when we talk it turns into a arguement i write but he dont read and see what im saying
2007-05-14 01:11:08 · 9 answers · asked by valerie j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
May I suggest reading "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus". Most of the communication problems in marriage come from a basic misunderstanding of the person deep inside your partner.
It has many helpful suggestions.
But don't rule out counseling, either. Most marriages are worth keeping - even a lot of the marriages that ended up in divorce.
2007-05-14 01:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Free To Be Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Valerie, when you lose communicating it's over.
The only way to keep a relationship alive for any reason is to communicate.
This is why some soldiers coming back from Iraq are ending in divorce from their wives.
One Soldier found out his wife has an affair and was pregnant by the another man. He shot her and himself. Murder Suicide and this happen just a few months ago here on Ft. Benning the largest training base in America's Military.
It's sad, but lack of communication destroys a marriage and friendships.
A soldier goes away from his spouse for 1 1/2 years and the end result is not good.
One more thing. Arguments does you and the significant other no good. That is a Taboo in marriage. Never argue, you can disagree respectively, but never argue, it will ruin a marriage.
2007-05-14 08:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When one person has lost interest in another, it is time to let it go. If the love has died, there is no way to get it back. There were simply not enough "right" things going for the relationship. That describes my first marriage. We just stopped communicating, and did our own things, seperate, until one day we woke up and realized we would be happier if we went our seperate ways. It IS scary. But you will make it through. And maybe once you mention the D word, and have the paperwork in your hand, he will realize you are serious. Good Luck. And keep happy.
2007-05-14 08:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without communication you have nothing in a relationship...Apparently soemone is not happy in the marriage any longer and they are trying to find a way out. But thats not how you handle your differences.
Have you thought about counseling or even a mild seperation for a moment?
2007-05-14 08:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u TALK with your sppuse, looking at each other. if u have someone with whom u communicate in chat on internet he is NOT YOUR SPOUSE and is not worth of breaking head over
2007-05-14 08:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a date night or be in public more for your talks where you would be embarrassed if people saw you arguing.
2007-05-14 08:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is spelled spouse not spouce.-
2007-05-14 08:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by bestofyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its either she leaves you or you leave her..... thats whats happening with me now....
2007-05-14 08:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by jomat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
counselling. period. non-religious.
2007-05-14 08:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Nic. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋