This morning when I dropped my 6 yr old son off at his fathers before work, he took forever to answer the door and then offered me a bottle of water (as if to keep me in the house for a second). When i was pulling out of the driveway i saw a girl crossing the street and getting into a car that was parked behind the house across the street. MIND YOU, IT WAS 6 AM!!
So I do believe that he had company and made them sneak out the side door as i came in the front!! EWE! He claims im crazy and that she wasnt there for him but, i dont get where she could of come from at that hour. He and I have been trying to work out our relationship since March, and I think this should be the last straw. What do you think!
2007-05-14 03:19:00 · 14 answers · asked by Me, myself, & I 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sent me a text msg at 11pm the night before telling me not to bother bringing our son because he tried calling me and i didnt answer, ( I was asleep though), so i went over anyway.
2007-05-14 03:31:19 · update #1
you know the answer to that but are affraid to addmit it... open your eyes! their was a women walking out of his place at 6 in the morning.. do you think they were just having tea? if you guys are trying to work out your relationship and hes doing this you deff. cant trust him... move on and find someone who wont do this to you
2007-05-14 03:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly*Belly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At one of my jobs, during busy season sometimes we started at 6 and worked 10-12 hours a day. We stared early so we wouldn't be at the shop until dark, so I would be leaving for work between 5-5:30 to get there on time. It really could have been a coincidence, or maybe it wasn't. If you are trying to work things out and you want it to work, you have to give him the benefit of the doubt. If you can't, then you may as well move on. If you can't trust him, then it will never work.
I don't know the history so it's hard to say what I would do. With what info I have now, I would give him the benefit of the doubt and keep trying to work it out, but I would definitely be more aware for a while just to make sure.
2007-05-14 10:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are separated from your husband. What do you expect?
Move on with your life. Take care of you right now. You can't MAKE someone want to be with you.........
It is time to change your life and move forward. Start by doing something new that is outside your "comfort zone". Joing a hiking, kayaking, biking club or something else fun in order to meet some new interesting friends. Take up a new hobby. Focus on you.
Your husband needs to figure out what he wants. That may or may not be you. Regardless of his desision, you will be a better and happier person by focusing on a positive, new life, instead of focusing on your old relationship.
Try WWW.MARRIAGEBUILDERS.COM if you want some other ideas....
2007-05-14 10:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dropping your kid off at his dads then safe to assume your not living together. If she was already in the house and he knew you weren't going to see her she could have stayed in the bedroom while he occupied the kid and creep out then. I wouldn't jump to conclusions especially if all you seen was a woman walking to her car at 6:00. She might work at the local newspaper company or something!!! If he has done something similar before, I'd say maybe...but again don't jump to conclusions. Just like you were up and out that early in the morning, she might have been too...don't assume.
2007-05-14 10:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isnt 6 a.m. a fairly normal time for a person to be going to work? I leave every morning between 6 and 6:15
2007-05-14 10:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you asked him about it, and he answered, you either believed him or not. I've left my house before at 6am, it's not that horrible an hour, my 17 year old daughter leaves before 6 on many mornings. I'd say your "evidence" is circumstancial at best, and you'd better have alot more than that before saying that it should be the last straw. Unless you really don't want to work on your relationship anymore.....
2007-05-14 10:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds fishy to me, like he didn't want you to see her. I think he probably did have company. Did he know that you were coming to drop off your child? I would tell him that you know there was a girl that came outside his house and see what he says. Do what you think is best for you, and your child.
2007-05-14 10:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds highly suspicious to me, turn up half an hour earlier with a friend, get your friend to guard the side entrance and catch her leaving, he can't deny it then can he?
2007-05-14 10:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sparkley sounds right.......... try this. Show up a little earlier and stack some empty cans or something outside the side door. Something you'll hear when she leaves. You'll know for sure then.........
2007-05-14 10:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him then stop trying to make it work with him. It doesn't matter if that girl was with him or not, if theres no trust then theres no sense going on.
2007-05-14 10:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋