My husband's family got upset with him this weekend because he brought me a new car for mothers day but didn't get his ex-girlfriend, which is the mother of his other children, a gift. He said he didn't feel he should. She is the ex so why should HE have to do anything on mothers day for her besides say "Happy mothers day?"
2007-05-14 02:32:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This issue here is that your husband's children need to learn to recognize Mommy for Mother's Day. If they aren't old enough to buy their mother a gift, it would have been nice if Daddy took them to get her something when he had them for visitation. If they are of age, Daddy could have given them some money to buy a Mother's Day gift.
You should broaden your scope and stop encouraging your husband's bad behavior. The man needs to at least teach his children to honor their mother, especially on Mother's day.
2007-05-14 03:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, a new car? Sounds to me like they are jealous. There is no reason for him to get her anything on mother's day, she is the EX. You are his wife. Depending on how old the kids are, it would be nice if he would help them get her a gift or cards from THEM, but he has no obligation to continue to give her a gift or card for mother's day. Enjoy your new car and don't worry about what they think.
2007-05-14 10:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Aquaria 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is the ex, he is under no obligation to get her anything at all for mothers day. That said though, I always ensure that my children are able to recognize mothers day, birthdays, Christmas and such. Not because I feel like I need to get anything for her, but I always want my children to treat their mother with honor, respect and love. I do not buy her a gift, but the children will and I will even take them shopping to do it.
2007-05-14 09:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That depends on how old the kids are. If they are to young to purchase a gift than he should help them get her something from them not him. Every Mother deserves something for Mother's Day!
2007-05-14 09:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Misty Lane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband doesn't HAVE to buy his ex anything for mothers days but on the same hand step back and look around! How old are the kids he has with the ex. Can they jump in a car and go buy her something? Can they crank up the oven and cook there mom dinner? Are they old enough to have money and take her out to dinner? These are the things you should be looking at! It's not the kids fault that the relationship didn't work out. Would it have been so horrible for your husband to pick the kids up and take them to a store and let them pick out a card and flowers for there mom?
My ex took my 3 kids and let them pick out a card for me from each of my kids. They also made me something at school and gave it to me with the cards.
At Christmas I took my kids to the mall and let them get there dad something AND I let them pick out something for his girlfriend too.
Kids feel bad when they are unable to do something special for mom or dad and they should be able to depend on there parents to help them out. It's taking the kids feelings to heart and making them feel like they did something nice for there mom or dad.
2007-05-14 09:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Flying w/ scissors 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should have gotten her SOMETHING (even if it was a card) as long as the kids are too young to do this on their own. It is the right thing to do.
You guys just need to stop being so involved with his family. They are poisoning your relationship. However, I know you do not like this ex, but you need to put yourself in her shoes.
2007-05-14 16:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The kids should give her a gift. If the kids are too young he should help them get something for her. But that's as far as his obligations go.
2007-05-14 09:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by V 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your husband...I wouldn't get her a gift either....kids or no kids together; she is an ex for a reason. He doesn't owe her anything, just like she doesn't owe him anything. Its his money, he can buy whoever he wants a gift. A free piece of advice from me to you: keep his family out of you guys business! There was an underlying reason why they wanted him to get her an gift, if they like her so much, they should have gotten her a gift! If the kids wanted to get her a gift thats fine, then yeah they should give their mom a gift....but not him!
2007-05-14 09:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You WANT a man who will disrespect and ignore the mother of his children? You can justify this disrespect?
Or is it that you're just so insecure that you can't stand the thought of him doing something for her.
He had PLENTY to give her when he was knocking her up.
**Robin, you sound like a very mature person. I wish everyone had your and your ex's maturity.
2007-05-14 09:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tricky question, but really he should have made sure the kids got her something...cards, little gift...something. Plus she is the mother of his children.
If He has custody of the kids, then that is a different story altogether.
2007-05-14 09:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Travis McGee 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋