I found out my 12 yr old son is in a relationshIp. I don't know what to do? I don't feel it's appropriate for children to be in a relationship at such a young age. He's only in 6th grade. What have I done wrong? He's the youngest of 6 male cousins and my sisters never had problems w/ their sons getting into a relationship at this young age. Any advice?
2007-05-13 20:07:06 · 25 answers · asked by higurl_808 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I failed to mention that he & his girlfriend got caught making out in school and was reprimanded by a school teacher for inappropriate behavior. They were told that there a younger kids at school & being they are the older students they need to set a good example.
2007-05-15 21:42:40 · update #1
to be honest dating in 6th grade isnt serious at all. they just say "oh this is my boyfriend/girlfriend" and maybe hold hands but its nothing serious at all. its all just part of growing up. he's starting to grow up and notice the opposite sex hes not a baby anymore remember that. but i can clearly remember my "boyfriends" in 6th grade and they were more like your closest guy friend i didnt even kiss a boy until i was 14 so there isnt that much wrong with saying that he has a "girlfriend" hes not planning a wedding or anything but i know how you feel your little boy is growing up and its kind of a scary thought
2007-05-13 20:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sarah♥ 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Many kids want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend at school at a young age because they see the older kids that do the same thing. If he has a bigger brother or sister he is greatly influenced by them. You could tell him that he can have a girlfriend, but if he gets caught again, you will make sure that he doesn't see her again, let alone get into trouble for inappropriate behavior.
Good luck, he sounds like a real problem!
2007-05-21 12:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... a "relationship" for a 12-year-old is completely different from a "relationship" between adults. When I was in middle school, kids "went together"-- this meant they were a "couple" and held hands and such, went to the movies and dances together, and it rarely lasted more than a month.
He sounds perfectly normal and he's discovering girls and socializing with them. Don't make a big deal about it. Set some rules if he wants to "date"-- like, he can't have his "girlfriend" in his room; he can't have her over if you're not home; if he wants to go to the mall or movies with her, you will pick them up and drop them off or whatever. This is really the norm nowadays and nothing to worry about; just have some reasonable boundaries.
2007-05-21 17:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it puppy love then,you have nothing to worry about,it will run its course and die out. How long has it been going on ? You have done nothing wrong your son just discover the opposite sex,early then most boys. Let him have his romance for now. Is the girl older or younger then him ? If she's older maybe she's influencing him. Sometime older woman at his age seem exciting to him. Did you tell him about the birds and the bees yet ? Maybe, you should, just to be on the safe side.
2007-05-18 07:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by TAMPABAYLADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do right now is make a big deal out of it. I would be concerned to know how far the "relationship" has gone. Not to scare you but, if you read a lot of the questions on this site, you will know that he is not too young to become a daddy.
That being said, stay active with his life and love him. If you have taught him to respect women, he should be fine and you won't need to worry too much. My 16 year old daughter has had several boyfriends but, thankfully, is still a virgin.
2007-05-14 05:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite his girlfriend and her parents over or out somewhere to meet like a pizza joint or to the mall snack area, something kinda kiddy and family oriented. This will give you the upper-ahnd of knowing exactly where he's at in a relationship, and settle any suspiscions. If the parents refuse to meet then possibly lay your foot down like you would in any other situation where you want to meet a friends parents. Chances are hes still afraid to hold hands or dare even kiss. Dating in 6th grade if I remember correctly meant someone liked me and i liked them nothing else. It's more than likely a social status thing between class mates, and next thing you know, you'll turn around and there's another "girlfriend".
2007-05-14 04:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by tiffanie_1984 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first realy boyfriend at 11 and my real i mean he's was the only one of my boyfriends i let kiss me. Looking back i don't regret it i've only had 2 boyfriends and i'm 21, but i don't want the same thing for my little sister. I advised her to wait, she didn't and now i'm sure u can't count all the guys she's kissed on one hand and she's only 15. But i can't blame her, society shows us movies of couples showing affection. It's a big thing in schools everyone is apart couple and everyone wants to be apart of a couple. I think the only thing u can do it explain him to that he's 12 and he shouldn't be in a hurry to grow up. Explain to him that holding hands and a kiss on a cheek are ways to show affection too.
2007-05-22 01:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by Pumkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What concerns me is the degree of the relationship. As long as sex isn't involved it is healthy. Do not blame yourself because you have done nothing wrong.All kids go through this stage in life, some earlier than some. Just sit him down and get to the point. Ask him comforting questions and assure him if he ever needs advice you are always there for him. Remind him that abstinace until marriage is the best.
2007-05-14 03:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jamaican Advise 1 · 7⤊ 0⤋
hm. kids will be kids. but with him being only 12 and caught making out (or heavily kissing a younger girl) is what worries me. I can understand boyfriend girl status (holding hands, smiling at each other etc>) i myself have a younger 12 year old girl sister and she tells me who she likes and who likes who and who is with who. Yet never have i heard, making out or kissing in a 12year olds relationship. He is probably just curious. Show him a movie that involves a kissing scene and say thats what baby comes from. You might just scare him so he will never want to kiss a girl again. Dont be to hard on yourself. Its natural
2007-05-19 21:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all hes a kid and dont worry about him having a relationship..u should worry if hes having sex or having too many girlfriends! U were a kid once and u know getting to know people is fun so just let him be and let him have fun just like u did!
2007-05-19 01:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋