she has 3 kids and married to a man about 25 years older. i actually met her through the mother of my child. we both felt a connection when we met, and now both kinda want each other, in a sexual sense. nothing has happened between us, only chat.
2007-05-14 01:35:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No doubt you are confused when you say mother of your child here & not your wife. Good thing is that nothing happened between you till now. When you both are married why bother about indulging in any illicit sex relationship now & spoiling your married lives. Best is avoiding her. If you say you are not officially married with the mother of your child then better get married to her & be your son get legitimated by your this act.
2007-05-14 01:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't understand what you want to say. You are in a relationship with a woman and have a child through her and now you have met someone else who is married, has 3 kids and both of you want to have an affair with no strings attached. Well hats off to you man. You already have a child without marrying and now you want to have another affair. Does your companion know about it. How can you be so ruthless. Instead of marrying the mother of your child you want to go an have another affair and that too with a married lady whose has three kids already And what if you get one more kid after an affair with her. Will of all of you stay like an one big happy family. What will happen once you get bored of this lady, leave her and find someone else.
2007-05-14 09:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by paradisegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 choices, don't forget if she is married she made a vow of loyalty, honesty and fidelity to her husband.
you refer to your Girlfriend as the mother of you child so maybe it is time for you and the mother of your child to reevaluate your relationship. but anyway
1 you stop right here and you try to make YOUR relationship with the mother of your child work and she do the same with her husband.
2 she divorce and you slip with your girlfriend and then you go ahead with your sexual feeling and all that.
cheating is a bad idea and it usually end up very ugly and if both of you look at other people sexually your relationships with husband/mothe of child are over. and in this case there is no point carry it on as the kids will notice that your are not happy and that is not good for them for ther future relationship with other.
2007-05-14 08:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Maon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best think long and hard about your choice here, because it not only affects u and this woman, but the woman your with and your child. this is all about lust, and lust really doesn't last. its also a selfish act on your part. think of the people u will be hurting, and when its all said and done in a few years the lust will be gone, and all u will be able to see is the choice u made. nothing good can come of it in the long run. stop chatting stop all contact before it gets out of hand. i would rather be known as a man of integrity than a selfish self serving man. in the years to come this other woman may not even be in your life, but your child is your child forever.
2007-05-14 08:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may want to talk with one of your friends that pay child support. Make sure it is somebody that makes approximately the same salary as you do. See how much the judge will "tell" you to pay before you get to pay any of your other bills that you are responsible for.
My advise is when you get that itch, go to the bathroom and scratch it. It cost way too much in every way to have somebody else scratch it for you.
Go home, be a good husband and daddy and behave yourself.
Oh! and before I forget...CHAT?!! What are you friggin 12 years old??
Get off that damn computer and get back to work!!
Good Luck.
2007-05-14 08:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by mamajodieg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From time to time I am sure every couple goes through crushes. The right thing to do, so you don't destroy two families with children is leave it alone. Before you know it, you will be in the middle of a ton of hurt feeling and over priced attorneys.
2007-05-14 08:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any particular reason for wanting sexual favours from the other woman, other than blind lust? Are you sexually dissatisfied with your wife? Think it over and put a full stop on the budding illicit relationship. May good sense prevail with you.
2007-05-14 13:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with her marriage or yours till it reaches to the physical level where both your families get hurt prior to your undesirable feelings which should be put a full stop now before it heats and hurts badly.
2007-05-14 08:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by cool_honeybabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see why you chose the name, you are confused! I'll tell you where your confusion is coming from, you are thinking with the wrong head dummy! You really want to wreck to families? thats what you are about to do! Your child must not mean that much to you either, other wise you would have said my son/daughter. what a fool your mother raised, bet she is gonna be real flippen proud of her boy!
2007-05-14 08:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by gands4ever 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why play with fire.....you're going to get burned and in the process burn a lot of other innocent people along with you.
Be mature and put an end to this now.
2007-05-14 08:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋