kids bright and to spend whole life with her in future.
The other option is that, people go to India to get a wife because they are educated. It’s a big question for me to travel, as I don’t have ideas at all for India plus taking into account for time, money, costs and not to lose my job/work.
Dear all I am really very worried, serious & confused on the above matter and seeking your help in a realistic manner, as it’s going to be my fist & last lifetime decision.
I will highly appreciate to you all, for your positive responses and thoughtful answers for making my decision happy.
2007-05-14 03:53:43 · 9 answers · asked by Vips_5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Imagine if you were extremely intelligent, and had a very high IQ (for what that's worth), and your potential mate's level of intelligence barely enabled her to speak or write. Granted, your situation is not this extreme, but I mention it to point out the fact that this would matter, and it would probably be difficult to maintain a relationship in that circumstance. The question would be then - is she really that far off in having the knowledge and abilities necessary to work in a marriage relationship with you.
Her abilities, though not on the same level as yours might cause some degree of problems for you. At the same time, there is a good chance that she does have many skills and abilities that are useful in many other ways. A marriage relationship affords people the opportunity to compliment each others' strengths and weaknesses. She may have a number of strengths that would greatly compliment some of your weaknesses.
The mate you choose will not be as strong in many areas that you are strong and capable in, but will have her own set of abilities. You have to determine whether or not she can make you a better person and whether or not you can help her to be a better person.
2007-05-22 01:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow you have a lot going on bud, well first, if you love her, it shouldn't matter what her/your parents think about the marriage. You sound like a great guy and she sounds like a great girl, and i think you two should be together. it sounds like you and her would be very happy together. But i understand that you would be concerned with time, money and you job. But if she doesn't have as high of an education that you, then you and her can save money to send her to college. You guys could have a small wedding and still have a great time.
2007-05-20 04:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that asking Americans this question is going to get you the response you are seeking. In American culture we believe that first you fall in love and then you marry. You don't sound as if you love this woman. You appear to be marrying as it is a duty of yours. You don't really seem truly happy. I met my husband and we began dating. After 5 years of happy times and laughs and cries, we married. I've cried for him, laughed for him, hurt for him, cared for him, and put him first. In the same sense, I have let him cry for me, laugh with me, hurt for me, care for me, and let him put me first. Until you have both done these things, I don't think you are each others one-and-only. I know there is more to love than that, but I could spend a lifetime writing a novel based on my love with my husband. Good luck to you and I wish the best love for you.
2007-05-20 15:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by LovemyBebe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of growing up to do. It's not the best time for you to get married yet!!
Marriage is a sacred affair. People who get married without thinking usually lead to unhappiness, misreable, murder, behind bars and divorce down the road.
You are still living in the 16th century. You need to get out more and see what this world has to offer. Please don't destroy your and this innocent girl's life by marrying her.
DONOT GET MARRIED UNLESS YOU ARE 100% SURE OF ALL PROS AND CONS.
God Luck.
2007-05-20 04:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by feysunny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you really know this woman well enough to even consider marrying her.
Take your time and don't jump into a marriage until you know each other very well. If you do jump, you probably won't have to worry about a "lifetime" relationship.
2007-05-20 04:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by SCOTT M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 01:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indian wives look after husband and family well.
she may not be gr8 to take out socially,
when kids grow up they will not find their mom too smart.
2007-05-21 18:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could start by practicing better grammer in what ever language she uses.....because english is not your best act.
2007-05-14 03:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you love this woman?
2007-05-20 03:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by suzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋