I see these people everyday, we've all become good friends. And they are all getting married withhin the next year. It starts this November and runs through late 2008.
I really don't want to attend these weddings. I'm not a big wedding guy to begin with, I don't really have anyone to go with, and I'm not going to know ANYONE at these things besides my co-workers. This is not to mention that I have 2-3 family weddings within the next year as well, and the expense is really going to start to catch up with me.
I can't just make excuses for all of them as they approach, can I? That'd look to sketchy I feel. How do I tell 4 people I interact with everyday that I don't want to attend any of their weddings??
2007-05-14 03:40:32 · 15 answers · asked by Dan R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be honest and tell them you dont like going to weddings. They will survive the trauma.
2007-05-14 04:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Dan,
I would openly and honestly tell them how honored you feel that you were invited to attend their wedding. But then I would follow up by saying that you are not going to be able to attend as (and you really don't want to lie here, or even use a little white lie, as they will usually come back to bite u in the butt later on!) But, I think I would tell them that you are just not financially secure ( I know that this is a poor excuse, but it will tell them that your intentions are favorable)enough to attend so many weddings this year. That would make it easy to segway into all the family weddings that you are expected to attend and also gift! You could maybe invite them out for dinner or cocktails and drinks in celebration of their blessed day! At least this way, Dan, they would know that you are sincere and care enough about them to spend time with them before the "BIG DAY!" Give it a shot,my friend. It is a difficult situation. I am in the same thing similar now. MY friend is getting married and I am a bridesmaid, so henceforth goes the expense of the gown $130.00, shoes $20.00, hair done $20.00, shower gift, and wedding gift. YIKES!!!! Keep me posted on how you make out with this dilimena my friend!
shado1956@yahoo.com. God Bless ! Kimi
2007-05-16 23:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be honest & tell them you already have 2-3 family weddings coming up this next year & that's already more than you can handle (given you're not a big wedding person). & tell them that although they are your friend & that you are flattered at the invite, that you're just not comfortable going as you won't really know too many people. Be sure you at least get them a card or a little something in celebration to the nuptuals. But DON'T go to one & not another. It's all or nothing here. Good luck.
2007-05-14 03:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to make excuses, it would be awfully rude of them to demand to know the circumstances of why you can't make it. You just say, thank you for inviting me but I'm not available that day, and you say the same thing to each, it won't be until the 4th one that they realize you didn't attend any and if questioned, you could add that after missing the first couple you felt it was unfair to attend any others. Of you could be honest and say I'm very sorry but I have so many family weddings/obligations that I cannot possibly accomodate outside invitations at this time but I appreciate the thought of you inviting me. And send a "congratulations card" to each. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-05-14 03:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a bride (this September) I would love your honesty because you not coming would open up a spot for someone that could go, but didn't make the initial guest list for price per head reasons... Just say you already have family obligations for a few weddings and you're, "All wedding'd out!" If they are your good friends, they will understand!! P.S. I have a friend that is getting married and she invited me to 5 showers!!!!!!! So I know your pain!! Good Luck!!
2007-05-14 03:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kay Ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you already have other plans and you are not the "wedding sort of guy".
It won't hurt their feelings... Weddings are so expensive and every guest adds to the $$ of the wedding.
We were trying to keep our Wedding small but felt obligated to invite a few co workers and felt terrible not inviting everybody!
2007-05-14 04:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by shihtzugirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider you. i do no longer think of inviting co-workers to a 14 year olds occasion is optimal. besides the shown fact that it is likewise irrelevant to make a brilliant deal approximately. Thank her for the invitation, yet say you have already got plans that day. you are able to say that's a "kin project".
2017-01-09 20:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by gerdes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are not a social butterfly and appreciate the invite but say that with all the up-coming family weddings you have to decline.
2007-05-14 03:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just politely tell them you have family obligations that prevent you from attending and leave it at that.
You could buy them an inexpensive gift through....
2007-05-14 03:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't - go and sign their guest books and leave a card with a check inside. It doesn't have to be a big check, but you'll regret it if you don't make a showing! You don't have to stay for the reception.
2007-05-14 03:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋