Spouse claims they are just friends but I am having a hard time believing this. Claims that they have common interests but I know that spouse has been lying about parts of this relationship.
2007-05-14 03:12:00 · 21 answers · asked by J P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you know they are lying about parts--not sure which parts as you didn't elaborate--then you are right to be suspicious of the relationship. Lying about anything related to someone can make people wonder about things even if you are being totally above board.
2007-05-14 03:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this relationship with a person of the opposite sex? Basically, what you're saying is you don't trust your spouse. I don't know if you're being paranoid or not, but I do know that lack of trust is a definite marriage killer.
Having said that, I do not have close relationships with many men outside of my family and my husband--and certainly not to the point that I spend a couple of hours a day talking with them. It sounds like your spouse is looking for something outside the marriage that should be found inside the marriage. I'd highly reccommend you guys find some marriage counseling, because both of you are doing things that could lead you down the road to divorce. Good luck.
2007-05-14 03:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talk to my best friend for that long on some days. My spouse LOVES IT! That's time that I'm not blabbering to him! lol
I have a feeling this isn't the same kind of situation. What has the spouse been lying about? If you think they're cheating, he/she is being pretty open about it. (Since you know about the calls) Do you socialize with this person as well? My best friends husband and I talk often. We're just friends with common interests too. The difference is, well all talk, all four of us. On the phone and in person. I guess if you think something fishy is going on, you just need to investigate more. Go with your gut.
2007-05-14 03:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let me say - I FEEL YOUR PAIN. Secondly, I would confront the issue only after you find out the truth from another source if you can. Then, just stop paying attention to him. I know this is a very hard thing to do, I am in the middle of it right now and I know mine is cheating. I confronted him and now I am just going about my life - doing some things to protect myself and getting myself back together - you will be fine regardless of the result.
My best advice to you is to stop reacting to the crap and just tell him how you feel once and then let it go, focus on you, your kids (if you have any) - Do things for yourself, make friends take a yoga class whatever just don't focus on him, if he sees you are ok on your own maybe he will realize what he may lose - I read a book and I am trying it .. I will hopefully have a good outcome.
2007-05-14 03:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by Interestedinknowing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ain't no husband of mine talking for no 10 minutes on the phone with no woman that I don't know let alone 1-2 hours! I don't know why you'd allow this to happen. By knowing I mean knowing. Not a quick acquaintance not a name and a face either. Apparently you feel that you can't trust your husband or this woman. There's problems in your marriage and he's barking up another tree. You should discuss this with him and tell him to stop talking with her that long and if he says no or gives you a hard time about it then there's more going on than them just being friends. He's being very disrespectful to you too. I'll bet he wouldn't want you talking to no man that long!
2007-05-14 03:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is what are you going to do about it? The problem is if you have an issue with it, it shouldn't be happening. You should be the only person he shares that much intimacy with. It's okay to have friends, but you and he have to make it a lifetime together, you should be that one person he can't want to tell something funny he heard at work today, or if something hurts him, you should be the first person he runs to. If this other person is that....then he's married to them, not you. Not good.
2007-05-14 04:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a big problem for me...honestly talk to your spouse and say how you feel and tell him/her that you are uncomfortable and also tell the friend you dont like all that communication between them and to respect your marriage.
2007-05-14 03:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Meche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would - what do they have to talk about on a daily basis that u and your spouse can't talk about together? I would tell him/her that I'm uncomfortable with it, and they should respect that - marriage is about give and take, it's not just about the wants and needs of one person.
2007-05-14 03:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a reason to be paranoid because he is lying to you. Married couples are supposed to have mutual friends and if he acts secretive then there is more going on. Dont be fooled, put your foot down or walk out.
2007-05-14 03:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not right. You should not talk to anyone on the phone especially of another sex when you are married. There is something going sour in the relationship. You might want to confront him/her. But that does not sound right and something bad is going to happen.
2007-05-14 03:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋