I have three beautiful children and a beautiful house. I would never cheat on my husband, but I'm wondering if thinking someone else is attractive is a bad thing??!! Again I have no itentions on making a move...I just think the guy is very nice looking.
2007-05-14 03:52:55 · 47 answers · asked by southernbelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wouldnt you be worried if you never found someone else attractive? It is one thing to find other men attractive, it is another thing to act on it. Im sure your husband thinks other women are attractive but doesnt act on it. NO ONE on this site can say they dont find ANYONE ELSE attractive but who they are with. It is natural.
2007-05-14 03:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by indepenmo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hiya. I'm a married mother of two children and I can completely emphasise what you are talking about. Recently I had an enormous 'thing' for a colleague. He was handsome, funny and attentive. I always believed I would never cheat on my husband. However, after my husband and I had a big showdown about something else it all came spilling out. Husband and I had a heart to heart and I made more of an effort with my marriage. Thankfully things are back on track and colleague isn't as appealing as he once was. Its ok to acknowledge the beauty of another human being but if you are feeling particularly lustful towards him there is something not right within your marriage. Look for the beauty in your husband. Admire his great qualities, what ever they may be. Make time and communication for your husband and maybe your co worker wont be as appealing as you first thought.
2007-05-14 04:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Bitzer Maloney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every married woman that has cheated on her husband has said: "I would never cheat on my husband". The fact that you are even asking this question means you are closer to cheating than you think. Step back, you don't want to be one of those women. The fact that you have a crush isn't important, everyone gets those all the time. Just keep moving along and don't even consider anything else.
You are why men don't want to get married...
2007-05-14 04:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I don't necessarily think there is anything wrong in having a crush on someone, I do strongly feel you have to be honest to yourself about the reasons why. Crushes don't just happen. They are things you create within your own mind to full fill a need (or a want). So you have to figure out what this need/want is. Some questions you might want to consider...
1. What do I want?
2. What does having this crush mean to me?
3. If I could look through his eyes, who am I when I am standing before him?
4. What does he stand for/represent for me? Excitement? New beginnings? Youth?
5. What is it I would like more of in my daily life?
6. Who am I trying to convince when I say that I am happy? Myself, my husband, my kids, my environment?
7. What did being happy look like when I was 10 years younger? What does it look like now?
8. Am I married to my best friend and hot lover or just to my husband?
I think it would be a missed chance not to use this wonderful crush you are submerged in, to take a honest and in dept look at yourself, your husband and your relationship. Every experience holds a valuable lesson for us and this crush surely has one for you. It could be telling you that you have to look at yourself and your husband through different eyes! Good luck darling.
2007-05-14 04:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by suki's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isnt cheating. Dont make any moves, dont even go to lunch with thim. All people fantasize or crush now and then but keep it to yourself. remember taking it just a little too far could ruin the stable family of those 3 beautiful children. If anything take a bath,dim the lights and go ahead and fantasize about him but nothing more.
2007-05-14 03:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly now in your heart that your not going to cheat then its not cheating.
I think jennifer aniston and angelina jolie is hot, and I have total crushes on them and my girlfriend knows it. if I had a chance with either of them YES i would definetly cheat.
but meeting them walking down the street isn't gonna happen in my life time.
If you have a crush on someone at work thoughthat would be a little hard. temptation is there and can be touched. So if your asking if your a cheater, and your venting it out in here, there is something there subconciously. So be weary what your thinking. you can say one thing now, but when happens when and if he notices you?
2007-05-14 04:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is hot, he is hot. As long as you do no more than look, then no problem. it just means you are still alive.
A lot of attraction is a chemical thing as well, so over time as you deliberately ignore the chemical signals, your mind will eventually ignore it as well.
p.s. and it is not an emotional affair unless you have formed a friendship with this man that you can not include your husband in.
2007-05-14 03:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not considered cheating. As long as you dont act upon it..Having a crush is a normal healthy thing. Just because your married doesnt mean you have to give up everything in life. Hope this helps.
2007-05-14 06:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds fishy to me
so youre gonna honestly tell yourself this guy is the only good looking person youve seen in all the years youve been married??
you must take people for idiots, the reason youre writing this and justifying yourself is because you are having thoughts of cheating witht his person and you feel bad about it
thinking other people are attractive is normal and completely common , when you cross that threshold from thought to action , you are in trouble
dont play coy , however.....be honest with yourself and life will be much more clear to you
2007-05-14 03:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by todd m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you descibe is not adultry. Only you and God know the intent of your heart. If its simple admiration there is nothing wrong with it. However, If your flirting with him and looking for occasions to be along with him your walking a fine line. Thats when people find themselves saying it just happened it doesnt mean anything. Focus on spicing things up with your husband.
2007-05-14 04:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by Francine L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋