I know a woman who is in her mid '20's about to marry a man in his mid '50's. She says she is deeply in love with him, but I feel because he has a lot of money (which he willingly spends on her) and a big house that she is "dazzled by the lights".
Does anyone out there have any knowledge or experience with this kind of relationship? Have you known one to work or did divorce come quickly?
2007-05-14 03:49:01 · 14 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It will not work. LMAO. It is funny as hell though. If they want to be laughed at 24/7 amongst all other type of age related issues, then hell, tell them to knock themselves out. Some people need to learn the hard way.
2007-05-14 03:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by bettercockster1 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hmmm...I've been married nine wonderful years to a man twenty years my senior.
Can't say there have been too many problems, other than his constant insistence to one-up every vacation idea I've had by saying, "I've been there...X restaurant is great, we could go...." Geez! I want our own memories! Oh, where was I? ha ha
No, seriously. Age isn't an issue. You say that he's well off, most men that age are. Most men also enjoy spoiling their woman, and of course younger men don't have the means. If she truly cares about him, and he for her, then there shouldn't be too many problems. It just a bonus that he has money.
She could be attracted to him because he is stable and would be a good provider.....same thing as a man being attracted to a woman because she would be a good mother.
2007-05-14 11:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i knew a girl who married a guy 20 yrs older than she was. She met him when she was 18. It was fabulous at first she was so crazy for his maturity, he was very sexy, she loved his experiences in life, and he was very good in bed, but then it got old and he wanted to stay at home alot and she wanted to go out. She could really see their differences, and felt like she missed out on her young life and made a mistake. She ended up being very attracted to younger guys when I last saw her. I heard they have been divorced for some time now.
2007-05-14 11:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in my 50,s single and about to become very comfortable financially and you damn strait I'm getting me a young one . I know ill be paying for it but what the hell do i have to lose and she has everything to gain . Young or old age plays no part in divorce . If they get along well then stop being jealous of her new found wealth and wish her all the best
2007-05-14 11:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friend married someone who is about 25 yrs older. I think she married him cause of stability for her son but she says she loves him. She does complain about the fact that all her friends are his friends wifes and they are all 45-50. She's young and they are old, but they are still together. Happy I guess,we don't talk much anymore.
2007-05-14 11:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Marge 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have such a marriage in our family. It almost exactly fits your scenario and the marriage has been successful for three years now.
They come from entirely different backgrounds as well. He is a physician, she was a waitress. They hit it off immediately and dated for a year before marrying. She had a young son as well and he has adjusted beautifully to his new father.
They did have a few rough patches in the beginning because of the differences in background and education but they have learned how to communicate across those differences.
It can work. You should be supportive of her and him. Be a good friend.
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2007-05-15 00:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes it will work as long as she doesn't get caught cheating because she will eventually a woman that age has her needs and there is no way in hell a man that age can keep up with them for long. And god forbid they have children can you imagine the embarrassment for the children when their dad attends school functions and everyone says is that your grandfather.
2007-05-14 11:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by bluemist 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
true love may be present but i think it's quite rare. most prob is becos of e money. i've no experience. but in my opinion, if e guy love e girl so much n will treat e ger v nicely & e girl feels happy by being pampered, e relsationship can last. or else i dont tink so.
2007-05-14 11:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by honeylemonlime 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they provide something for each other, dont worry about it. Perhaps she's a gold digger. Or perhaps she's seeking a father she may feel she's never had. Whatever her reason, it's her life. Leave it alone. He may die of age, before divorce.
2007-05-14 10:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It rarely works...think of it this way...my wife is 41 and is a very erotic sensual person.....if we had the same age spread that would put me at approx 71 years old...c'mon...how is that going to work
2007-05-14 10:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋