how do i develop forgiveness?i am unable to forget?

Question

wrongs for long time?

Answer 1

I've wondered about this too. I know that for a lot of things, time will take care of it. For other things, it would take a Saint. I don't know any Saints. So I'll be watching the answers you get. Maybe I can learn some thing too.

Answer 2

You can forgive someone who hurts you, but still remember the incident, Forgiveness isn't about forgetting what happened, it;s about getting your life and your thoughts back. When someone wrongs you, ask for help to be able to forgive them and they will no longer control your thoughts or your feelings, Forgiveness is very healing for both parties.

Answer 3

forgiveness is "giving up" of the emotional energy required to not forgive. What is given up may include anger, hate, revenge, even justice. Forgiveness does not mean agreeing, forgetting, permitting, or preventing the same acts that required forgiveness.



Walk with me up the Pyramid Model of Forgiveness. The steps spell out the acrostic REACH. Think of a person who has hurt you and apply the steps to REACH forgiveness. If the wound is traumatic, you might want the support of a friend or counselor as you move up the steps.
1.Recall the Hurt. When we are hurt, we often try to protect ourselves by denying our hurt. We think, often correctly, that if we don't think about it, it won't bother us. But if unforgiveness keeps intruding into your happiness or gnawing ulcers in your gut, consider forgiving. Recall the hurt as objectively as possible. Don't rail against the person who hurt you, waste time wishing for an apology that will never be offered, or dwell on your victimization. Instead, admit that a wrong was done to you and set your sights on its repair.
2. Empathize. Empathy involves seeing things from another person's point of view, feeling that person's feelings, and identifying with the pressures that made the person hurt you. To empathize with
your offender's experience, write a brief letter to yourself as if you were the other person. How would he or she explain the harmful acts?

3. Altruistic gift of forgiveness. Empathy can prepare you for forgiving, but to give that gift of forgiveness, consider yourself. Have you ever harmed or offended a friend, a parent, or a partner who later forgave you? Think about your guilt. Then consider the way you felt when you were forgiven. Most people say, "I felt free. The chains were broken." Forgiveness can unshackle people from their interpersonal guilt. By recalling your own guilt and the gratitude over being forgiven, you can develop the desire to give that gift of freedom to the person who hurt you.
4 Commit to forgive. When you forgive, you can eventually doubt that you have forgiven. When people remember aprevious injury or offense, they often interpret it as evidence that they must not have forgiven. If you make your forgiveness tangible, you are less likely to doubt it later. Tell a friend, partner, or counselor that you have forgiven theperson who hurt you. Write a "certificate of forgiveness," stating that you have, asof today, forgiven.

5 Holding onto forgiveness. When you have doubts about whether you have forgiven, remind yourself of the Pyramid, refer to your certificate of forgiveness, and tell yourself that a painful memory does not disqualify the hard work of forgiveness that you have done. Instead of trying to stop thoughts of unforgiveness, think positively about the forgiveness you have experienced. If you continue to doubt your forgiveness, work back through the Pyramid.

Answer 4

Forgiving is easy. Forgetting isn't.
I forgive wrongs against me fairly easily, but that doesn't mean I'll forget them and let them happen again.
Forgive the wrongs and you'll eventually forget them too. Just because you don't forget them doesn't mean you haven't forgiven them.

Answer 5

there must be someone who you can get his number off ? but if you do start talking to him again , don't get too attatched because you'll only get hurt - keep it as fun ! i'm sure there's LOTS of other great guys :] And as for your best friend , make sure you keep alot of contact and meet up as much as possible, it must hurt more for her than you - just think , youve lost two people she's lost a whole bunch ! Good luck , hope you feel better soon :]

Answer 6

first of all u need to learn forgiving urself then u will be able to forgive others

Answer 7

then you should develop forgetfulness. if you forget, forgiveness doesnt matter

Answer 8

make lots of mistakes it comes naturaly lol