i went on my partners history on his computer i found porn which didnt bother me its the fact that some of it was gay and some was live and i think he could talk to some of the girls on there shoud i keep quiet about it or should i confront him?
2007-05-14 01:24:04 · 33 answers · asked by lauren b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do what you think is right - but my gut feeling is he will try and deny it - he needs this to get his kicks for some reason - perhaps he is really gay - in that case - drop him! You'll always be looking over your shoulder now
2007-05-14 01:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Thank you for saying it didn't bother you. I get nuts with these porn questions from women that are all freaked about it. I think you should keep quiet. Lots of times these sites pop up. He might have been looking for one type of porn and gay porn popped up. (anal porn will do that if you catch my drift) The live sites are typically advertisements. If he was talking to girls on there, he'd be paying for it. If you're concerned about that check the credit card statement. I have a feeling it was just pop ups. Try this, clear the history and surf porn with him. Look up all types of porn that might make a gay site come up. Later, go look at your history and you'll probably see the same types of sites. The fact that "some" of it was gay porn and not "all" of it makes me think everything is just fine. Hope this helps, good luck :)
2007-05-14 01:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The live part...I personally would be worried.
If you keep quiet, it will eat you up inside. You can't be scared of somebody you love. Trust in a relationship is what keeps it alive. You lose that, it will die. If you think confronting him directly on what you have found will spark an argument, go about it in a different way.
Mix the subject in a conversation with casual q&a. Hopefully you will get the answers you need that way.
Good Luck
2007-05-14 01:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by mamajodieg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking is one thing touching is another don't get angry ask him if there is anything you can do to excite him rather then him looking at it on the PC if it truly hurts you gently explain you would rather he looked at you or spice it up together lots of people get a buzz from porn that's why there is a lot of it out there for many different reasons does not mean to say he don't love you of think anything different maybe this could spice things up for you both keep an open mind and talk to him
2007-05-14 06:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Black N White Honesty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not let it go!! Don't pretend for his sake that there is nothing wrong here....get to the bottom of it now!!! You set up an appointment with a marriage counselor and get this out in the open and nip it in the bud. Don't let him make any excuses for it. What is going on in his head while he is doing this? I would need to know before it gets out of hand and my marriage was affected to the point that it destroyed it! This is your red flag to step in and see what the hell his problem is. There is something not quite right here.....and if it keeps up it could cause him to be thinking about cheating. this is the way weird things always start..... get him help before it affects your intimacey with him because in time it will. Good luck sweetie.
2007-05-14 02:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump to conclusions, he may have opened up a gay site purely by mistake, it doesn't mean he's gay. Although it's not nice to spy, I think you should keep an eye on this and if it keeps happening, you should really talk to him about it, but rule out anything else first:
Does anyone else have access to the PC? Were there many gay sites or was it just the one?
If you keep quiet about this for too long, you will eventually blurt it out when you are angry, it's best to face this head on and just ask him about it, check you have your facts right first though.
Good luck.
2007-05-14 01:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call me daft, but first time we got internet, my husband tried to find some porno, with success. I took it as a joke and sat down with him. For curiosity or not, we went in gay, lesbians and straight websites. Suggest your partner that you want to have a look at girls naked and after a while go on to men for a laugh see what he says. Dont argue about it. Ask him if he ever fancied a man before or a school friend. Make it fun, but dont take the mickey. If he is gay, he didnt ask for it. Some people find out about it when they are older. Good luck!
2007-05-14 01:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by frclld 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't say confront cos that signals the start of a serious row and him being utterly defensive when in fact you want answers. What I would do is to bring it up on the computer and leave it on, and then when he goes on it he will know you know. Then I would ask him what's he been looking at and is there anything he wants to talk about.
2007-05-14 01:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It appears that perhaps you and your partner really should sit down and have a talk. Apparently SOMETHING made you check the history on the computer...and it's my opinion that the "talk" probably should've occurred before that. Something drove you to do that. You need to talk about that, and, since you found what you found and it does bother you, talk about that to...but don't expect your partner to be very happy about you checking up on him/her.... you definitely have issues if you feel that you need to do that...
2007-05-17 20:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can go threw the history on a computer? oh boy am i in trouble!! j/k not like i am into all the pictures but i dont mind reading a good story. now as far as the gay porn goes, if your into any of those sights they hold nothing back, its all in there! maybe he wasnt watching that but maybe he was. so i guess you are going to have to ask him about it. tell ya what i would do, wait till he is coming home, go to one of his sites and act interested in it. then ask him what he thinks !! that way it isnt such a confrontation, nobody likes getting cornered.
2007-05-14 01:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by gands4ever 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You damn well need to confront him/her about it! if you keep quiet about it, it will drive you mental! you might be shock that he doen't mean any harm but just feeding his/her eyes. Some guys/gurls love watching porn on the internet just for amusement.
So my dear, you will never know the truth if you don't confront him.
Wish you all the best.
Jess xx
2007-05-14 03:05:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋