My Husband had an Affair,he now lives with this Girl,problem is he has been txtn me a lot and has now asked if I phoned him the other night for any other reason than the kids,everyting he says points to getting back together,but I am still furious,have seen the mistakes we have made in our Marrage and would never make them again, do you think he wants to give it another go or is he trying to have his cake and eat it.
I kicked him out,up untill now I never gave it a thought but now am wondering if we should do you think it could ever work out?
2007-05-14 01:20:08 · 12 answers · asked by live life 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like he is having regrets about moving out(maybe he wished that he could continue without you ever finding out about it!).I think you should go with your gut instinct and let him get on with it.The saying about making his bed and lying on it springs to mind! If you really seriously thought that you wanted him back and wanted to make a go of it then i don't think you would be asking us this question.Sorry if i sound harsh!
2007-05-18 01:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you trust him? do you want to be with him? The answer to the first question should effect the outcome of the second.
I think that he has just found out that the grass isn't greener on the other side.
If he's still seeing this other girl, then there is no way that you can ever get back together, it is possible that he is that type of man who will run from one to another depending on which gives him the most attention or panders to his wishes the most.
Whatever you do, think of your relationship with him without the kids in the equasion. How do you get along with him?...don't let him use them to worm his way back in. Your kids can still have a dad without you two being together. So stand your ground and don't get yourself into anything you may regret.
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2007-05-14 01:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that he had an affair on you and now he's trying to have one on her. If this is the reason you kicked him out then you should stick to your guns otherwise why kick him out in the first place?It seems he wants his cake and eat it to. He dosen't have very much respect for either of you's.He's got someone new in his life maybe it's time for you to try someone new before you decide to get back with him for whatever reasons.Good Luck!
2007-05-14 01:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Are you going to be able to forgive him? He has to be will to earn his trust back which will seem like forever to him. Time heals wounds and him living with the girl friend doesn't sound like the best position to be in to ask anything from you right now. Just take your time and if you are meant to work through this, you will. Remember to be civil in front of the kids.
2007-05-14 01:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can never really work out as u want it to, because u know in your heart he chose her over u, and if he did come back it would only mean that things were not working out for him with her. u will be furious, because its human nature to be hurt, when our ego's are damaged. u will never be able to feel the same ever about him, and the betrayal is always going to be there, because u know that he could have made another choice but once they decide to stay and do it, its a done deal and u can't ever go back to the way it was.
2007-05-14 01:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Been same situation than you!! would never take back the git!!! it is hard on our own but if he's done it once he will do it again!! You deserve to have an happy life and guess what there is 1 out there!! Be strong!!
2007-05-14 01:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by pena.baiona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! because he done it once and he will do it again and every time he is out you will be wondering what hes doing - think twice before making a mistake.
2007-05-14 01:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go for it at all!! Even if he wants to get back together seriously, why would you?? He would eventually do the same thing again. I would tell him you made your choice, now live with it!!!
2007-05-14 01:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is testing you to see if he has a chance of you taking him back, you will have to put him straight and tell him that he is just the father of your children and nothing else, just keep in mind the reason why you through him out...
2007-05-17 09:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want him back? Who cares what he wants. He's living with the woman he had an affair with...let him stay there.
2007-05-14 01:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋