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what are you losing? and why are you losing him just because of a job, or lack-thereof?

everyone goes through hard times "for richer or poorer, through good times or bad", etc...lean on each other, and don't give up.

2007-05-13 22:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Are you saying that you feel like you are losing your husband's love? If that is what you are saying, he may just be depressed over the financial problems you're having and he may be feeling like he's failed you by not being able to support you. When people feel bad about themselves, it's a whole lot easier to blame other people for our misfortune than ourselves. It really does make us feel better, even though falsely.

If you love your husband, hand in there (as long as there's not abuse) and try to work things out. Let your husband know that the two of you are in your marriage together and you want to be married to him and work out the issues. This will decide whether or not you and your husband have a strong marriage.

Support and encourage your husband to find a job. If someone wants a job, there's one to be had--I don't care what anyone says. It may not be the job you want or even like, but sometimes adults have to do things they don't really like. There's absolutely nothing wrong with taking a job to put food on the table.

2007-05-14 00:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Susan D 5 · 0 0

I think every ones goes through this at one time or the other in their marriage. You have to sit down, not to fight over it, it doesn't help. You have to think, first, find a way to work. If it's for McDonald's or a Burger King, it's a job. Even at base wage, it's work for now.
I did this going through medical school. No one wants to hire a college student because they're going to leave after awhile so, your on the bottom rung all the time.
I even had three jobs for awhile, I was working twenty hours a day for a time, until we caught up, my wife and I never saw each other for some time, she was going while I was, each separate ways.

You have to find your priorities and pay them first. Your apartment, food, etc. Luxury items can be left off the list. Leave the cable go, the telephone, get a smaller used car, an older one to get around in. There's ways to cut to the minimum until you get caught up.
You both have to agree on what's important in life and then go for it. Hold your head high and hang in there, don't give up. Make you husband see the light, give him encouragement and keep telling him to keep trying, it will get better.

We raised five kids over fifty years that we've been married, we still struggle from time to time but, we hang in there and stay together.

2007-05-13 23:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0 0

usually during rough times people either stick together or fall apart. consider this a test of your marriage. i think your husband may be a bit grumpy because he feels he lost his job as "provider of the house". maybe you didn`t lose his love, just that he`s more focused on getting a new job, thinks about the household`s finances and has a lot on his head so he doesn`t show his love to you like he did in the past. support him as much as you can and hope this is only temporary. good luck on him finding a new job!

2007-05-13 22:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Maddy 3 · 0 0

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2016-12-11 08:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Maybe because of your financial problems your husband dis preoccupied.

It doesn't mean he doesn't love you anymore.....it just means he's trying to get a new job and put your lives back together.

Talk to him....we can just offer advice.

2007-05-14 01:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0 0

My man turns into a caveman when he's feeling stress. He just shuts everything and everyone out. Once he resolves his issue, he's back to his charming self.

Just let him be. Give him his space and let him work it out without your "help". He'll get it under control. Then you'll have your man back.

2007-05-14 00:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0 0

You need to loose him.

2007-05-14 00:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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