i love being married to my wife. but our sex life has dropped off the face of the earth.. why is that.. sure ive gained a few pounds but is my wife no longer attracted to me ??
2007-05-14 02:27:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Happens to the best of us. I feel like you do: there should be MORE unconditional sex! Married people get to comfortable, too tired, too complacent and so many of us are sexually incompatible with one another. Try to work at it and hopefully things will improve. Otherwise, you can do like me and pray for a decreased sex drive. It worked! Now we're almost on the same page. Almost. But the greatest thing about marriage is the love and never having to look for someone or wait for someone to make a good date. You have an eternal date mate! Peace.
2007-05-14 02:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to believe that any wife would have lost attraction for the husband.
If you feel so, i suggest you take matters into your own hands and work the magic again. Cook her a surprise romantic dinner and present her with a nice gift (ie sexy lingerie, a new pair of expensive earrings). Have the candles lighted, beautiful music playing and arometheraphy sticks burning;>
Do the things that you used to do that make her laugh/giggle. Laughter always excites the hormones and hopefully tickle her sex button;>
2007-05-14 02:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Destiny Wan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got married almost a year ago and I totally hear you. Sometimes we're just too busy or tired and by the time we get into bed, we'll look at eachother and say "we should", but we don't want to, so we just go to sleep. I think you have to put some effort into it. Everyone always says that marriage is work. This is just something you have to work at. It'll come back, maybe try to find something different that you're both into. You never know til you try
2007-05-14 03:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children? That is usually the main cause for women's libido to die. Between taking care of them, and everything that goes with them (laundry, shopping, cleaning up after them, running them around town) some women get exhausted. Have you tried helping her?
You really would have to ask her to get to the bottom of the problem though. It could be anything, or it could be nothing. Talk to her. That will help you.
2007-05-14 02:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes tired, or feeling unloved or thinks you don't find her attractive anymore. talk to her, tell her how much you love her and what your feeling. sex does drop off a bit, sounds like your in a bit of a rut, and you need to talk to each other to find ways out of it. it can be done, me and my husband went through it a while back, but know its back on track
2007-05-14 02:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course not. That's an issue with most marriages. But it does not mean that she is not attracted to you anymore.
2007-05-14 02:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it has to do with your weight gain, there could be many reasons for it just talk to her about it and see what she has to say.
2007-05-14 02:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That or if you have kids she may just be tooo freaking tired to put out.
2007-05-14 02:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that happens when you have been with someone for a while.
2007-05-14 02:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by I am woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋