I have 8 LITTLE SOLDIERS; I AM 25; Do you think MY WIFE took advantage of me?

Question

I married my wife when I was 16; I have 8 kids who all vary from 1 to 10 years old. My wife and the love of my life past away last year in a car accident. You might find this weird but I am a marketing director with big thick wage packets (I don’t know how I have had 8 kids but I do know how I became a marketing director).

My wife wanted a big family so she kept popping out each year without thinking of any consequences and I just gave her it each time. Do you think I was taken advantage off?

Now I am left with 8 little disasters & a nanny who rips me off for £600 a week but that is fine; I have no time on my hands and no social life as I am always on the run for promotional ads.

Where do you think I will be in the next 10 years and also do I sound like a great catch; if a brought a woman home to my 8 kids “Do you think she will run for the door”. After all “I am 25 with 8 kids now you rarely ever see that ;o)”.

Answer 1

I want to know how you managed to get a extra 2 kids in the 17 hours since your last question.

Answer 2

So you have 8 kids aged 1-10 and your 25 so the first was born when you where 15,every time you and your wife had sex you never gave contraception a thought,now you say your wife is dead and you are left well the nanny is left with the 8 kids,you want to meet another woman and how il she take to your kids,so are you just looking for a mother for them or a partner to have a relationship with and have you thought if you do meet someone else they may want kids so how many would you have then.......

What you should actually be thinking about is how your kids have lost their mum and your work keeps you away from them,how lonely do you think they feel to never have a parent around while they are growing up? They really need you now and you only think of your own needs and making big money and getting a promotion,what is it saying to your kids when they never spend quality time with you and their mum is dead..

No you werent taken advantage of have you heard of condoms? So spend some time with your kids be a dad not a parttime one.......

Answer 3

Man, no offense, but you are incredibly naiv.

Just by getting married in the tender age of 16 (kids should not get married and produce kids, you need to mature and gather life experience before you take on such responsibilities) you have - IMHO - demostrated that you rush into things without a great deal of thinking.

The way you talk about your wife it sounds as if you had nothing to say - how can you wife have taken advantage of you? Did you guys never discuss family plannning or what? If you are really that starry-eyed and have never discussued nor taken care for contraception, - excuse me- but then you haven't deserved any better. Anyway it's pointless now to decide wheather or not anyone has taken advatntagde of you.

Even worse that you admit you have no time for your kids and are not even going to do something about it. Do you honetsly think it's right to pay your way out of your responsibility by hiring a nanny, just to satisy your career? Man, it's your family, it's your kids, it's your resposibility to be here for them!

I can't tell you where you will be in 10 years, but if you are really such a big shot marketing director with a big fat wager, you are certainly intelligent enough to figure it our yourself.

What I assume is that any 25 - 30 year old woman will run as fast as she can. After all, WHY in god's name should a young girl marry a whole clan??? I guess they want to have their own kids and not becoming a full-time housemaid.

Answer 4

You are just as responsible for the 8 spawn.
After the first 2 or 3 or 5 or 6, you could have had YOUR tubes tied.

No sympathy here.

If I were a woman you brought home, I would be gone before we were thru with the introductions.

Did your wife jump in front of a speeding bus? I would have if I were her.

Buy them some guitars and a drum set and make them become another Partridge Family.

PS... try to think of some better FAKE questions in the future please.

Your house must be bursting at the seams, considering you posted that you rented 2 rooms to 14 illegal aliens.
Have THEM watch your little bastards

Answer 5

I trhink that you also need a romance in ur life and to be scared of the children scaring her away is not a good idea...u must choose a woman that likes kids and sex and above all respects u. If she truly likes u she will adapt to the kids cos they are part of u and so my advice is to be seen as a real cool dad..u know taking them to parks and fishing and..be into the kids like most pop stars are these days and ull see it will be catchy...u might even meet a woman when u take the kids out. But I do think that u will meet a special person and i do think ull have sex again and i do think u shuld keep the nanny and keep ur job..cos money pays the bills nothing else will. I think ur doing just fine and please remember woman are nurturers and if a woman truly wants to be with u and enjoy all that good stuff she has to take u as a package deal.,

Answer 6

First of all, sorry about your wife. I can see that at least one of her wishes came true, having a big family. How can you say that she didnt think of the consequences when she thought of having so many babies? She didnt know she would die so young? Workers take for granted the person who does the most for you (wife, girlfriend, mum, grandmum). They go to work, and the wife,... or husband, stays at home doing the house and taking care of kids. Look at you now, you want a free nanny, not a wife nor a girlfriend. Women cant make bbs by themselves, as you must have learnt at school, not long ago. Perhaps you should have thought about getting the snip a long time ago. Its not use regretting now. Your kids need you more now than ever. Why dont you go to work partime or leave it til the youngest is ready for school? They wont be so disastrous.
No offence. Just my opinion. Good luck!!!

Answer 7

I think you are a lucky man to have 8 kids. You also sound like you have a really good career. You must understand that you loved your wife very much and thats why you married her and thats why you ended up having so many babies. Furthermore, you should focus on getting financially secure, and yet at the same time focus on your kids happiness. They should be more important to you now than anything else. As they grow older and settle, you will start to get some of your life back. If anything they may prove to be helpful to your career and future when they are much older, who knows maybe someday, a big family run business or something :) Chill out dude, and just look at the best that has happened till now. Be at the recieving end of all things good and good will surely follow. As for you meeting someone else, you never know whats around the corner, but the only way to attract love is to first be able to love and respect yourself. Best of luck!
One more thing...... your kids need you, and only you can complete the role of the best dad in the world. Work at it...., its gonna be just fine! :)

Answer 8

first of all, sorry to hear about your wife, condolences.
about the 8 kids issue. in my opinion, you two should have thought about it before, to me 8 kids seems like a huge number.
i don`t think your wife took advantage of you, i mean she didnt force you to make babies, it was mutual, as you tell from your story.
all i hope, for your kids and for your future, is that ni the next 10,20,30 etc years you`ll go only up in your career so you can afford to give your kids a good education and fair chances in life.
about 600 pounds for the nanny, i don`t know the prices but she is taking care of 8 kids...since you aren`t home that much the nanny takes care of them.
about you being a catch, no ideea tbh. i wouldn`t date a guy with 8 kids, unless he`s like a uber-rich oil prince or some heir lol, but you are young and i hope you`ll find a nice woman who will love you and your kids and live happy together!


edit :boo now i read your other questions. you are a liar. anyway, i stand by my answer which i wrote when i really trused the fact your question wasn`t fake. but you are a faker.

Answer 9

Gee, I'm confused... 5 days ago, you posted a question about an incident where your wife asked if you thought she looked fat and you said yes and got a lamp chucked at your head... Yet here, 7 hours ago, we're being told that your wife died last year. Hey, did you get remarried in the last couple of hours or what???? Whatever the case, I think in ten years you will still be a pathetic individual, whether you have a wife and 8 kids or not...

Answer 10

Well, two things.

Everybody knows what causes babies. If you didn't want eight, you should have had sex.

600 pounds a week? That sounds like a lot. Then again, the poor woman is handling a lot and is earning every dime (Or shilling or whatever coin you use now).

As far as dating is concerned, I would get snipped so that you can't have another one. Because you would need to find an absolute saint who would take on that many kids.

Answer 11

So none of the child birthing was your fault you were merely a victum of an oversexed woman. Do you know how rediculous that sounds. Also using your brain to think about the consequences would have been to much work I am sure. Now you are even more thought provoking in saying that you cant see how you could attract a woman to your lovely household because of the family you created. You are a piece of work who seems to care only about his narcisstic self. I would first figure out how to take responsibility for your life.